Who finds Mothers' Day really annoying?

[goofygirl]

So shoot me. I find Mothers Day to be annoying. It's just another day to sell cards and flowers. And diamonds. Kay Jewelers reminds us of this at Xmas, V-Day and Mothers Day every year. I freakin' HATE their ads. Yeah, all women are sitting around waiting for that diamond ring or pendant. That's what it's all about.

Also, my mother's birthday is in April, so I just gave her a gift last month. Now I have to give her another gift a month later! But what am I supposed to do, not give her anything? So I am getting her a gift. In fact I do things for her all year round. *Every day* is Mothers Day, IMHO.

I am skipping church on Mothers Day. Not because they make a big deal over Mothers Day- they don't. I am glad that they don't because it would really annoy me. I am not going because my mom does not "do" church and it is "her day" so I have to do what she wants and go where she wants to go. Which is fine. It won't kill me to miss church.

On Mothers Day, all places to eat are overly crowded because everybody has the same lame idea: "Hey let's take Mom to lunch/dinner!" Gee, how original. So forget eating anywhere.

Also, I can't help but think that Mothers' Day sends the message to women that they are not important until they become mothers.That you do not deserve any honor until you have a kid. And that is so lame. And by the way, the founder of Mothers' Day never had children. If you don't believe me, look it up.

I just do not like Mothers' Day. I do not find it sad, or happy, I just find it to be a pain. I don't care if it is not politically correct to say so.

Thanks for letting me vent.

 

[Tybug]

<wondering how you really feel...>

Just kidding with you. I get it... I really do. That said, I'll be waiting on Sunday for my diamond pendant and dinner out!

 

[SwedishMeatball]

I think most holidays are too commercialized, but I don't mind a special day to recognize the important women in my life. I appreciate the efforts my kids make to show me how special they think I am. It was sad this year though when I went to buy all the cards and saw the Grandma ones and realized this will be my first one without her. I will really miss making that phone call this year.

 

[Disney Ella]

The founder of Mother's Day intended it to be a day to give a card to your mother to thank her for everything she went through. This was in an era when there was no birth control and women had child after child and virtually no life of their own. Women were not valued and were looked down upon as second class citizens. I think it was a very nice idea to recognize these poor women.

I don't celebrate Mother's Day because I had a choice whether or not to have kids; it wasn't the only thing I could do in life as a female. I don't like the commercialization of the holiday today and I don't need any more stuff.

While I don't celebrate Mother's Day and want nothing from my kids, I do get my mother something, because it is a big deal to her.

 

[katerkat]

I'm not a huge fan - but then, most holidays aren't that important to us. I told DH I want him to supervise Russ in making a card. Seriously, that's all I want - and maybe not a mess from said card. I want a dinner out from last Sunday, when I did something special to ME (I ran a 12K in under the time I was hoping), not because I'm a mom.

Oh, but I admit, I'm expecting a VERY nice new wedding band for our anniversary this year and I've been using the "gave birth to your baby" comment a lot when mentioning said ring.

 

[mickeyboat]

DH hates Mother's Day. But strangely enough, he likes Father's Day.

Yes all holidays are too commercialized, but it doesn't bother me enough to not participate.

Denae (waiting for the diamond ring, since I got the pendant last year )

 

[Bob Slydell]

Most Hallmark holidays annoy me (and, thankfully, my wife )

Besides, becoming a mother doesn't automatically turn that day into yours -- at least not when you have a mother who only care what they want to do that day, not what their daughter would like to do.

 

[sunlver]

I would not say its annoying... its just another way to make money I think.
I have 3 kids. My kids are my world. I do not need a day to say I am special because I am their mother. I know they love me every day, not just on Mothers day.
Plus, Mothers day has never been a real big deal around here. Just a day like all the rest
My favorite things are the gifts my kids make me

 

[MOMTOMOOTOO]

So GG, tell us how you feel about KIDS DAY

 

[Princess89]

I don't do Mother's Day. My kids or DH don't get me anything, and I expect nothing. However, my mother is different. She is into those holidays. She used to get the phone call wishing her a Happy Mother's Day, but DH insists on taking her out, and buying her gifts. He always takes her to lunch and stuff, and has the kids go and buy her flowers and make her a card etc. Its really cute, and I'm very happy he does it for her.

 

[goofygirl]

So GG, tell us how you feel about KIDS DAY

Isn't *every* day KIDS DAY? At least that what I hear moms (my mom included!) say!

 

[missypie]

I really hate it. It was fun when the kids were little and brought a mothers day craft home from pre-school (I actually still have in my office a begonia in a painted pink pot that was the preschool mothers day craft from 1999!)

But now, each one gives me a Hallmark card. Great....Hallmark is now $12 richer.

And eating out IS a big pain. If you don't eat at an off time, you have along wait...how is THAT fun?

 

[Laura]

Mother's Day by itself doesn't annoy me. The hype and the stupid jewelry ads annoy me.

Like at Christmas--they basically told DH I was supposed to get a diamond pendant. Either a journey pendant or the circle. Is that the "wife gift" that we're all supposed to get? When I become a mother, is there supposed to be a standard gift we all get? I won't be the cool mom on the playground because I don't have the exact same diamond earrings? Puhleeze.

 

[Fairy Dust]

We don't get bombarded with ads here, its not such a big deal. My Mum was happy just to get a card from us this year. I usually send her a bouquet or a CD. Its just a small gesture of thanks in our family.

As for diamond rings or pendants!!!!!

I do despise Grandparents Day though.

Yeah, all women are sitting around waiting for that diamond ring or pendant. That's what it's all about.

 

[meandtheguys2]

We don't do a whole lot for mom's day. This year we may very well be having a funeral. (Do they DO funerals on mother's day?) I love celebrating our anniversary, and birthdays, though. Those are milestones in my life!

 

[LaraK]

My daughter asked me what I was getting HER for Mother's Day! She was very upset when she found out it was supposed to be my special day and not hers....

In terms of the day being special....not really. I'll still get up, get my family together, cook breakfast, clean up from breakfast, go grocery shopping, do the laundry, clean the house, etc....

After all, I'm a mom!

 

[disneymom3]

Yeah, I can see how you feel. Mothers day is the only holiday/event that I really feel strongly about though. Work on my birthday adn I make dinner--no biggie; Please do NOT send me flowers on Valentine's day; etc. But Mothers day I want sacred! DH usually plays in the band at church but NOT on Mothers day. We get to do what I want all day. Of course, last year that involved going on a drive in the country with the kids watching a movie and then going to a really huge park around here. We did go out to eat though--but at around 3:00 so it wasn't crowded and we just went to Noodles. I have said for years that getting my kids to behave in a fancy restaurant is NOT a rewarding experience. And I don't care too much about a gift either.

 

[PrincessSuzanne]

So shoot me. I find Mothers Day to be annoying. It's just another day to sell cards and flowers. And diamonds. Kay Jewelers reminds us of this at Xmas, V-Day and Mothers Day every year. I freakin' HATE their ads. Yeah, all women are sitting around waiting for that diamond ring or pendant. That's what it's all about.

Also, my mother's birthday is in April, so I just gave her a gift last month. Now I have to give her another gift a month later! But what am I supposed to do, not give her anything? So I am getting her a gift. In fact I do things for her all year round. *Every day* is Mothers Day, IMHO.

I am skipping church on Mothers Day. Not because they make a big deal over Mothers Day- they don't. I am glad that they don't because it would really annoy me. I am not going because my mom does not "do" church and it is "her day" so I have to do what she wants and go where she wants to go. Which is fine. It won't kill me to miss church.

On Mothers Day, all places to eat are overly crowded because everybody has the same lame idea: "Hey let's take Mom to lunch/dinner!" Gee, how original. So forget eating anywhere.

Also, I can't help but think that Mothers' Day sends the message to women that they are not important until they become mothers.That you do not deserve any honor until you have a kid. And that is so lame. And by the way, the founder of Mothers' Day never had children. If you don't believe me, look it up.

I just do not like Mothers' Day. I do not find it sad, or happy, I just find it to be a pain. I don't care if it is not politically correct to say so.

Thanks for letting me vent.

You won't feel this way when you no loger have your mother. Be greatful that you still have her. My mother and I didn't get along well at all until my grandmother became very ill and now we are best friends. I know it is hard for her because her mother is no longer with us (well it is hard for both of us, I was very close to my grandmother). I don't know if you have children, but if you are like me and desperately want to be a mother and can't, then you wouldn't say these things.

I agree all holidays are too commercialized, but you can look past that and celebrate what your mother means to you.

Suzanne

 

[Keli]

I like mother's day. Of course there isn't much pressure on me by either my mom or dmil. Both of them are happy with a card or a call (although I do get them small gifts every year now, in the 'early' years dh and I didn't always have money for little extras like that).
Plus now my own dd gives me cards and/or a small gift and I'm surprised at how much I enjoy that. I guess I'm not used to being told how much she loves and appreciates me. Feels pretty good, if I do say so myself.

 

[Bob Slydell]

I don't know if you have children, but if you are like me and desperately want to be a mother and can't, then you wouldn't say these things.

I can field that one for GG -- she's not like you and she does not desperately want to have children. Just figure I'd save GG the time.