Who has a crazy sister in law or brother in law?

[budbeerlady]

My entire family of in-laws is pretty wacky.

Don't get me started on how my BIL got his future FIL to "pee in a cup" for him in order to get a job. You really want someone you have to do this for to marry your 19 year old daughter? Ooooo-kay.

Now that says family!!!!!

My sister in law is off and a bit (Okay a horrid awful) control freak. We tend to see them only at major holidays, at her house. at her time, yada, yada. We tend to be stuck eating in her garage when its cold out. I freeze my bottom off and the whole thing is irritating. Easter, snow on the ground, eating in the garage. Mothers Day, eating in the garage. We go for Dh's Mom and stay as short as possible. Apparently we are not good enough for the house....

 

[ZPT1022]

She turns around, looks at me and very seriously tells me: "Sandra, I think people like you do not have the right to get married.".

OH my goodness. What the heck could she possibly even mean by that?? You seem perfectly normal to me, more so than her from what you've said

 

[MinnieMe87]

My brother's wife is crazy. I don't even know where to start!

 

[okeydokey]

Now that says family!!!!!

My sister in law is off and a bit (Okay a horrid awful) control freak. We tend to see them only at major holidays, at her house. at her time, yada, yada. We tend to be stuck eating in her garage when its cold out. I freeze my bottom off and the whole thing is irritating. Easter, snow on the ground, eating in the garage. Mothers Day, eating in the garage. We go for Dh's Mom and stay as short as possible. Apparently we are not good enough for the house....

OMG. Does everyone eat in the garage, or just some of you? Does she have a phobia of getting her house dirty? That is just strange.

 

[va32h]

My SIL is crazy cheapskate. Now I am pretty cheap, but she goes too far. If her kids don't finish their milk at breakfast, the glass goes back in the fridge and is served to them at every meal until it's gone. Even if there's an inch of milk left. Pretty much any uneaten food or drink gets saved and I've even seen her cut around the bite marks of sandwiches so they can be served to a different person.

On the rare occasions that we have to eat at their house, we either eat first or "just happen" to bring tons of food because the menu is usually something like one box of macaroni and cheese for ten people, supplemented by whatever her kids didn't finish from the last four meals.

 

[ZephyrHawk]

Yes, but we barely ever see my sisters-in-law, so it's okay.

 

[Missy1961]

I always read these threads to make sure I'm not mentioned here. So far, I'm not.

 

[budbeerlady]

OMG. Does everyone eat in the garage, or just some of you? Does she have a phobia of getting her house dirty? That is just strange.

I think besides strange she does have a thing about her house. It is always spotless and is very non-personal. They have it decorated often by a friend of her mothers, so its a house, not a home in my mind.

They pull in the picnic table and we all eat in the garage. (They do move the car out for us.) You really should see it, huge nice house, all of us eating in the garage with his deer heads. (I will have to take some pics this Easter of us in our winter coats eating in the garage. His deer heads arent allowed in the house either, I see where we all rank .)

And poor Dh always ends up hungry. He is polite and waits untill the girls have gotten food. He usually ends up toward the end and the meat is all gone. If 10 adults are coming, they have 10 brats, or 8 and 2 hot dogs. So when wierd brother in law (I havent even touched on him yet, ughhh!) takes 2 off the grill Dh has nothing to eat but chips and salad. The kids have nuggets microwaved and brought out for them since there are only 2 kids. Starving, freezing, good times!

 

[barkley]

mine is'nt crazy but definatly marches to a different drummer.

bil and now ex sil chose to live very isolated from family and people in general (very small circle of fiends). they homeschooled their kids which i have no problem with but those kids were so socialy isolated that when the parents divorced and it got ugly over custody the court ordered psych evaluation resulted in a court order i'de never seen in many years in social services-the court and social services forbade homeschooling the kids AND ordered that oversight be given to transition the kids into a more traditional school setting. even though the kids instructionaly tested out as much as 3 or 4 years higher than their age wise peers, their social skills were 5 or 6 years behind their chrono ages we're talking a 6th grader who socialy was at the level of kindergarten and a 1st or 2nd grader that did'nt know how to do other than highly directed or solely independant play

the real crazy thing for me was when we got a phone message from him a year or so ago (hear from him maybe once every year or two-he's seen our kids for no more than 3 hours at most on less than a half a dozen occasions-i've seen him only maybe twice more in 17 years of marriage) that we later found out (thru another relative) was to discuss HIS decision that our daughter HAD to move in with him when she finishes 8th grade so she can attend a school that HE feels is appropriate
yeah, i'm gonna send my kid to live with you and your almost 30 year old dd whose never managed to adapt socialy to the extent that she joined a cultish organization at one point and now lives an exteemly isolated existence truly believing (with her father's encouragement) that she does'nt need to go out because her true 'soul mate' will be able to find her no matter where she is

did'nt return the phone call, have'nt heard from him since (but then again-dd won't finish 8th grade till the end of next year ).

 

[manning]

There are several in our family and we just file them under

"That's entertainment"

We don't get involved but they are sure interesting to observe.

 

[ericamanda01]

HIS decision that our daughter HAD to move in with him when she finishes 8th grade so she can attend a school that HE feels is appropriate

There are no words! But what a nut case!
I feel lucky that my SIL is just rude!

 

[Mischa]

I'm an only child (thank God! ) But poor DH has 2 brothers. I can't really say his older brother is "crazy" since I don't know him very well. But his wife said "oh no - not with him!" When I asked her how come they never had kids (for those of you who don't like that question...she asked me first!)

My DH's other brother has been married 3 times. Now mind you - he's nutty (I call him a con-man since he's always trying to get something for nothing from EVERYBODY) and sometimes he puts on such a good act he gets it. But not from us! We used to call one of his wives a "try-sexual" (cause she'd try anything!)

I'm so grateful DH is NOT close to his family! Talk about dysfunctional!

 

[Mickeys.friend]

My husbands entire immediate family is cracked.....My MIL let her youngest daughter put her so far in debt that she had no other choice but too sell and move. My hubby and I tried to move her into a nice townhouse near us, but instead she insisted on moving into her realator's friend's bacement apartment! Now she lives below these crazy non-English speaking (or understanding!) couple that tells her to put *used* toilet paper in the trash instead of flushing it down the toilet!

My FIL and MIL are divorced because my FIL wanted to marry his brothers wife.....so they did! Now my poor husband's aunt is his stepmother....He did not like her much as an aunt...no he really can't stand her. Actually no one can! Not even my FIL...who calls me daily crying to help him out of this mess....yeah right!

My husband's other sister(not the one mentioned earlier) married some bumpkin from off the mountain (finally...after having 3 kids together!) and live in complete squalor....When last I visited I saw....Dog hair everywhere, everything filthy..kids running around half dressed .. one of them wearing a onsie that was 2 small to even snap between the legs (I am talking a 3 year old potty trained child!!). It was awful! And, we were there for thir baby's birthday. My BIL claimes to have been "electrocuted" on the job at WalMart....although this has not been proven. So, his co-workers take up a collection for the family while he is out of work.....What do they do with it you ask??? Not buy formula or pay bills or anything smart like that....They bought a 64 inch flat screen plasma TV!!! It was like $2000!!! So there it sits propped up on a broken end table in the middle of a pig sty!!!

So there's my crazy inlaws for you...sometimes I think it's amazing my husband ever survived!

LIZ

 

[Disney Doll]

My sister-in-law propositioned my husband about 13 yrs ago, shortly after she married his brother. My husband was a single man then and turned her down flat, but he never told his brother. He said he struggled with it but decided not to tell him b/c his brother seemed genuinely happy, but he did tell his younger brother and mother, which vindicates him if it ever comes up.

So, the SIL had a huge crush on him back then. He's a good looking man and a physician, so I can understand that. But she's psycho, so she believes that she had a choice between the two brothers back then -- something she pridefully shared with me when I was my husband's girlfriend. I already knew the real story, so I laughed it off, figuring her for an insecure woman who needed the fantasy. I was right... but it's worse than that. Fast forward to our wedding...

She made it her mission to make me feel bad at our wedding and to ciphon some attention for herself. She was a bride's worst nightmare. She got in my husband's face, telling him that I purposely ignored her (Not true. I took her for a massage with my bridesmaids the day prior and her and her children were seated at the head table.) She was so angry that she was spitting saliva -- in front of her husband, children, and about 8 guests. I immediately went over and gave her a hug, to diffuse the situation. We were married 12-31 and she's still spewing the same false, pathetic claims.

She sends long, nasty e-mails, accusing me of stuff from months ago that I haven't done, and has straight out lied about me to other family members. She even called my husband to tell him she hoped he had a good prenuptial agreement! She will do anything it seems to take me down, even a notch. She switches between passive-aggressive and direct assault. I have had to block her from sending me e-mails, so she has nothing to report.

We suspect she is mixing antidepressants. She's always been a little off, but she was never cruel, not until the wedding. We don't even live in the same state, yet she accuses me of being somehow responsible for her unhappiness at any given time. It's upsetting b/c we love her kids and want to associate with them and her husband, but we cannot, not until I worship her, I guess. We tend to think her family is held hostage and also dysfunctional as a result of her toxicity, but it's not our business.

She's my husband's "sister-in-law" -- NOT EVEN HIS REAL SISTER, but has some sort of Freudian control trip goiing. It's sick.

So, yes, I've got me a crazy SIL. I welcome any advice or identification. Right now, I am praying for her and avoiding all contact, until something lightens up. I would really like to have punched her by now, handling it the old-fashioned way. I would not do that, but it feels really good to say!

Thanks for letting me vent.

KA

Having had a psycho SIL for 17 years now, I will tell you that the best way to handle them is to not react to anything they say or do.

It is manipulative behavior. They are looking to get a "rise" out of you. The best way to handle them is to not give them a "rise".

With my crazy SIL, I keep my tone calm and my responses indifferent. I don't give her one ounce more information than she asks for, I don't volunteer anything. If she starts getting all whacked out, I simply say "I have no desire to continue this conversation as you are being inappropriate" and I hang up. Luckily she lives 1500 miles away.

When she calls back the next time, I pretend like nothing has happened, and we move on until the next time she acts up. Then we do the dance all over.

I will say that it does seem like the time span between her misbehaviors is getting longer. I believe she is getting the idea that I will not be tolerating any bad behavior.

You are a young bride, so this family rift upsets you. Don't let it, or you will get sucked into it like everyone else has. As long as you have the support of your DH, you'll be fine.

Calm and in control is the way to go.

 

[Abregok]

Having had a psycho SIL for 17 years now, I will tell you that the best way to handle them is to not react to anything they say or do.

It is manipulative behavior. They are looking to get a "rise" out of you. The best way to handle them is to not give them a "rise".

With my crazy SIL, I keep my tone calm and my responses indifferent. I don't give her one ounce more information than she asks for, I don't volunteer anything. If she starts getting all whacked out, I simply say "I have no desire to continue this conversation as you are being inappropriate" and I hang up. Luckily she lives 1500 miles away.

When she calls back the next time, I pretend like nothing has happened, and we move on until the next time she acts up. Then we do the dance all over.

I will say that it does seem like the time span between her misbehaviors is getting longer. I believe she is getting the idea that I will not be tolerating any bad behavior.

You are a young bride, so this family rift upsets you. Don't let it, or you will get sucked into it like everyone else has. As long as you have the support of your DH, you'll be fine.

Calm and in control is the way to go.

Disney Doll,
Thanks so much for your advice, but it may be too late. The crazy loon had her husband e-mail me after I had blocked her e-mail address. In his e-mail, he insisted that this big lie she created at the wedding was true, saying he saw it, etc., when we know for a fact it isn't. I got mad and sent him an e-mail back telling him that I didn't believe it and to please not mention it to me again. I also told him that it was hurtful, to have him support something so negative about our wedding, when we just wanted to have our day and remember it in a positive way. Now, he is not returning any of my husband's calls, most likely because he's mad but also because we have real proof that they're lying or she's delusional. If he calls back, my husband will tell him the truth. I'm worried because they've never had a conflict with each other before. Now this witch has made her lie into a family barrier. She sent an e-mail to my husband saying that I had alienated myself from their entire family, including the kids, so don't bother sending gifts because they will be returned to sender. So mean and ugly. I don't know what to do. I can ignore her craziness from here, per your advice, but I am afraid things are too messed up now.

You were right about the "rise" factor. She got her husband to write me, which got quite a rise out of me. Now she can blame me for something, right? I get it now. Boy do I want to bounce her head. Rrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr....rrrrrrrr!!

KA

 

[Abregok]

My SIl is not as crazy as some have posted on here but she is a piece of work. A little background, DB and her have one son, she told DB if he didn't marry her by such and such date, she would leave (he should have told her to go). She planned a huge wedding with her mom's help and still haven't paid for everything after 9 months even the money my dad gave for the bar tab. DB works in the kitchen of a local restaurant and she is a waitress and honestly nothing wrong with that.

But neither of them drive and they get food stamps. All their money is spent on poker machines in local clubs. This past Christmas, SIL got falling down drunk, broke one of stepmom's snowglobes (which was one of her last gifts from her dad before he passed), insisted she didn't do it and proceeded to curse our stepmom when she just wanted to be left alone. To this day, SIL thinks she has no reason to apologize.

In the last 6 months, I have tried and hopefully succeeded in talking her out of buying 2 restaurants and a pet monkey. Yes, a pet monkey. Right now, the current career choice is she wants to be a model. Someone give me strength.

Sorry so long but did that just feel good.

LOL... that is some funny stuff.
I have learned from my SIL that manic people like that don't apologize. They are too self-centered to contemplate the idea. With my SIL, I'm convinced it's a pathology of some sorts.
Good luck!

 

[MemoryMakers2669]

OH, do I ever! My SIL! All of them actually..LOL! The one is the worst though. When we first met her, she total ignored us, acted like we weren't even in her house. I tried asking her a question or two, she just kept on talking to my brother like I wasn't even there. I tried complimenting her on her kids (who weren't there, but I was looking at pictures), she ignored me.

My sister and I backed out of their driveway, waving and saying *** was that?!

Then, second time we see her, she is pregnant, and LOVELY! She was all over us, so welcoming, etc. OK, so she was a little shy the first time we met her.

She miscarries! Goes back to the person we first met. Acts totally oblivious that we exist.

Gets pregnant again, same thing, lovely woman!

She miscarries again! This time, she takes pictures of the baby....at 14 weeks....all 8oz of it. Didn't even know the sex of the baby. Tiny little black thing, with a head and teeny body (sorry this is graphic, but just giving you the visual). She sends these pictures out in CHRISTMAS cards folks! I open up the MICKEY MOUSE Card and out drops this picture, I GASPED in horror, it was just not pretty, plain and simply shocking!

Next time we see her, same thing, acts like we don't exist! My brother at this point also acts like we don't exist. We arrive and are treated like we are total strangers. Very odd. As the week goes on (we are at grandparents, they live next door), if she wasn't home, our brother talked to us, talked about how hard she was to be with, etc. When she was home, we were dirt.

I won't go on, but this woman is a serious nut case. She never had a baby with my brother, thank God. Her other three kids from her first marriage were taken from her. My brothers child, from his first, was also taken from him.

 

[famofsix]

I have a crazy sister in law. There are so many stories but here's one that gives you a little insight...My DB and CrazySIL got in a fight over nothing one night and my DB got fed up and went to sleep in his son's room who was off at college. CrazySIL comes in every 15 minutes berating DB that he has no right to sleep in the son's bed (who was off at college ) She continues this crazy rampage and wants DB to call his son and ask Permission to sleep in the bed? DB says I paid for the bed and will sleep in it if I want! CrazySIL still berates him every 15 minutes until DB decides the couch is quieter

 

[ilovejack02]

My SIL is afraid of condiments. My brother has to hide the ketchup and mayo if he wants to keep it in the fridge. If she sees it she starts hyperventilating. Forget about even touching the bottle. If you ask her to pass the ketchup she won't do it.

I really really want to go to the store, buy all the condiments and stock up their fridge. Id ask that crazy to pass the ketchup everytime i saw her! Good times.

 

[Merriwind]

I thought I did, but after reading this thread, I've reconsidered. They're pretty normal.