When you're on your 4th marriage, do you get married in a church?

[nuttylawprofessor]

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I'm generally pretty neutral on things like this, but I figure by this point you owe people a drink.
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[FireDancer]

Here is a few others that are fitting.

Mistakes
it could be that the purpose of your life is only to serve as a warning to others.

Losing
If at first you don't succeed, failure may be your style.

Yes, also appropriate. Just so others can laugh along:

Sometimes the pictures make it even better.

 

[3boymthr]

Okay - but what wedding # is this for him? That may be why they're doing a church wedding. DH's father has been married 5 or maybe 6 times but his current wife has only been married once and she is very religious - thus a full blown catholic wedding.

 

[Jennasis]

Isn't one of the signs of insanity doing the same thing over and over but expecting a different result?.

That...and hair on your knuckles. That's the second sign you know.










Of course, the THIRD sign is actually looking for the hair.





I don't have a problem with anyone's choice to do anything at their wedding. I go, I smile, I have a good time, and I give a generous gift. I have been to some wacky weddings too. As far s the multiple church thing. It's always possible that while it may be #4 for one partner, it could be #1 for the other.

It just isn't worth getting my knickers in a twist over.

 

[nuttylawprofessor]

The huge reception I can understand, however what if its the groom's first, is he not entitled to have a huge party celebrating his marriage?
And as far as the whole Church thing, if its allowed by their religion, why shouldn't someone be married in a Church even after a few failed marriages? And why would anyone other than the bride and groom care if they were married in a Church or not I don't care what kind of promise you make to your God, thats between you and Him and nobody else.

Well if they were married in an Episcopal church in my presence, I would have had to have promised to "do all in [my] power to uphold these two persons in their marriage." In many Christian churches, marriage isn't just about the bride and groom. The promises aren't just between bride and groom. So I can see why some might be skeptical.

 

[emma'smom]

I'd go...I love weddings! As for the gift, maybe I would just do something fun,but smaller this time around. A salad bowl with 25 crunched up dollar bills to look like lettuce, some "veggie" refrigerator magnets, and some fun salad tongs. It's something fun that isn't really a "starting off your life" kind of gift---but if this person is your friend, then you are showing your support without putting out tons of $$.

 

[MrsPete]

I was under the impression that God forgives our mistakes.

God absolutely forgives our mistakes, but that doesn't mean we're excused from the natural consequences that arise from those mistakes. Nor does forgiveness mean permission to continue to make those same mistakes again and again.

 

[wdwfan16]

Okay - but what wedding # is this for him? That may be why they're doing a church wedding. DH's father has been married 5 or maybe 6 times but his current wife has only been married once and she is very religious - thus a full blown catholic wedding.

It cannot be a full blown Catholic wedding if she was married in the church before. She would need an annulment with just cause and they would look at why your DH's father had 5 or 6 other wives before.

They could have an exchange of vows but I highly doubt there is communion and a Chruch blessing to go with it.

 

[nuttylawprofessor]

I'd go...I love weddings! As for the gift, maybe I would just do something fun,but smaller this time around. A salad bowl with 25 crunched up dollar bills to look like lettuce, some "veggie" refrigerator magnets, and some fun salad tongs. It's something fun that isn't really a "starting off your life" kind of gift---but if this person is your friend, then you are showing your support without putting out tons of $$.

Holy crow. I LOVE this gift idea!

 

[MrsPete]

If it's the groom's first marriage and a big wedding is important to him, I can understand that better. I still don't think I would ask for gifts though since you should have plenty from all the previous weddings.

I don't know about all men, but my husband didn't care a bit about the wedding. It was something he did -- something he endured -- because he knew that I WANTED IT.

 

[MrsPete]

Yes, also appropriate. Just so others can laugh along:

Sometimes the pictures make it even better.

It would be wrong of me to print these out for my classroom, wouldn't it?

 

[MrsPete]

Holy crow. I LOVE this gift idea!

Better than giving a fruitcake! Or better yet . . . a big bowl of nuts.

 

[eliza61]

It may seem like a silly question, but you've been down that road three times already. You've made three sets of vows that you then broke. And now there you are again, making an oath to God... Again. I know I don't believe you anymore when you take your marriage vows. And if there is a God, I bet he's pretty skeptical about the whole thing by now, too.

Of course, if all three previous spouses had died that might be a different story...

Also, don't include registry information with the invitation. I gave you gifts at two of your previous weddings. Go and look at those. Lastly, based on previous weddings of yours I've attended there will probably be a cash bar. I'm generally pretty neutral on things like this, but I figure by this point you owe people a drink.

So, keeping all of this in mind, I feel I must decline your kind invitation to your 4th wedding. Please just skip my invite to #5.

LOL. I have a cousin who insist on having a big blowout for her weddings, she too is on husband #4.

I skip them now.

 

[luvmy3]

Well if they were married in an Episcopal church in my presence, I would have had to have promised to "do all in [my] power to uphold these two persons in their marriage." In many Christian churches, marriage isn't just about the bride and groom. The promises aren't just between bride and groom. So I can see why some might be skeptical.

Blame-
The secret to success is knowing who to blame for your failures

 

[mumom95]

God absolutely forgives our mistakes, but that doesn't mean we're excused from the natural consequences that arise from those mistakes. Nor does forgiveness mean permission to continue to make those same mistakes again and again.

Perfectly said. Mind if I steal it to use at various times

 

[mumom95]

The line about owing a drink was hilarious.

 

[nuttylawprofessor]

Blame-
The secret to success is knowing who to blame for your failures

Exactly.

 

[FireDancer]

It would be wrong of me to print these out for my classroom, wouldn't it?

Of course not. Perhaps these might be a bit more relevant for a classroom setting:

 

[FireDancer]

Blame-
The secret to success is knowing who to blame for your failures

Kind of along the same lines:

Corruption - I want either less corruption or more opportunity to participate in it.

 

[luvmy3]

Here's a couple more for the classroom

Humiliation- The harder you try, the dumber you look.

Idiocy- Never underestimate the power of stupid people in large group.