When you and your SO are having an argument

[Serena]

and it doesn't look like you are going to agree, how do you end the disaggrement?

Do you agree to disagree?

Do you or your SO give in?

Do you fight until one of you decides the other is right?

My friend told me she will concede just to keep the peace even as far as saying "yes, sir".

I happen to mention that the closest thing to "yes, sir" I would ever come up with would be, "yes sir, no sir, kiss my behind sir." She called me a troublemaker.

Anyway, what do you do?

 

[flaps]

I guess it depends what exactly we're arguing about, and why.

 

[Jolie C]

Fight to the death.



Okay, not really.... We fight until I convince him he's wrong and I'm right.

 

[Lisa L from MI]

hate to admit it.......btw.....PISTONS!!!!....oops....but no, me and DH dated since 1983.....17 yo.....married in 1991 with 2 kids now....we are "known" to have mighty arguements in front of our friends...and many of my friends admit that we will always be together since we don't "hide" the arguements......I know many couples that were so "lovey-dovey" that it made you sick.....and most of those are divorced already........I think it is better to have things out in the open....."be real people",,,,,,not fake and put on a show for others.....

Hope I didn't get too off topic...this must have been on my mind....and also, BTW, YEA PISTONS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Anyone want to come and drive down Gratiot with me??....or at least watch the kids while I do????

 

[pw2pp]

We just "let it go" or "drop it"

 

[catsrule]

I am always right.

 

[tonyswife]

Originally posted by catsrule
I am always right.

Me too! It's such a burden.

 

[poohandwendy]

Depends on whether the disagreement is going to result in an action or if it is a disagreement of opinion. Like if we were disagreeing about doing something, we usually just decide to compromise or go with the person who feels the most strongly about it or will be most impacted by it. If is over just an opinion, we just agree that we don't see eye to eye and drop it. Does that make sense?

Do you fight until one of you decides the other is right?

LOL, after 18 years of marriage, we have finally come to the conclusion that fighting over 'who is right' is a no-win situation for either of us.

 

[Jungle Skipper]

Originally posted by Jolie C

Okay, not really.... We fight until I convince him he's wrong and I'm right.

Now that's good stuff!

::sigh:: unfortunatly, I have no significant other to fight with ::sigh::

Jungle Josh

 

[shortbun]

my husband usually concedes to me. If not, I really think about
the issue because he rarely asserts himself. I usually win anyway but I give him respect.

 

[outstandinfarmer]

Whoever hits the hardest wins

Just kidding

When it is something real important, if we can't agree on it, we usually take a break from it and come back to it later. By then, we're more likily to compromise, or DH realizes to just give me my way to make me happy. I have a great guy. Seriously. His only concern is that I am happy. Also we never, EVER yell at each other while disagreeing.

We do have a joke though when we start to disagree, one of yells "WE'LL TALK ABOUT THIS LATER". We both start laughing and it immediately changes the fight into laughter. Usually the things we argue about aren't that important anyway, and it never gets brought up again.

If it's REAL important, then I start to cry. (That ALWAYS works) I had to bring out the tears when I explained to him how important it was for us to go to WDW together. He's never been there and doesn't see why we have to spend all that money when we have Six Flags a half hour away. Well, as you can see I got my way

 

[powellrj]

we will usually agree to disagree. I really can't think of anything major we have fought over lately. other then the oldie but goodie "you work too much, you are never home one" We have been fighting that one for almost 30 years and have agreed that I'm right, but he won't change.

 

[Ranatra]

We don't have many disagreements and we never fight in front anyone, we'll save it for later till we're alone and we can discuss it in private. I don't know about you, but I can't stand when people fight in front of other people. It's uncomfortable and I don't want to know their business.

If we can't get the other to see our side, we'll just agree to disagree on that subject. I don't try to get my way, I don't always have to be right, but I won't concede if I feel strongly about something and I NEVER cry.

 

[believe]

For the most part we discuss it and if it is something we can agree to disagree on then we do...if it needs resolution then we try to find a compromise. If their isn't a compromise then we discuss it till we decide which solution is best.

 

[onecoolmama]

Originally posted by Jungle Skipper
Now that's good stuff!

::sigh:: unfortunatly, I have no significant other to fight with ::sigh::

Jungle Josh

DH is sitting here telling me to tell you...be carrful what you wish for!


I think we pretty much argue until one concedes. Usually it is whoever is a better arguer or knows more about the subject. HHHMMM..I won national gold medals in speech and debate...so I dont think he ever stood a chance!

No, once in a blue moon..he is right or at least he agrues to the point where I could see his logic. I set him straight so he doesn't think like that..and we move on!

 

[outstandinfarmer]

No, once in a blue moon..he is right or at least he agrues to the point where I could see his logic. I set him straight so he doesn't think like that..and we move on!

 

[NMAmy]

We see most issues the same way--if it's something one or the other feels really strongly about, the other person will concede after we discuss the reasons WHY we feel that way. I am really blessed with a man who can see both sides of any issue and helps me to be less emotional and see both sides as well.

We would never fight to the death on an issue. I'd rather be happy than right.

 

[antkim]

Oh Boy! You really don't want to be around Dh and I when we argue!! LOL We seem to go in spurts-no arguements for months and the BAHM we don't see eye to eye for a week!! We are also the type to "not hide it" meaning we have been known to "bicker" more in a joking manner in front of friends/family! That's just us and no one even pays attention. The one I don't like to argue in front of is ds but it has happened a few times and we ALWAYS sit with him and tell him that we love each other but sometimes grown ups have arguements just like kids do with friends. Doesn't make it right but at least we try to explain.

Ps-I'm right 99.9% of the time!

Kim

 

[Tarheel Tink]

The only time I have been wrong was when I thought I was wrong but wasn't!

 

[Serena]

We didn't fight well, he had this problem of being right no matter what. It didn't sit well with me.

Anyway, I was just curious to how others deal with things. It's interesting.