When you meet someone new do you go by your nickname or given name?

[Kimberlyann11]

I'm Kimberly but go by the diminutive of Kim. I don't have a nickname.

I have noticed a trend lately of people not using diminutives for their kids. DD goes to school with a bunch of James and Michaels. But not any Jims or Mikes. I find that odd, yet interesting.

 

[DisneyNutMary]

No nickname here, Mary is so short already- but there are people who like to call me Mare, I'm ok with it, but I don't introduce myself with it.
My son, Bobby, has been Bobby since birth, but when he started school he introduced himself as Robert or Rob, so only family, and close family friends still call him Bobby. I can't wrap my tongue around calling him Rob, he'll always be Bobby to me.
My son Tommy loves his nickname, loves being a Tommy- though his high school friends have shortened it to Tom, he still introduces himself as Tommy.

 

[mnrose]

I use the name everyone calls me, and not the name on my birth certificate. I doubt most of my friends even know that there is a different legal name.

 

[lizzi6692]

My name is Emily and that's how I introduce myself. There are really only 2 nicknames that are shortened versions of my name, Emmy, which was my grandma's nickname for me and I don't let anyone else call me, and Em, which a few of my very good friends call me. Then there are random nicknames that different people call me, but for the most part if I've just met someone they're going to call me Emily.
My husband typically introduces himself as Daniel and that's what I call him but most people end up shortening it to Dan. It doesn't bother him as long as they don't call him Danny. But it annoys me for some reason.
My dad's name is Walter but he rarely goes by that name. He was named after his father and has been called Junior for his whole life. Most of the time that's how he introduces himself. Except at work, everyone there calls him Walt, which is just so weird to me.

 

[aprilchem]

My name is April, so not really any nicknames there. My DH calls me Ape, but nobody else is allowed to

My DH has an odd name that people insist on mispronouncing with a foreign accent. It drives me batty, but doesn't bother him. We've had friends for 10 years+ that still mispronounce his name, even though I correct them every time.

 

[HelenePA]

I'm going to call you whatever you introduce yourself as to me.. if you have a nickname and want to be called it you'd better introduce yourself to me that way because I will just assume you want to be called what ever you tell me.. my neighbor is Chris but goes by Cubby.. I am the only one who calls him Chris (even his mom doesn't call him this) because that's what he introduced himself to me as.. My best friend is Davina but goes by Dee so she just introduces herself as Dee. And only one of my kids goes by a shortened name.. Abby.. I wanted to just put that on her birth certificate but my mom insisted she needed a "proper" name so its Abigail even my youngest son is Anthony.. not Tony. He is Anthony.

 

[lizzi6692]

I'm going to call you whatever you introduce yourself as to me.. if you have a nickname and want to be called it you'd better introduce yourself to me that way because I will just assume you want to be called what ever you tell me.. my neighbor is Chris but goes by Cubby.. I am the only one who calls him Chris (even his mom doesn't call him this) because that's what he introduced himself to me as.. My best friend is Davina but goes by Dee so she just introduces herself as Dee. And only one of my kids goes by a shortened name.. Abby.. I wanted to just put that on her birth certificate but my mom insisted she needed a "proper" name so its Abigail even my youngest son is Anthony.. not Tony. He is Anthony.

That reminds me, my uncle's given name is Danny. I've always thought it was so weird that my grandmother did that. With some names it's okay, but I think Danny just seems too juvenile to be someone's full name.

 

[teacherlisa1978]

I'm Kimberly but go by the diminutive of Kim. I don't have a nickname. I have noticed a trend lately of people not using diminutives for their kids. DD goes to school with a bunch of James and Michaels. But not any Jims or Mikes. I find that odd, yet interesting.

Our son is Michael. Mike doesn't even register as the same person to me. One of my brothers tries to call him that and it bugs me. I think it's very much because my brother-in-law is Mike. We named our little boy after him but going by different names helps especially since we have the same last name.

I have a student new to our school this year in 6th grade. He has always gone by Timmy and always writes that on his papers. Our principal has asked the teachers to call him Tim as we are trying to encourage him to take some ownership of his learning and mature a but.

 

[snapppyd]

Our son is Michael. Mike doesn't even register as the same person to me. One of my brothers tries to call him that and it bugs me. I think it's very much because my brother-in-law is Mike. We named our little boy after him but going by different names helps especially since we have the same last name.

I have a student new to our school this year in 6th grade. He has always gone by Timmy and always writes that on his papers. Our principal has asked the teachers to call him Tim as we are trying to encourage him to take some ownership of his learning and mature a but.

Wow, does his Mom know? I don't think it's up to the principal to decide what he calls himself.

My father was Tommy until he died at 77.

 

[Bounce_Tigger]

I am another one who calls people what they introduce themselves as. I have a friend who always gives people nicknames and I hate that - it's one thing if a person WANTS a nickname/likes what you came up with, but for someone say "I'm going to call you ___" is odd to me.

I work in education and I always feel bad when I see a name that is often shortened (Edward/Christopher, etc) and I don't know what the student goes by. I recently had a number of email exchanges with a student named William. I sent the initial email, addressed it "Good morning, William" and he signed all his subsequent emails with William as well. When I met him in person, I said "Nice to meet you, William" and he didn't correct me. His father was with him as well and, later in the conversation, his dad said something like "BJ will be arriving..."

I didn't want to start calling the student BJ, since he didn't ask me to, but now I feel like I'm too formal.

 

[AustinTink]

I have a student new to our school this year in 6th grade. He has always gone by Timmy and always writes that on his papers. Our principal has asked the teachers to call him Tim as we are trying to encourage him to take some ownership of his learning and mature a but.

Uh, what? Not cool. The school cannot take it upon themselves to issue this kid a new name because they find the name his parents gave him to be juvenile. So wrong.

Because his name has a "y" attached to the end his is immature and doesn't take ownership of his learning? Changing it will force him to mature? That's a crackup.

 

[Briarmom]

I have never once thought to call you Jude. In fact, I've never thought to call anyone whose name is Judy, 'Jude'.

As one of a bazillion Jessicas, I usually introduce myself as Jess. People call me Jess. I am not Jessi and will correct most people if they call me that.

My kids' names are not ones that can be shortened.

 

[snapppyd]

I have never once thought to call you Jude. In fact, I've never thought to call anyone whose name is Judy, 'Jude'.

As one of a bazillion Jessicas, I usually introduce myself as Jess. People call me Jess. I am not Jessi and will correct most people if they call me that.

My kids' names are not ones that can be shortened.

I know your kids names and I could think of a way to shorten them.

DH, my sisters, my best friend all call me Jude. (DH also calls me by my middle name or Donna Reed)

Now let's make some salads

 

[eeyoreandtink]

Uh, what? Not cool. The school cannot take it upon themselves to issue this kid a new name because they find the name his parents gave him to be juvenile. So wrong.

Because his name has a "y" attached to the end his is immature and doesn't take ownership of his learning? Changing it will force him to mature? That's a crackup.

It could be that the PARENT asked for the change. I have seen it happen, especially as a child transitions for Elementary to Middle, or middle to high. Sometimes parents decide that a name change will help their kids "grow up". I personally don't think so, but I have had parents request it.

 

[Briarmom]

I know your kids names and I could think of a way to shorten them.

DH, my sisters, my best friend all call me Jude. (DH also calls me by my middle name or Donna Reed)

Now let's make some salads

There are some ways to shorten them, but we mostly just call them by their first initials if we're going to shorten.

Uncle Judy calls you Donna Reed!?

I'd like 2 salads.

 

[brookmey]

I call people the name they introduce themselves as. It drives me nuts when others don't do that. My first name is Brook and my middle initial is T so growing up my dad and my grandfather called me BT. They were the only ones who did that and I liked having a name only they used. But there were some adults, not family members, who would hear my dad call me BT so they would call me that, too, even though I was introduced to them as Brook. I hated it.

My son's given name is Samuel, but no one calls him that, except when he's in trouble. . Even his dr and dentist call him Sam because they've known him for so long. He does not like Samuel and prefers Sam. When he was younger he thought it was pronounced Sammy El, so he would introduce himself that way. We have family members and some friends who still call him Sammy El, but he doesn't seem to mind it coming from them.

My daughter is Molly and most people call her that. DH and I call her Mar because when he was little Sam couldn't pronounce L very well so all his L sounds sounded like R. He would call her Mar when he meant to say Moll and the name just stuck. When she first started organized sports other parents would hear us call her Mar, so they would, too, even though we introduced her as Molly. She hated strangers calling her Mar so we had to stop saying it in public.

I wish people would ask for clarification on what name to use if someone is introduced with 1 name, but yet called something else by others. Sometimes nicknames are special ones that only parents or grandparents use. If it was OK for the whole world to use Mar, we would introduce her that way.

 

[snapppyd]

There are some ways to shorten them, but we mostly just call them by their first initials if we're going to shorten.

Uncle Judy calls you Donna Reed!?

I'd like 2 salads.

Yes, but he shortens that to just Donna

here ya go:

 

[tvguy]

My parents decided they would make the name they called me my middle name because it flowed better with what is my first name.

Helps sort out my friends from those using official records.

What amuses me is my middle name is only 4 letters, and people who know me all add something to the end to make it longer......like "ly" "ie" "o" "ito" "isimo" and "en".

 

[tigercat]

My son goes by his middle name (and that is how we wanted it to be) as his first name was for his great grandfather. It didn't fit as a middle name so it bacame his first name. Everyone calls him by his first name and know him by his first name except for his work. It is a government agency and he was informed that they had to go by his official name. He was fine with but it is funny to hear him called that.
tigercat

 

[Atlas722]

I go by my nickname.