When you meet someone new do you go by your nickname or given name?

[Wendy31]

I'm ALWAYS Liz. Except for the doctor's office...if I introduce myself as Liz and I later get Elizabeth, I will remind the person that it's Liz.

I dislike the nickname as it is, but I LOATHE Elizabeth even more. I've tried shortening it to Eliza; I've tried Beth, Lisa, Libby, etc.; I've even tried switching to my middle name (which I really like)...none of them would take.

On the flip side...I called my DH Jason until I realized that his entire family calls him Jay. Now it sounds weird to me when someone calls him Jason - even though it's pretty much my favorite boy's name!

I LOVE the name Elizabeth! It's my most favorite girl name! I also really like "Beth" & "Liz" for Elizabeth!

DH's name is Jason too, & I've always called him Jason - except his family refers to him as Jay. The only time I ever call him Jay is when I'm around his family. LOL!

 

[jrmasm]

I don't have a nickname. My name doesn't lend itself to shortening but if it did, I think I would introduce myself based on what I wanted that person to call me. Why tell someone your name is X if you want them to call you Y?

 

[zoemurr]

DD is Elisabeth and that's what we call her (well DH calls her Betty but that's just to annoy her haha!) I have found that most people call her Liz and it makes me nuts! I usually go by my nickname when introducing myself, although I had an elderly patient tell me the other day that she liked my full name better( my full name is on my name tag) so that's what she was going to call me lol

In college I had a friend named Christopher. He liked to be called that, and would introduce himself that way, but couldn't get anyone to ever not call him Chris. He found it very rude that people would say it to him 30 seconds after he told them what his name was. Seems like some names: William, Jeffrey, Jonathan, Nicholas.. are always abbreviated so people just assume it's fine.

My daughter is Rebecca and for the most part people call her that. A few friends say Becky but she will ask them to stop.

Now my son's name is 6 letters, two syllables. We never thought to shorten it. There is a fairly common nickname for it though, and we have heard quite a few people use it. (It's amazing how fast it spreads.) I'm always surprised that adults think it's ok to call your child something (when they are still little) without your permission in a room full of other children. Instantly your child's name can be changed. My son says he doesn't mind. I hated it at first, but it's growing on me.

My name is also 6 letters and common. Shortening it makes it a different name and I hate it. I only have one friend and she does it quite a bit. I cringe every time, but I haven't said anything.

DH's name is common and everyone I know that has it uses the shorter name. I have never heard him refer to himself with the longer version.

 

[snapppyd]

I don't have a nickname. My name doesn't lend itself to shortening but if it did, I think I would introduce myself based on what I wanted that person to call me. Why tell someone your name is X if you want them to call you Y?

I think because *I* don't call myself Jude - everyone else does. I just automatically say Judy when asked my name.

 

[design_mom]

I'm technically Kimberly, but everyone calls me Kim. I think of myself as Kim, not Kimberly. I introduce myself as Kim unless the situation is very formal. If my friends called me something that wasn't a shortened form of my given name (Red, Kitty, Bubba, etc.) I think I'd have trouble introducing myself that way.

My mother's given name is Betty, which was a common nickname for Elizabeth when she was born. Her name is not Elizabeth though, it's Betty on her birth certificate. She has had several instances where she introduces herself as Betty (or writes Betty on her forms) and someone switches it to Elizabeth. That annoys her.

 

[jrmasm]

I think because *I* don't call myself Jude - everyone else does. I just automatically say Judy when asked my name.

You're weird.

 

[HM]

I rarely go by my given name....it's only for ordering with my CC and stuff. So, yes, everyone is introduced to me by my nickname. It's also what I use at work.

That said...
If I meet someone new, I want to know what they want to be called. So, I'd want OP to be introduced as "Jude" to me.

I have a friend named Christine...that's how I was introduced to her and that's what I call her. I found out later that other people call her Chris, but since I got to know her as Christine, that's what I feel comfortable calling her.

Women that I grew up knowing as Mrs, such-and-such are still hard for me to think of by their first names now that I'm a grown up too. It's hard for me to change.

 

[snapppyd]

You're weird.

Tell me something I don't know!




Now if a certain person in my signature called me Boris I would answer, lol!

 

[ilovepcot]

I introduce myself by my nickname. No one calls me by my given name. There's no reason for the new person to even know my given name...most friends don't even know what it is.

 

[bjscheel]

Another Elizabeth here, and that's what everyone called me until Kindergarten. The teacher asked me at the beginning of the year what I wanted to go by, and I said Beth. I guess that came out of nowhere, but it was pretty smart to choose a shorter name to write! Now it's all anybody ever uses.

I have a hard time writing Elizabeth in cursive. I'm not used to it, and the z is so weird.

 

[LBIJim]

I'm James on anything official, but I introduce myself to people as Jim.

My wife is Angela and that's what she wants to be called. She HATES it if anyone calls her Angie.

Jim

 

[kmb584]

In college I had a friend named Christopher. He liked to be called that, and would introduce himself that way, but couldn't get anyone to ever not call him Chris. He found it very rude that people would say it to him 30 seconds after he told them what his name was. Seems like some names: William, Jeffrey, Jonathan, Nicholas.. are always abbreviated so people just assume it's fine.

My daughter is Rebecca and for the most part people call her that. A few friends say Becky but she will ask them to stop.

My daughter's name is Madeline and when people call her "Maddie" she is quick to correct them.

 

[threeboysmom]

I prefer my full name, Kimberly. Can't count the number of times the conversation goes something like this...

Me: "Hi, my name is Kimberly"
Them: "Nice to meet you, Kim"

Grrrrr.... Why do people do that?

 

[usnuzuloose]

When I met my now husband I told him my first name , but told him he could call me by my nick name. I don't let things like that bother me. Actually I tell most people that.

 

[Dizneefamily+4]

My name is Jennifer. I go by Jen - at least to friends, family and co-workers. When I introduce myself however, I always say my name is Jennifer. Otherwise, people seem to hear "Jan" or "Jean" for some reason.

 

[keiraliz]

When I met my now husband I told him my first name , but told him he could call me by my nick name. I don't let things like that bother me. Actually I tell most people that.

I do this too. My given name is Kaitlyn, and my nickname is Kat. I got my nickname later in life after my family and I moved to a different state and I ended up in a 7th-grade class with two other girls with the same name as me. As a result, I respond to both because I have friends/family who know me as Kaitlyn and others who know me as Kat. When I introduce myself to new people, I use my given name first and then tell them my nickname. I let them choose whichever name to call me, and it doesn't bother me which one they pick.

 

[tigercat]

I sign my name Catherine, I introduce myself as Catherine. The next minute they are calling me Cathy. I don't get really upset but I keep thinking that the new people should not change it right away. I'm not sure why they change it when there is no mention of the shorten version.
tigercat

 

[avgeek81]

I don't have a nickname and my name doesn't shorten so I don't have to worry about it
My best friend's sister's name is Jessica family and close friends cal her Jessie but she likes to go by Jessica for everyone else. I really only know her as Jessie so when I have to introduce her to someone or somebody calls her Jessica it sounds weird to me.

This girl I work with is named Samantha, when she first started everyone called her Sam because our old HR manager's name was Sam so we were used to it. She had to tell everyone that she prefers Samantha. I had to make a conscious effort every time I worked with her to call her by her full name. In fact i worked with her tonight and accidentally called her Sam and quickly corrected myself

My uncle is named Eugene but growing up they called him Roger because his dad's name was also Eugene. When he became an adult he started going by Gene. So family calls him Roger but his friends and people at work call him Gene. It gets really confusing if he is having a gathering that has both family and friends there

 

[indimom]

I'm Susan. I introduce myself as Susan. But I get called every single variation possible for that name, and I answer to any/all of them without thought.

My husband is Matthew, but everyone we know calls him Matt. I can't even remember the last time I saw him write Matthew.
I think his mom has called him Matthew a few times, when she was angry at him.

Our daughter is Emily Rose. She will answer to any variation of those names; but, introduces herself as Emily. She is used to nicknames because there are just too many Emilys around (six in her grade alone) and nicknames help avoid confusion. I use Rose/Rosie a lot in public for that reason, she always knows that name is "her own". I had no idea how popular Emily was when I named her.

Our son is Garren. He doesn't like Gary and corrects people if they try to shorten it.

 

[snapppyd]

My BIL is Joseph John. When he was born my DH couldn't say his name so he called him J.J. That was shortened to J. Almost everyone thinks his name is Jay. The people at work know him as Joe. It is very confusing for them when we are at a bbq, etc. and the family calls him Jay.