Took about 15 yrs of marriage before we reached the compromise though!
I prefer colored lights but we have an artificial tree that I got at a great price to fit exactly in a specific spot in our home (it's narrow) and I could only get it with white lights (I didn't want to string the lights myself - laziness, LOL!).
This! And not those little lights. And non-blinking.Color, and as many as possible!