Who finds Mothers' Day really annoying?

[DVCLiz]

I love Mother's Day!! I like special meals out (and for those of you complaining, haven't you ever heard of making a reservation?) and I like LOTS of presents. And I make sure the girls know what I want and then I give them the money to go buy it. And then I act surprised - it's part of our family history. This year I want the DVD set of Planet Earth, lots of bottles of bubble bath from Bath & Body Works, and some craft supplies.

My mom died 8 years ago, so I don't have any reason to celebrate Mother's Day anymore, other than with my own children. We always try to make it a special fun day.

 

[PrincessSuzanne]

We had dinner over at a friends house on Sunday night and they had BOTH sets of Grandparent's there for their little girl's birthday. My DH and I looked at each other and said, "WOW".

My Mother passed away 15 years ago and never got to see any of her beautiful grandchildren. My Father passed away 10 years ago and only got to see one of my babies, when he wasn't drunk.

My DH lost his Father 2 years ago to Cancer and his Mom, who is 68, is in the Memory Care unit of a Nursing Home with Alzheimers.

Right now, my kids have 1 Grandparent who is in a locked wing of a Nursing Home.

Yeah, I would fight traffic and crowds to take my Mom out to lunch with my kids. Every now and then I have a dream where she is in it and sometimes, once in a blue moon, I can see her interact with my babies... if only in a dream.

This year, I am vowing to be more happy than sad on Mother's day... realize what I have rather than what I don't have. And NOT go out to eat and see all of the happy daughter's with their Mom's and Children.

Stop complaining and start appreciating what you have... someday you will miss it.

and Happy Mother's Day

Suzanne

 

[jemiaule]

I like Mother's Day purely because it is a good way to get my husband to do things I normally can't get him to do. For example, this years conversation:

Husband: So, what would you like to do for Mother's Day

Me: Actually nothing special, no sleeping in, no going out to eat, or anything like that.

Husband: Oh, well is there anything you would like us to get you?

Me: Yes, I would like a clean garage for Mother's Day

: : : : S I L E N C E : : : :

Husband: Uh, ok. Well our anniversary is right after that. What would you like for that?

Me: To have the garage stay clean.


Yup, I love Mother's Day!

 

[DisneyAddict_M]

I find all Hallmark Holidays to be annoying. I've never once received anything for Mother's Day...I don't really want anything either. I always make sure to give my mother a rose and a big hug on Mother's Day though. It means so much to her.

 

[cardaway]

Yes it is a Hallmark holiday, but I can't see anybody making a big deal out of Mothers Day being a pain unless they got mother issues or issues with mothers in general.

For both my wife and I it's a big deal and we have made a tradition of having both familes over and throwing a big party.

 

[Buckalew11]

I honestly don't see what the big deal is. I pay not attention to the ads (I don't want that stuff). I'm having my mom and MIL over Saturday night for a grilled burger and a small gift. I'll go to church on Sunday and laze around the rest of the day, I hope. No big deal whatsoever.

I think it is only a big deal if you make it that way.

 

[froglady]

I'm taking my mother's ashes home this weekend, so she will rest with my father. I decided that since it would be my first Mother's Day without her, I would be thinking of her anyway, so it would be a good time to do this. My mother and I (along with my siblings, nieces/nephews, and old family friends) buried my father's ashes on Mother's day weekend 5 years ago, so I will lay flowers for him, also. (The family plot is in RI; I'm in FL)

So, no, I wouldn't use the word annoying to describe Mother's Day. My MIL died long before I met DH, so I never had to juggle holidays, except that we stopped spending Christmas at my parents' after we moved. They started coming here, and finally moved here.

 

[TigerKat]

I'm very much dreading it this year as I just lost my Mom in January. I'd give anything to just be able to say "Happy Mother's Day, Mom".

 

[rockstargeisha]

I'm very much dreading it this year as I just lost my Mom in January. I'd give anything to just be able to say "Happy Mother's Day, Mom".

I know the feeling. I used to enjoy Mother's Day until I lost my Mom six years ago.

 

[rie'smom]

I asked hubby to BBQ hamburgers and make potato salad for Mother's Day.
We're going shopping for pjs tomorrow. It's just struck me that he best not be thinking that we're going to Victoria's Secret. No wonder he didn't complain about shopping. If that's what he is thinking,he has a surprise coming.

 

[LiLIrishChick63]

my mother's birthday and Mother's Day are in the same week!

i don't like mother's day, but only because my mother really wasn't really all that "motherly" to me to begin with. i never felt like she was a "mom" i always felt like she was just someone there to point out everything that i was doing wrong in my life. i mean, she's my mother, so i still love her, but it's not a type of "love" that normal people have with their parents/mothers.

 

[Fitswimmer]

I don't have kids either, and I have never wanted any. Does that mean I "hate kids" too?? Yikes, some of you are really unbelievable. Heaven forbid someone exercise the free will God gave them and doesn't march in lockstep with the rest of society. Let's insult them and laugh at them because they're not like us!!

I'll be with my Mom on Mother's day, I'm taking my parents and my DN on vacation and it starts that day. I agree that the day is overcommercialized and the brunches are usually substandard. If it wasn't that we are going to be in Vero Beach, we probably would not eat out that day.

 

[va32h]

I don't have kids either, and I have never wanted any. Does that mean I "hate kids" too?? Yikes, some of you are really unbelievable. Heaven forbid someone exercise the free will God gave them and doesn't march in lockstep with the rest of society. Let's insult them and laugh at them because they're not like us!!

We think Goofygirl hates children because she has repeatedly said that she hates children.

If you say "I hate children" then I suppose the logical thing to conclude would be that you also hate children, but I suppose it could be some sort of elaborate ruse.

"Let's insult them and laugh at them because they are not like us" is the unofficial motto of the Community Board - didn't you get the memo?

The folks on the "Cheerfully Child Free" thread certainly have.

 

[Fitswimmer]

We think Goofygirl hates children because she has repeatedly said that she hates children.

If you say "I hate children" then I suppose the logical thing to conclude would be that you also hate children, but I suppose it could be some sort of elaborate ruse.

"Let's insult them and laugh at them because they are not like us" is the unofficial motto of the Community Board - didn't you get the memo?

The folks on the "Cheerfully Child Free" thread certainly have.

I don't hate children, but I do seriously dislike some parents.

I've also posted on Child Free thread. I don't recall a whole lot of making fun of those who choose to be parents there. It's really more about having a place where we can go to share all the nasty things people say to us because we chose not to have kids and are happy with our choice.

 

[froglady]

OT, but both my best friend and my 2 of my SILs are childless by choice...but they don't HATE children, just don't want any of their own, for a variety of reasons. I totally respect their choice, and don't actually think about it very much.

And if I'm being honest, I must confess that I don't like other people's children very much...in general. (but with many exceptions) I much prefer my own.

 

[Fitswimmer]

I guess the point is that Mother's Day is NOT a fun holiday for everyone. It's not fun for those who have lost their Mother, it's not fun for those who had an abusive Mother, and it's not fun for women who would love to be a Mother but can't. For those of us who have chosen not to be Mothers it can make us feel like the world views us as somehow less worthy because of that choice.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

We typically do brunch for my mom AND dinner for my MIL. Take into account the fact that our moms live 2 hours apart, so add in the 4 hours spent in the car during Mother's Day and you can probably guess that it's not the most relaxing day for my wife.

Oh but Bob that will come to an end soon....you will get a break.

 

[TimeforMe]

I'm sorry but I find it somewhat sad that you find Mother's Day "annoying". While it might not be my favorite "holiday", I think it's nice to honor one's mother, even if with a card. My mom, God rest her soul, is greatly missed each and every day. I wish I had her around for Mother's Day and I certainly don't begrudge *any* moms a day to show them appreciation. Yay for Mother's Day! (and Father's Day, too!)

 

[Hixski]

I guess the point is that Mother's Day is NOT a fun holiday for everyone. It's not fun for those who have lost their Mother, it's not fun for those who had an abusive Mother, and it's not fun for women who would love to be a Mother but can't. For those of us who have chosen not to be Mothers it can make us feel like the world views us as somehow less worthy because of that choice.

Well said.

 

[PrincessSuzanne]

I guess the point is that Mother's Day is NOT a fun holiday for everyone. It's not fun for those who have lost their Mother, it's not fun for those who had an abusive Mother, and it's not fun for women who would love to be a Mother but can't. For those of us who have chosen not to be Mothers it can make us feel like the world views us as somehow less worthy because of that choice.

I am one of those women who wants to be a mother but can't, and I certainly support anyone that chooses not to have children, that is their choice and no one elses. The manner in which the original poster worded her post is what I think has many upset. I certainly hope she doesn't hate children or her mother, but that is the way she came across. If she does, to each her own. Some days I am glad I don't have children, but that is because of the way their mother has brought them up, but wanting a child outweighs anyone elses annoying brats. Well, if you are made to feel less worthy, I am also, because I haven't been blessed with a child and no one off the street knows that but me. Someone said to me in another thread that God must have looked at me and decided I wasn't worthy to have children since I don't have a child, so it can run both ways.

Suzanne