Where is that perfect parent thread when you need it???

[lajones81]

I'm a teacher and have seen many ways that parents have handled these situations. I love all the ideas everyone suggested, but my favorite story comes from a parent a few years back. Not only did she bring her son back to school, she calculated out the gas mileage and how much it would cost to take her son back and forth for extra trips (i.e. forgotten homework, books, etc.). She then made her son pay for the gas money!! Let me tell you that it took maybe, just maybe, 3 trips at the most before he figured out what he had to do!

Kudos to all parents for everything you do for your kids!

 

[babytrees]

Welcome to the club!!

I knew I liked you!!

 

[Mono~rail]

Last fall I posted on a thread about a teenager staying out past their curfew and worrying the mom (the mom was the OP). I said that if I had done something like that my parents would have shown up where I was and made a big embarrassing scene. I was told that I have obvious "issues" as a result of being "so disrespected" by my parents.

 

[leighe]

I totally agree with you! Also, if I remember correctly "some" posters on that thread tend to be pretty judgemental of most all parenting decisions that don't completely agree with their own anyway.

 

[princess pooh]

I remember other posts by Miss Perfect and she's pretty scary. Anyone she disagrees with is wrong and she's pretty nasty about it.

That "real parent" comment was just evil

 

[hydster]

Last fall I posted on a thread about a teenager staying out past their curfew and worrying the mom (the mom was the OP). I said that if I had done something like that my parents would have shown up where I was and made a big embarrassing scene. I was told that I have obvious "issues" as a result of being "so disrespected" by my parents.

My parents would have too! Oh so THAT'S why I'm so messed up! That's good to know!

 

[The Mystery Machine]

It did get like you were a mean mom on that thread, which you arent, you are just trying to figure out how to balance Easter and religion or the lack there of.
Join the bad parent club with me!!!!

 

[DaisyD]

Welcome to the club!

I was "awful" for questioning "Easter Baskets"...

That was me that said that but you have it wrong. I never said YOU were awful. I said that I think it would be awful if my children asked for an Easter basket and I told them no.

 

[mookie]

ilovejack02, I also posted in your defense on the other thread. In fact, I WAS the kid whos parents marched them back into school!!

No scarring here! I turned out fine!

 

[The Mystery Machine]

That was me that said that but you have it wrong. I never said YOU were awful. I said that I think it would be awful if my children asked for an Easter basket and I told them no.

Well I disagree with you. I don't think it is awful.

My children are not religious in any way, shape or form. My oldest loaths organized religion...

I grew up religious. I have a hard time celebrating easter with children that hate religion.

 

[grlpwrd]

I remember other posts by Miss Perfect and she's pretty scary. Anyone she disagrees with is wrong and she's pretty nasty about it.

That "real parent" comment was just evil

Yes, by all means...please consider the source...

 

[DaisyD]

Well I disagree with you. I don't think it is awful.

My children are not religious in any way, shape or form. My oldest loaths organized religion...

I grew up religious. I have a hard time celebrating easter with children that hate religion.

I don't know how you can disagree on how it would make ME feel if my kids asked and I said no. LOL! You can have a different opinion but you can't tell me how I'd feel.

 

[rt2dz]

Oh please (to the other poster on that thread)!! There is just no winning with the parenting issue. There is no winning on the DIS. On some threads I'm an uptight, overly paranoid parent for my stance on car seats. For the exact same stance on car seats, on other threads, I'm a lax and irresponsible parent. Oh well, I've got thick skin.

That poster is just looney tunes. People who can't respect (and I don't mean agree/support, but just respect) others parenting decisions when there is no actual abuse, just don't have confidence in their own decisions.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I don't know how you can disagree on how it would make ME feel if my kids asked and I said no. LOL! You can have a different opinion but you can't tell me how I'd feel.

What?
Go back and read what you posted. You said THAT IS AWFUL. You were not speaking about your feelings.

If you were speaking only of your feelings, then you need to be more clearer because it did not come across that way.

Sorry for the hijack OP...another perfect parenting thread ruined....I will hide in shame now.

 

[mamacatnv]

For the record, I'd do the same thing you did.

Me too but I would add curlers, slippers and the brightest red lipstick on the planet!

I just read that thread - I guess it takes all kinds, she sounds like one of those "scary Mommies" you know the kind that we see coming and all head in the other direction, that kind of Mommy.

I know some really terrific step parents who have gone the extra mile and have all the respect in the world for them. IMO it takes a lot of love to raise and discipline a child. It is far easier to just let them be.

Based on what you have said about your stepson, that effort you put forth has been rewarded - Good for you!

 

[cybrkitn]

LOL, I should have posted it in the first place.

http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=1400217

I think I did a real good job of not saying anything ugly back even though i felt like being totally snarky... well maybe I was a little.

I don't see anything wrong with what you did. And just like Mookie, I was also marched back into school by my mom when I kept forgetting to bring home my textbooks. I was in 4th or 5th grade at the time. I was very unorganized and finally broke the habit of it. Now I'm very organized at work, but not at home

Of course, some DISers (not all) will find some type of reason to debate and argue about who is right and who is wrong.

 

[cybrkitn]

People who can't respect (and I don't mean agree/support, but just respect) others parenting decisions when there is no actual abuse, just don't have confidence in their own decisions.

And it's not only with regard to parenting. It's practically anything on the Comm Board, especially any religious topics. There is just no respect (I'm referring to all aspects) from one side or both sides at times. One topic I've been on started out great, but rather than congratulating the OP, some people came on and turned it into a debate and were showing no respect at all. I can think of one in particular, but I'm not going to name names

I was lurking on a forum that belongs to an author I like and a Biblical perspective was brought up. Even though the thread was not that long, everyone was respectful of each other and it went off fine. You can see the maturity in the posters. And this forum I believe is a mix of teens and adults who like reading the books by this author.

After reading that thread on that forum, I couldn't believe the difference between the posters there and the posters here on the DISboards. I really enjoy posting on the DISboards. I just don't like it when a thread starts out with an innocent question or topic and is all of a sudden turned into an ugly debate. I don't even know if "debate" is the right word. I think "arguing" or "arguments" might be a better fit on some occasions, not all.

 

[Kae]

Mom is that you?

My mom did the same thing to me.

Kae

 

[shirleyb]

LOL, I should have posted it in the first place.

http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=1400217

I think I did a real good job of not saying anything ugly back even though i felt like being totally snarky... well maybe I was a little.

Wow, you are a bad parent. How can you sleep at night!!! Just kidding, that's too much! I'd have been much snarkier (is that a word??) than you were.

 

[ilovejack02]

Thanks everyone for being so supportive! I know that we all dont have the same ideas, but its nice to know most of us arent horrible people!
The person that disagrees isnt so bad, she just needs to know that those who disagree with her ideas arent the devil lol.