When Innocent Posts Go Bad...

[RyMickey]

I just gotta rant a little...Never done this before on these boards (not a frequent Community Board thread starter, but bear with me)...

So, a few days ago, I commented on a thread in another section of the DisBoards. The OP was asking a simple question about choosing between two parks. I stated my opinion, backed it up with some statements supporting my opinion, and posted.

Lo and behold, hours later, I'm seemingly being inundated with remarks as to how wrong I am and how, as a 26 year old guy, I could never understand what a parent feels since I'm not one, and stuff like that. In my head, I'm countering that with "I've never jumped off a bridge either, but I know that can't be fun" mentality or something like "I may be 26, but I know kids like Dumbo!". I've travelled with kid cousins...but anyway. Now, none of these remarks were derrogatory or mean-spirited, but they were uncalled for, I thought, on a simple thread that was asking an opinion.

Then, come to find out, another thread was posted on another board about my comments on the said thread above! So, of course, I had to comment on that thread, too, because I was heated at this point...Am I not allowed to have my opinion (which obviously isn't a correct opinion, as I was told several times, because I'm a 26 year old guy without kids)? The funny thing about this whole thing is that I never said anything bad about the other park in question. I just chose one over the other based on my thoughts.

So, now I'm itching to go back and comment on both of these threads, but my better judgment has convinced me not to. However, it's made my opinion even stronger than it was before! In their attempts to sway me, they made me disagree with them ever more!

So, in conclusion, I pose this question...Have you ever let a seemingly innocent post get under your skin for days because of peoples' responses to it? Do you feel you have to be, for lack of a better word, "intimately" involved with something in order to comment on it, or do you post even if you're "removed" from the situation for whatever reason?

Once again, sorry for the rant...it kinda felt better just to type it all out as crazy as that may seem!

 

[poohandwendy]

My advice, try not to take it too personally. I totally understand what you are saying, but it's best not to take internet opinions too seriously.
I don't know anyone who has experienced one thing that there isn't another person who had the same experience and felt the opposite about it.

Opinions are just that. Nothing more. So, I would let it go and put those people on mental ignore.

And just for laughs:

In my head, I'm countering that with "I've never jumped off a bridge either, but I know that can't be fun" mentality

I have jumped off a bridge and it was fun...scary as all hell, but fun. Not to mention totally stupid. (I was young and dumb) I hope that makes you chuckle, I am only being lighthearted.

 

[lindalinda]

People disagreed with you. Get used to it. You can post your opinion, but why would you question others then countering it with their experiences?

 

[KerriSue]

This has happened to me. It was one of my first posts. Someone had asked a question about getting babies to sleep blah blah blah. I posted what I had done and bam---all these posts saying how horrible my advice was. Let me just say that I felt horrible. It was a few days before I was going on vacation and all I could think about was the awful people belittling my advice. It was as if it was a personal attack on me and did I ever take it wrong.

Its important to remember not to takes things so hard. Sometimes I have to step back and move on.

They need a sign on the DIS that says:

OPINIONS GIVEN AT USERS RISK


Kerri

 

[2BigKIdz]

People disagreed with you. Get used to it. You can post your opinion, but why would you question others then countering it with their experiences?

Apparently his opinion wasn't countered with other experiences but was blatantly told it was wrong and went further by starting another thread about his "wrong" opinion, at least that is my understanding. How can an opinion of a park be wrong

Sorry this happened to you RyMickey. Even though this is a "Disney" board there are often rude and judgmental people that just like to stir up trouble. But as another poster said, try not to let it get to you.

 

[imsorry]

People disagreed with you. Get used to it. You can post your opinion, but why would you question others then countering it with their experiences?

I think this is the kind of snarky answer he is talking about - get used to it?

 

[Pixie Tales]

Sometimes people are so one sided they forget we are all allowed to have our own personal opinions..

Sorry you were treated badly, but try not to let it get to you..

 

[teacups]

I think this is the kind of snarky answer he is talking about - get used to it?

I second that. Why should poeple "get used" to rude? I think more time should be spent telling the rude to "get manners".

 

[grinningghost]

I second that. Why should poeple "get used" to rude? I think more time should be spent telling the rude to "get manners".

I vote for this answer too.

 

[U2_rocks!]

Opinions are never "wrong". People are free to disagree, but it's sad when people have to tell others they are "wrong" for simply having a differing opinion on something that has no right or wrong answer.

Sorry that happened to you, OP - it's frustrating. We put a little bit of ourselves out there every time we post, and even though this is a mostly anonymous message board, it's still hard to be stomped on. No-one wants to be remembered for being involved in a thread that went sour (and believe me, some people never forget, and some people love to play detective ), and no-one wants to be bad-talked on another thread, or even another board. Not if we want to show our faces here ever again, anyway!

 

[NewJersey]

I think this is the kind of snarky answer he is talking about - get used to it?

Some people on these boards are so freakin' rude. I know I'm going to get points if something like what happened to the OP happens to me. I have no patience for that.

Sorry, OP.

 

[Mari annie]

don't let it get to you.....
oh well.

 

[KadysMom]

I see this all too often. I will read a thread with someone asking a question and within 20 minutes you have 5 pages and it is people bashing each others responses... WHY?

 

[The Mayor]

Take it with a grain of salt...this is most likely the only outlet those rude people have to justify their miserable existence...by acknowledging them is just fuel for those idiots.

 

[jonestavern]

I think this is the kind of snarky answer he is talking about - get used to it?

I second that. Why should poeple "get used" to rude? I think more time should be spent telling the rude to "get manners".

Well said!

Jean

 

[Maleficent13]

I'm with you, I totally don't get it. As an example, there was once a thread asking why people don't want to stay at the Comtemporary. So people answered with their reasons why they don't care for that hotel. The OP and a few others were HOT all over them, countering their OPINIONS with "That's not true" and "You can't say that because..." oh, and my fave "You can't think that about the Contemp and still like this other hotel!" Um, what??? I don't have to justify why I choose not to stay at the Contemporary...it's my choice to stay wherever I like. I tried to point that out but was largely ignored (which I guess is better than being thrashed about it). How is it possible to argue with someone's hotel/park/restaurant preference??

 

[Chattyaholic]

There are people who think their opinion is right, and anyone who disagrees with them is wrong.

I've had people call me ignorant, an idiot, etc. just because my opinion of certain things is different than theirs.

I post less on really controversial topics because I am tired of people calling me names, or saying I am wrong, for not sharing the same opinion they do.

 

[Allie322]

A few years ago, I replied to a thread about how windy it had been. I commented that my husband was not going to be happy when he got home because he had spent the day before raking the leaves in our yard and the wind had blown the neighbor's unraked leaves all into our yard. Well, who would have known how controversial LEAVES would be??? One person was particularly mean. I have to say, it did bother me for a while. But it really was an eye-opener for me. I enjoy these boards and I love how much I've learned from them--both Disney and non-Disney related. Now, I lurk frequently and post rarely.

Although it's tough, I have to agree with the others that advised trying not to let it get to you--sometimes easier said than done!

 

[Niagara2]

Just post PINEAPPLE next time!

 

[KerriSue]

Take it with a grain of salt...this is most likely the only outlet those rude people have to justify their miserable existence...by acknowledging them is just fuel for those idiots.

EXACTLY