When you're on your 4th marriage, do you get married in a church?

[declansdad]

OP said it is the groom's 4th marriage and the brides 3rd marriage.

I would have to start a divorce pool.

Hadn't read that far when I posted but it still doesn't change my opinion. YOu don't agree, don't go.

 

[declansdad]

It wouldn't be proper to have a 4th marriage in a church. We would not attend such an event. If it's the Grooms first then he would need to have his head examined.

Why wouldn't it be proper? Is there a rule that says it can't happen? Who are we to judge if it is proper or not?

 

[wdwfan16]

Why wouldn't it be proper? Is there a rule that says it can't happen? Who are we to judge if it is proper or not?

Depending on the Church there are rules.

 

[sbell111]

See the problem is that all the divorced/remarried people are thinking that they are being picked on.

That is not the case.

Think about the OP's post.

The bride is going on her 4th marriage.
The groom is going on his 3rd.
Between them they have already had 5 marriages.
Does anyone honestly think this marrage has any chance of surviving????

My mom's been married four times, my dad five. My mom's current marriage has lasted for over thirty years. My dad's over twenty five years.

They both married people who had previous failed marriages and got married in a church. They did so because it was important to them. I don't understand why anyone other than them would care about where they got married. If an individual feels that they cannot support a person in his/her marriage, he/she should simply not attend the wedding.

 

[sbell111]

Depending on the Church there are rules.

True. In some religions, the marriage is not valid unless performed in a church.

 

[Ember]

My mom's been married four times, my dad five. My mom's current marriage has lasted for over thirty years. My dad's over twenty five years.

They both married people who had previous failed marriages and got married in a church. They did so because it was important to them. I don't understand why anyone other than them would care about where they got married. If an individual feels that they cannot support a person in his/her marriage, he/she should simply not attend the wedding.

Ah, yes, but after that many weddings did they at least have an open bar for the people who had already attended several of the previous ones?

On a serious note, I'm glad your parents beat the dramatically poor odds and were able to make it work. I will admit that I see some humor in the situation, but then I usually wind up laughing inappropriately at funerals, too, so perhaps I just have poor taste. To be fair, I laugh at my own life a fair amount, too. I meant the thread to be irreverent and light hearted, not to start a debate about remarriage.

In real life I will politely send my regrets because I really do hate receiving registry information with an invitation. Yes, this is a whole other debate, but I decline all events with gift instructions. I will send a card wishing the happy couple all the best and hope that this time things work out. I will not; however, hold my breath.

 

[PghLybrt]

So 4 marriages........ and I still can't marry my partner of 15 years because I am the one that hurts the "sanctity of marriage".



To each their own, but I am pretty fed up with all the benefits that go along with marriage that are out of reach for me and at the same time so accessible and disposable to others.

I would let it be known too, if it was an invitation for me to attend.

 

[Ember]

So 4 marriages........ and I still can't marry my partner of 15 years because I am the one that hurts the "sanctity of marriage".



To each their own, but I am pretty fed up with all the benefits that go along with marriage that are out of reach for me and at the same time so accessible and disposable to others.

I would let it be known too, if it was an invitation for me to attend.

You need to move to Canada. We have horribly cold winters, but seeing as you have someone to snuggle up with, you'll be fine.

 

[Arielle22]

You need to move to Canada. We have horribly cold winters, but seeing as you have someone to snuggle up with, you'll be fine.

You can come to MA. We have survived just fine despite the end of the world rants when the law was passed.

 

[PghLybrt]

You need to move to Canada. We have horribly cold winters, but seeing as you have someone to snuggle up with, you'll be fine.

You can come to MA. We have survived just fine despite the end of the world rants when the law was passed.

Thanks for the invites!

 

[mrsklamc]

The vast majority of people are living together before they get married anyway, no one bats an eyelash at that anymore. One's not a more egregious crime against marriage than the other- at least from a traditional 'church' perspective.

And honestly, I much prefer to have the registry information included in the invite- I know it's not what Miss Manners says but that social norm seems to have changed as well, in this area anyway. I rarely get an invite that doesn't include it anymore.

 

[wdwfan16]

The vast majority of people are living together before they get married anyway, no one bats an eyelash at that anymore. One's not a more egregious crime against marriage than the other- at least from a traditional 'church' perspective.

And honestly, I much prefer to have the registry information included in the invite- I know it's not what Miss Manners says but that social norm seems to have changed as well, in this area anyway. I rarely get an invite that doesn't include it anymore.

There is a difference. Two unmarried people is fornication. Once you married it is adultry.

 

[mrsklamc]

There is a difference. Two unmarried people is fornication. Once you married it is adultry.

I didn't say it wasn't different at all, just not different from a traditional church perspective in terms of a wedding, in a church, with a white dress, etc.

 

[declansdad]

Depending on the Church there are rules.

True and even then many have ways around that obstacle. It is also a rule set by some official not by the people attending the church.

 

[declansdad]

Ah, yes, but after that many weddings did they at least have an open bar for the people who had already attended several of the previous ones?

On a serious note, I'm glad your parents beat the dramatically poor odds and were able to make it work. I will admit that I see some humor in the situation, but then I usually wind up laughing inappropriately at funerals, too, so perhaps I just have poor taste. To be fair, I laugh at my own life a fair amount, too. I meant the thread to be irreverent and light hearted, not to start a debate about remarriage.

In real life I will politely send my regrets because I really do hate receiving registry information with an invitation. Yes, this is a whole other debate, but I decline all events with gift instructions. I will send a card wishing the happy couple all the best and hope that this time things work out. I will not; however, hold my breath.

So are you upset about the church wedding or the gift registry in the invitation?

 

[tasha99]

I would just go, have a good time, and support my friends or family. I'm far from perfect so it's not my style to be cynical about other people who aren't either.

 

[Disney Doll]

My mom's been married four times, my dad five. My mom's current marriage has lasted for over thirty years. My dad's over twenty five years.

They both married people who had previous failed marriages and got married in a church. They did so because it was important to them. I don't understand why anyone other than them would care about where they got married. If an individual feels that they cannot support a person in his/her marriage, he/she should simply not attend the wedding.

I agree. I wouldn't attend a 4th wedding in a church where the expectations of the guests were the same as the previous 3 weddings...these being
1. Be here
2. Bring another gift
3. Pretend that you really believe this one is going to last

Nope...I'd be sending regrets and a lovely card.

 

[Disneyrsh]

Seriously? A religious never-married woman is marrying a man who has been married 5 or 6 times already? I'd say she is either extremely naive or extraordinarily optimistic.

Stop talkin' bad about Sandra Bullock...

 

[ols386]

This.

And wow... hard to actually read through four whole pages of judgments, so I just stopped trying.

Yep, I agree. Kinda sad, isn't it.