Who has a crazy sister in law or brother in law?

[oxfordcircus]

My in-laws all have narcissistic personality disorder. Does that count?

 

[Grumpy's Gal]

I see you asked if we had a crazy sil OR bil......."OR"........how about "AND"......

I have both. They are married to each other. If I start in now, I will be up all night and still typing at 6:30 am.........so I better not even go there..........

 

[oxfordcircus]

I want to know the bleeped out words!!

Clearly my mind is depraved cause I was wondering the same thing.

 

[kejoda]

JunieJay please do us all a favor and have the sil over for dinner soon. And don't forget to move the mirror!!!

 

[SleepyMom]

Yupper doodles, I'm afraid I do.

They are mostly on DH's side, but I do have an interesting twist on my side. My two step-brothers married a mother/daughter duo. So that makes for some weird SIL's The daughter and my DSB have divorced now, but it still very interesting because her mother is still my SIL, so no matter how much I dislike her I have to put up with her. As a matter of fact I was just told tonight she is getting re-married in June. Darn, now there's a wedding I'll have to miss

 

[arminnie]

~She had elective kneee surgery about a month before my wedding and walked down the aisle on crutches with little matching shoes on the tips. The color of the little shoe crutch tips matched her bridesmaid gown.

Surely you have a picture of this you can share.

 

[ZPT1022]

Oh yes, my SIL is a piece of work. Not quite as bad as what some of you have posted but she certainly does some things that we consider odd.

A recent one:

When she got married we weren't allowed to say "honeymoon" because that would indicate that all they were doing was having sex constantly. DH and I invented our own "PC" term for it. I think we wound up calling it post wedding tropical relaxation or something equally obnoxious.

 

[LiLIrishChick63]

well i dunno about crazy, but my FBIL is just plain annoying and strange.

he lives on his own, he's got his own house and his own car and everything, yet he still comes home to mom and dad's house to eat dinner, has mom do his laundry, has mom manage his checkbook. he has them record tv shows for him, if he's out late drinking he'll go to his parent's house drunk and loud and wake everyone up. if they're on vacation he'll go to their house to watch tv or to just hang out. he's got this great job and makes a lot of money, yet he won't buy his own computer and will go on his brother's(DH2B and i are moving out this year, so he's still at home) computer, look up porn and get a ton of viruses on the computer and then it crashes, DH2B has to pay to get it fixed, and he never offers to pay for it. mind you, this guy is 31 years old.

then all he and his girlfriend do is brag about how much money they have and what they buy and vacations they go on and events they go to and how their friends date hockey players and local celebrities and crap.

i just want to smack him sometimes, i swear.

 

[Abregok]

My sister-in-law propositioned my husband about 13 yrs ago, shortly after she married his brother. My husband was a single man then and turned her down flat, but he never told his brother. He said he struggled with it but decided not to tell him b/c his brother seemed genuinely happy, but he did tell his younger brother and mother, which vindicates him if it ever comes up.

So, the SIL had a huge crush on him back then. He's a good looking man and a physician, so I can understand that. But she's psycho, so she believes that she had a choice between the two brothers back then -- something she pridefully shared with me when I was my husband's girlfriend. I already knew the real story, so I laughed it off, figuring her for an insecure woman who needed the fantasy. I was right... but it's worse than that. Fast forward to our wedding...

She made it her mission to make me feel bad at our wedding and to ciphon some attention for herself. She was a bride's worst nightmare. She got in my husband's face, telling him that I purposely ignored her (Not true. I took her for a massage with my bridesmaids the day prior and her and her children were seated at the head table.) She was so angry that she was spitting saliva -- in front of her husband, children, and about 8 guests. I immediately went over and gave her a hug, to diffuse the situation. We were married 12-31 and she's still spewing the same false, pathetic claims.

She sends long, nasty e-mails, accusing me of stuff from months ago that I haven't done, and has straight out lied about me to other family members. She even called my husband to tell him she hoped he had a good prenuptial agreement! She will do anything it seems to take me down, even a notch. She switches between passive-aggressive and direct assault. I have had to block her from sending me e-mails, so she has nothing to report.

We suspect she is mixing antidepressants. She's always been a little off, but she was never cruel, not until the wedding. We don't even live in the same state, yet she accuses me of being somehow responsible for her unhappiness at any given time. It's upsetting b/c we love her kids and want to associate with them and her husband, but we cannot, not until I worship her, I guess. We tend to think her family is held hostage and also dysfunctional as a result of her toxicity, but it's not our business.

She's my husband's "sister-in-law" -- NOT EVEN HIS REAL SISTER, but has some sort of Freudian control trip goiing. It's sick.

So, yes, I've got me a crazy SIL. I welcome any advice or identification. Right now, I am praying for her and avoiding all contact, until something lightens up. I would really like to have punched her by now, handling it the old-fashioned way. I would not do that, but it feels really good to say!

Thanks for letting me vent.

KA

 

[mannasn]

My entire family of in-laws is pretty wacky.

Don't get me started on how my BIL got his future FIL to "pee in a cup" for him in order to get a job. You really want someone you have to do this for to marry your 19 year old daughter? Ooooo-kay.

 

[dreamin in pa]

My SIl is not as crazy as some have posted on here but she is a piece of work. A little background, DB and her have one son, she told DB if he didn't marry her by such and such date, she would leave (he should have told her to go). She planned a huge wedding with her mom's help and still haven't paid for everything after 9 months even the money my dad gave for the bar tab. DB works in the kitchen of a local restaurant and she is a waitress and honestly nothing wrong with that.

But neither of them drive and they get food stamps. All their money is spent on poker machines in local clubs. This past Christmas, SIL got falling down drunk, broke one of stepmom's snowglobes (which was one of her last gifts from her dad before he passed), insisted she didn't do it and proceeded to curse our stepmom when she just wanted to be left alone. To this day, SIL thinks she has no reason to apologize.

In the last 6 months, I have tried and hopefully succeeded in talking her out of buying 2 restaurants and a pet monkey. Yes, a pet monkey. Right now, the current career choice is she wants to be a model. Someone give me strength.

Sorry so long but did that just feel good.

 

[DumboPrincess]

Count me in as having 2 crazy SIL's (brother;s wife and DH's sister)

 

[LiLIrishChick63]

i love all of these crazy stories! lol

 

[beckmrk04]

My SIL is afraid of condiments. My brother has to hide the ketchup and mayo if he wants to keep it in the fridge. If she sees it she starts hyperventilating. Forget about even touching the bottle. If you ask her to pass the ketchup she won't do it.

That is SO hysterical. My gosh, how would you function? Seriously.

ETA- I have totally sane and loveable ILs, so I'm really counting my blessings after reading these stories!!

 

[LoveBWVVBR]

DH's sister is untreated mentally ill, except for the "self-medicating" she does. I'd say that she's a sociopath, but I don't know what her exact diagnosis is. We haven't had contact with that family in years as a result. We don't need that around our kids!!

 

[rie'smom]

Happy to say that I my crazy SIL is now an ex.

She'd sit by her pool smoking pot with her old boyfriend while he husband was at work.

She flew to Cancun with a bunch of friends. When they got to the room, she took off her t shirt and there were drugs taped all over her body!!!

SIL decided to get a boyfriend. When my BIL found out, he was hurt but told her he wanted to make the marriage work. She said she wanted to make the marriage work too but she was going to keep the boyfriend.

She left at Thanksgiving right after my husband and her husband's brother died of cancer.

That Christmas, all of the SILs (including me) showed up with baskets of relaxing toiletries for each other. This was acoincidence because we had never exchanged gifts in the past. Probably because she was no longer on the scene,(whenever we were together, it was all her all the time) we were all so calm that we wanted to spread the peace.

 

[SandraVB79]

I had a crazy "SIL". Well, she wasn't married to my brother, just his girlfriend, thank goodness for that.

She was a couple of years younger than I (well, she still is younger), and after seeing each other 3 times or so (she didn't talk to me during those times), I asked her if she wanted to go shopping. So, off we go. After some time, she not saying anything, we are in front of a bridal salon, and I, not knowing what to say anymore, tell her I want a dress like the one in teh window when i'll ever get married (not true, I hated the dress, but just to say something). She turns around, looks at me and very seriously tells me: "Sandra, I think people like you do not have the right to get married."

O. K.

From that dya on, her weird comments just kept coming.
She really was a nutcase, and a mean one! AT some point, she called my brother, asking him to come immediately. It turns out she had pulled out about 2/3 of her hair! The hair on her head, that is.

The moment they broke up, was one of the better days in my life. My oldest brother wa svery glad too (she was youngest brother's girlfriend). My mom still grieves about the breakup, she's still in denial about how mean the girl was. In my mom's face, she acted nice, but she spoke really bad about my mom behind her back. She also made sure that the already-not-so-good relationship my mom and I had became even worse.

Oh well. She's out of her lives now. And I made sure she won't come back in our lives.
She was very My brother had gone to college, worked in supply chain, but his big dream was to become a truck driver. He didn't do it because a truck driver as boyfriend wasn't good enough for Miss
Once she was gone, I pushed my brother to pursue his big dream,a nd he's a truck driver now. Therefore not good enough for her anymore. Oh well...

 

[Camicar]

I welcome any advice or identification.

Having BTDT, my advice is this:
Get on the same page with your dh, inform your family of this page and stick like glue to that page, NO MATTER WHAT.
And what should that page be? The wedding was the last straw after 13 years of insanity. All contact with the nutjob will cease effective immediately. I can tell you that if you fail to take a stand, your marriage and your life will suffer forever. She is not going to change, she is not going to get better, and she is not doing this for any reason other than to gain control and attention.

 

[missypie]

I won't go into details, but my husband's twin brother is the Spawn of the Devil. DH really DOES have an evil twin!

 

[Hercules10]

Gal that married me brudder claims to have a nutty in-law although she won't tell me who...