Who else has lost loves?

[VampHeartless]

After recounting my whole experience with Sarah, I'm interested now, who else has had lost loves that they regret or were emotionally impacting with interesting backgrounds?

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[Microcell]

Vamp, I missed your Sarah experience. Is there a thread you can paste. If it is the same thing I am thinking, she didn't have a name last I saw.

I thought I had lost DH before we could even begin! He was older than me and I worked for him so I was off limits and I had a HUGE crush on him. I just started dating other guys that looked like him in the hopes he would be jealous. They all treated me badly. One day when I was not working for him and was of legal age to actually date him I gave him a call on his birthday and we talked for hours. My boyfirend at the time was in the other room. I got off the phone and broke up with this other guy! We have been married for 8 years. I have known him for 15! Sorry no lost love here!

 

[MouseClubMom]

My lost love and I fell in love when we were working together as CMs at WDW at the Living Seas. Our first date was to the Magic Kingdom! We had lunch at Pinocchio's Village Haus where he saved a boy from choking by doing the heimlich maneuver on him!!! Boy - I knew he was my hero after that. We shared our first kiss on the beach of the Contemporary after watching the Electrical Water Pageant. Sigh........

We dated for 3 1/2 years - engaged for 2 of that. I was very young (met him when I was only 18) and didn't realize how special he was. I started working outside of our area and thought that I wanted to date other people. I was horrible to him and treated him terribly - trying to force his hand and make him leave me. I eventually just left. Moving out of our apartment was one of the worst days of my life. We went thru and split up our Disney collectibles and videos - each one picking one at a time until we were finished. We also split up the 4 cats. I took 2 and he kept 2.

We split up about a dozen years ago and I still think of him almost daily. My heart aches when I think of how cruel I was to him. I tell myself that I was young and didn't know better but the guilt eats me alive. After 10 years of not speaking to each other we reconnected online and I was finally able to apologize to him on the phone. The timing could not have been better. He was in the middle of going thru a divorce and I was able to be there as his friend and help him thru that. He is remarried now to a wonderful girl who adores him and treats him like he deserves to be treated!!

He is still at WDW but when I was there 2 months go I just couldn't bring myself to see him.

It is so hard to let go of something you love. I will regret the way I treated him until the day I die. Even though he told me that he forgave me, I just can't forgive myself.

Hugs to you, Vamp.

Kelley

 

[Lewski709]

Funny you bring it up. My DH saw mine today at Kohl's. He's never married, but has a daughter who he was taking B2School shopping. I see him about every 6mo's and DH bowled on the same league as him last year. DH said "hey, did you see **** and ***? They just walked in." I went back in to Kohl's and saw his daughter, but couldn't bring myself to find him. So, I walked back out.

What you may find odd is that DH knows him, right? Well.....we all have long lost loves. I have choices and the choice I made after finding him again was to limit the time I saw him and focus on what I have that is good. I still care an awful lot about this guy, but I love my DH and kids more.

The grass is always greener on the other side.

Move On!

Maybe someday, sometime, somehow....but it's not NOW.

 

[MelessaG]

Yes I do. Even worse, he is now married to someone who hates me. Even if we wanted to bury the hatchet and be friends we never could. We were close from high school through college graduation. Definitely the first person I ever loved. It kills me that we can't talk now. It's probably for the best, though.

 

[Laura]

Geez, more like who hasn't lost loves. I can't think of anyone I know who hasn't had his/her heart broken. Me, yup, plenty of times. Loooong stories.

My DH was engaged to another girl before he met me. She dumped him on Valentine's Day and married someone else later that year. She just wanted to get married; she apparently thought it would make everything better in her life and didn't want to wait for them to graduate from college. They were 19. I'm so glad she broke up with him. He is too. He said it would never have worked out; she needed a shrink, not a husband.

 

[Otto's Doll]

Here's a story for ya, vamp...

My "husband to be" was in the Navy, and married someone else on MY wedding day. (He had called and said he was being sent out to sea, and we would have to postpone our wedding - I don't know why he didn't just tell me the truth. Found out later that week that he got married instead.) He has since been divorced 3 times.

I am now married to the most wonderful man in the world. God sure knew what He was doing when that fiasco happened with the other guy.

So, yup, we all have lost loves, but God has someone better for you, just wait and see!

 

[Disney Doll]

You know, I think that when folks get all caught up in lost loves, it means that soemthing in their life right now isn't good, and they are lookig to go back to a simpler time,. Time tends to heal a lot of things, and make the past look much rosier than it was when you were living it.

I tend to look at old loves as exactly what they were...lovely interludes in life from whichI learned valuable lessons about what I did and did not want in a spouse. I have fond memories of all my old loves, but I do try to very clearly remember why they are OLD loves and not current ones!

 

[UncleKyle]

Originally posted by Disney Doll
You know, I think that when folks get all caught up in lost loves, it means that soemthing in their life right now isn't good, and they are lookig to go back to a simpler time,. Time tends to heal a lot of things, and make the past look much rosier than it was when you were living it.

I tend to look at old loves as exactly what they were...lovely interludes in life from whichI learned valuable lessons about what I did and did not want in a spouse. I have fond memories of all my old loves, but I do try to very clearly remember why they are OLD loves and not current ones!

I tend to agree with this more than anything. I have old loves but no one I regret not being with. I think the ones I regret are the loves that never were. The girls I should have asked out or didn't pursue more than a friendship with. I have plenty of those. As for long lost loves, I broke up with all of them for a reason. And the one that dumped me and broke my heart, I'm a better man because of it.

 

[scarlett873]

i had met the love of my life, my soulmate, when i was 14/15. we began dating...he had dropped out of school, but i got him to go back...he became very close to my family as he wasn't in the ideal family situation. he would often stay overnight (on the couch in the basement!) and eventually, when his dad kicked him out, he moved in with us and my parents became his legal guardians. so here i am, 15 years old and i LIVE with my boyfriend. how cool was that? lol

we were together for about a year and a half when my family moved to arizona. he initially went with us, but got into a fight with my parents and ended up going back to iowa. we vowed to stay together no matter what...but at 16/17 years old, we don't always think with our brains...lol...we broke up about 6 months later. it was awful. he got married 6 months after that and became a father a few months later.

we lost track of each other for about 2 years...i decided to see him again. needed to was more like it. so i went to visit my friend and touched base with him. he was still with his wife, but things were less than ideal between the two of them. we went our separate ways for 10 years.

he found me online in 2000. we e-mailed and chatted online for about a year and a half before admitting our feelings for each other. we decided to see each other face to face...so we could know if what we were feeling was real or not. it was...

3 years later, we are blissfully happy! we were married in sept 2002. i lost my love, but thankfully, i found him again.

 

[Kallison]

Personally I see no point in regretting the one that got away. If you are with them long enough you will find they too will annoy you at some point by squeezing the toothpaste wrong, farting in bed, leaving their socks on the floor etc. My motto is "Love the one you're with"!

 

[SC Minnie]

I also dated the sweetest guy in HS. He basically worshipped the ground I walked on. We dated for about 10 months when his family moved. We kept in touch and he still came back to visit every couple of weeks. Needless to say when you are 16 you don't realize what you want and mess things up. I wasn't the nices person in the world-- I will not go into details. Anyway, we stopped writing and calling.

I always felt bad about the way I had treated him so about 4 years later and much more mature I wrote to him to see how he was doing. We talked for a while and neither one was dating anyone so we decided to meet as just friends. We started to see each other again but I noticed he was not keeping the best of freinds. He was trying to hide it from me but I wasn't blind. He was into drugs. That was not my thing so I broke it off and haven't spoken to him since.

I thank God that I noticed what was going on before it was too late. A couple of years later I met my husband. I believe these 'bad' relationships only make you a better person for when you do meet you soul mate. You know what you want and don't want in a person. You know how to treat this person and how you expect to be treated. JMHO