Where is that perfect parent thread when you need it???

[Hixski]

Thanks everyone for being so supportive! I know that we all dont have the same ideas, but its nice to know most of us arent horrible people!
The person that disagrees isnt so bad, she just needs to know that those who disagree with her ideas arent the devil lol.

The person that disagrees also pops on the "Marrieds choosing not to have children" thread from time to time to disrespect us too. If you think being a bad parent is something try not being a parent at all. They really can't wrap their head around that one. The sad thing is that some folks on that thread wanted children and it just didn't work out. But that is not good enough.

 

[cybrkitn]

The person that disagrees also pops on the "Marrieds choosing not to have children" thread from time to time to disrespect us too. If you think being a bad parent is something try not being a parent at all. They really can't wrap their head around that one. The sad thing is that some folks on that thread wanted children and it just didn't work out. But that is not good enough.

Can the Mods do something about a poster that does that? I know there are new rules in effect and a point system. Just curious.

 

[ilovejack02]

Can the Mods do something about a poster that does that? I know there are new rules in effect and a point system. Just curious.

I hate to say it , but I guess we all have a right to disagree with what others say. She was has a right too say I suck as a parent... but Im hoping Its ok that I think she is a big ole meanie for saying it.

 

[katerkat]

For the record, I'd do the same thing you did.

Pish posh - you're a horrible homeschooler and there's no REAL teacher to be marching your kids to.

Sadly, I have yet to be called a bad mother on the DIS. I've been lumped in with other bad moms, but no one's said I'm personally a bad mom. I feel left out.

 

[ilovejack02]

Pish posh - you're a horrible homeschooler and there's no REAL teacher to be marching your kids to.

Sadly, I have yet to be called a bad mother on the DIS. I've been lumped in with other bad moms, but no one's said I'm personally a bad mom. I feel left out.

Hey didnt your little sister say you were a bad parent.. or was that someone else???


I get confused sometimes, there are so many bad parents here on the Dis

 

[Eeyore'sthebest]

ilovejack02 - I wanted to reply last night but didn't get a chance.

I am so sorry you were attacked yesterday like that. From one stepmom to another, parenting is a rough job and the last thing anyone needs is someone attacking you. How dare she make that comment!! I would have loved to consult with my DSDs "real" moms (there are 2). But I was too busy raising their children as they chose not to. Good job for caring enough to make sure he did what he needed to do even though he didn't want to.

 

[cybrkitn]

I hate to say it , but I guess we all have a right to disagree with what others say. She was has a right too say I suck as a parent... but Im hoping Its ok that I think she is a big ole meanie for saying it.

We all disagree and agree on a variety of things. It's a fact of life. But I wonder if she has stepped over the line

Anyway, it looks like you have a lot of support since you posted this thread. So you can't be all that bad

 

[katerkat]

Hey didnt your little sister say you were a bad parent.. or was that someone else???


I get confused sometimes, there are so many bad parents here on the Dis

Yeah, but that wasn't on the DIS, and really, it's not the same if it doesn't come from an anonymous stranger spouting off about things they know nothing about. Right?

 

[Tybug]

Good for you Jack! I support your post!

Aw man! If you're a bad mom for that... I must be the devil-mother! My DS never had any homework. Then the interims came and there we zeros for all homework recorded. I gave him a week(8th grade) to bring me the work written in the planner daily. Um, couldn't do that either. So! I went to school with him. Not to get the homework... but actually went to school with him. Sat in class and saw the assignments for myself. One day! That's all it took was one day! Now I get the assignments handed to me when I pick him up without even asking. 'Most' of his teachers loved it! Now of course they all do as DS is turning in his assignments on time.

I'll say this next statment even though most here will go through the roof. But embarassment or I'm sure a middle school aged child would describe it as mortification... is not a terrible thing! We don't always have to pat these kids on the back and worry about self esteem when they are actually doing something wrong. Or in this case, not doing what they should be doing!

I'm done, continue on!

Edited to say that DS had this issue all through 7th grade and nothing seemed to work. That's why I went this route at the beginning of 8th grade.

 

[SadieDog]

I think you handled both your son and the other poster quite well. Try not to let those attacks get you down.

 

[KimR]

As others have said, consider the souce. I'm convinced she is a troll because every single post of hers I've seen is over-the-top rude, nasty, and confrontational. I think she just tries to get a reaction out of other posters.

 

[Briarmom]

Pish posh - you're a horrible homeschooler and there's no REAL teacher to be marching your kids to.

Sadly, I have yet to be called a bad mother on the DIS. I've been lumped in with other bad moms, but no one's said I'm personally a bad mom. I feel left out.

Soon enough there will be real teachers. And they won't be english speaking.

 

[ilovejack02]

As others have said, consider the souce. I'm convinced she is a troll because every single post of hers I've seen is over-the-top rude, nasty, and confrontational. I think she just tries to get a reaction out of other posters.

Maybe she is, I was just on another thread that she slammed someone else. She is on a roll this week.

 

[Nancy]

Pish posh - you're a horrible homeschooler and there's no REAL teacher to be marching your kids to.

Sadly, I have yet to be called a bad mother on the DIS. I've been lumped in with other bad moms, but no one's said I'm personally a bad mom. I feel left out.

Ok, so you're a bad mother! Shame on you! Do you feel like part of the in-crowd now? I'm a bad mom too, heck even my daughters told me last night that I'm a mean Mom. (they were joking....I think )

 

[mickeyfan2]

I think that embarressmant is a good teaching tool. If he does not want the embarressment he will bring his stuff home. I guess I am a bad person (no kids) too. Thank God I had no kids, what a mess they would be now.

 

[leighe]

I'll say this next statment even though most here will go through the roof. But embarassment or I'm sure a middle school aged child would describe it as mortification... is not a terrible thing! We don't always have to pat these kids on the back and worry about self esteem when they are actually doing something wrong. Or in this case, not doing what they should be doing!

I agree and posted almost the same thing on the other thread. I remember a particular punishment that embarassed me and I still remember it when I think about doing certain things.

 

[U2_rocks!]

She is on a roll this week.

Not just this week.

 

[Mrs.Toad]

What a piece of work! I thought the first post was bad enough, where she clearly wasn't reading for comprehension when she turned your "It embarassed the hell out of him" into "do it just to embarass my child". I notice that a lot and it drives me nuts.

But the "real" mom comment was downright nasty! I always figure people like that must feel awfully bad about themselves, in order to feel the need to put other people down for no real reason.

 

[stinkerbelle's mom]

OMG, I couldn't believe that person would be so rude I just had to respond to that post!

Btw, I think you handled the situation with your ds very well, I have had to do the same thing with 2 of mine! They might not like it, but they're always happy on report card day!

 

[WhatATreat]

Wow. Well, at least the other posters on that thread supported you. I noticed the poster in question never did return after that crack about your son's "real" parents. How low. BTW, I totally agree with the way you and your DH decided to resolve the situation.