For me, I've rank ordered:
1a) SSR - Sorry you didn't enjoy your stay here. For relaxation, though, it's my #1 spot. Congress Park is my favorite. The view of DTD from the quiet pool is just amazing.
1b) OKW - While both SSR and OKW will seem private, if you're looking for a more remote feel, OKW has more established landscaping, and has more spacious rooms. Balconies are also HUGE compared to the other
DVC resorts. This resort competes in my heart for the #1 spot!
2) VWL - Simply beautiful. Feels remote, but so close to tons of things (Contemporary, monorail, MK, etc.). When we stayed at the villas, though the DVC portion was completely booked, the villas seemed empty. We had the quiet pool to ourselves several evenings (maybe 2 or 3 other families at the most). Now, 1a and 1b have some competition!
http://s307.photobucket.com/albums/nn320/simmerb/Wilderness Lodge/
3) AKL - Beautiful and relaxing. Only ranks where it does due to its proximity to other things. The darker woods and colors in the rooms seem relaxing to me. This is true of VWL, too.
4) BWV, BCV - In the middle of things. Loved my stay there, and will definitely be back. Just not where I would choose to stay to kick back and relax.
BWV Pool from our Room - Great Pool/Fun for Kids
5) CRV - Based on the pics, I think this is going to be more like BWV/BCV. The room colors are brighter, and it's high-rise style will seem less relaxing...at least to me anyway! Hard to say, though, until you stay there.