Who DOES this?

[AC7179]

My husband has an exwife who has two children. She had a daughter before they were married, and they had a daughter together.

The older daughter now lives with her grandmother, and the youngest daughter lives with us. The woman has never paid a penny of child support. We fly the oldest down to see her sister and my hubby and pay for the airfare. Last time she came down, the mom had written the oldest a check for $100. I cashed it for her and it bounced, leaving me $100 bucks short.

Well, my hubby feels kind of guitly that the oldest doesnt live with us. He does love her and so when she turned 17 he wanted to give her his S10 pickup. He did so with my blessing because the kid has not had a great life. The truck was worth between 6000-8000 thousand bucks. The mom comes down, picks it up, and then refuses to let the kid take drivers ed, telling her she can just get her liscense when she was 18. We signed the deed over to the mother in case she were to wreck it or anything until the daughter could drive it. The daughter just came down to visit us and informs it that the mother SOLD THE TRUCK AND KEPT THE MONEY, but that she promises she is going to buy the daughter a NEW car for her 18th birthday. Ohhhhhhhhh, I am so livid! Who would do that to her kid? She is not getting any kid of car for her 18th, and Im sure the money is already gone. Mom lives paycheck to paycheck. I realize we were dumb to sign it over, but who thinks someone is going to screw their kid over? UGHGHGHHG.

 

[ericamanda01]

What a horrible person. I really feel sorry for her kid.

 

[Christine]

Yuck...that is just awful.

 

[paigevz]

That's pitiful.

 

[DisneyMommyMichelle]

How awful

Since the DD lives with her grandparents why couldn't you have signed it over to them??

i can't believe she would do that to her own DD.

 

[AC7179]

Thanks for commiserating.
The DD lives with grandmother now, but used to live with aunt. We should have signed it over to the grandmother, who wouldn't have screwed the kid over. We never would have even guessed mom would sink so low, though. I guess hindsight is 20/20. The thing that ticks me off so much though, is that WE really could have used that 6000 if we were just going to sell the truck (because, remember, we are supporting one of her daughters by ourselves, which is fine, but STILL) but we decided we would "take one for the team" so this girl who didn't have a lot would have a nice truck.

 

[lowie]

my advice would be to do what is best for your husbands biological daughter and sue the mother for child support. it's unfair for her not to receive what she is due (put the money aside for her 1st car maybe). then you can consider offering to help the older daughter take mom to small claims court to legally fight for what was meant to be hers. this woman will probably never stop being this way if someone doesn't set her straight.
it's a hard lesson to learn, she sounds like a real loser

 

[DisneyGirl4188]

my advice would be to do what is best for your husbands biological daughter and sue the mother for child support. it's unfair for her not to receive what she is due (put the money aside for her 1st car maybe). then you can consider offering to help the older daughter take mom to small claims court to legally fight for what was meant to be hers. this woman will probably never stop being this way if someone doesn't set her straight.
it's a hard lesson to learn, she sounds like a real loser

I agree with this. It isn't fair that you have to do without child support (even if you don't mind). The money is for the child, so even if you don't need the money, you can put it into an account for the girl.

 

[Biscuitsmom31]

I'll never complain about my step-daughter's mom again.

 

[SC Minnie]

She said the girls mother didn't have any money anyway so suing would only cause the OP to incur lawyer fees to sue knowing the mother wouldn't pay.

I wouldn't be surprised if she sold the truck for much less than it was really worth too. This is on of the lesson learned deals.

 

[lindakmonty]

yeah, but here in OH if you get behind in child support they take your drivers license, any tax returns, any property... send you to jail... all kinds of things. My own dad went to jail for child support. He left when I was 3 and my sister was 6...he never paid a single penny in child support either...and I'm 29! At least he built my sister a new house....well, she had free labor for it... I wish I could get that deal...but now he says he's not up to it...it's too much work...he's 49 yrs old!!! My ex hasn't seen his first child in 10 yrs.... there are some pathetic parents out there that have just donated DNA and went on w/their lives...

 

[Beth76]

My MIL has taken things belonging to my DH and sold them. His dad gave him an MG (British sports car) when he died and she sold it while DH was away at college. That's the biggest one, but I know there are other small things.

 

[kelleigh1]

Sadly...this doesn't surprise me. I have actually heard of similar things happening. There are some people in this world (far too many in my opinion) who really don't care about anyone but themselves.

I commend your husband for still taking an active part in this girl's life. I'm sure that some people missed that fact that he is not this girls biological father, yet he seems to really want to play that role in her life and she is lucky to have him...and I'm sure he probably feels that he is lucky to be a part of her life too.

 

[MOMTOMOOTOO]

That just sucks plain and simple. Just rememebr karma.

But kudos to your husband for continuing to be part of her life. and you too for accepting her into your family.

 

[TheDisneyTraveler06]

How awful

Since the DD lives with her grandparents why couldn't you have signed it over to them??

i can't believe she would do that to her own DD.

I agree.

 

[AC7179]

Ehhh, we try. I can't really take credit for doing a fabulous job, though.

I did buy her her school clothes for the year, but at the moment she is locked in her sister's bedroom ticked off at me for not letting her go cliff-diving. This is only day 3 of her month long visit!

 

[horseshowmom]

I know of someone who bought her three boys a horse for their birthdays (their birthdays are close, and they got one horse to share). When she got ready to divorce the husband of that time (she's now up to 7), she sold their horse to pay for her divorce.

I'll agree that your situation is worse though...