What's too young?

[Aimee K]

Marseeya, could the baby have been 4 wees old? Maybe in all the loudness and roudiness, you overheard the conversation incorrectly?

 

[yeartolate]

I had a C-section on a Friday and on the following Tuesday I strolled with my son to the market (about a mile each way) and with a side trip to the local coffee shop. It never dawned on me to go on lock down after he was born. (and I am a nurse!)

My confession as a bad mother.

I mop when I get around to it.
I vacuum when I can see stuff I need to vacuum.
Never considered disinfecting my counter space.
When I saw the cats in my son's crib - my first thought was "how cute"
The first time I saw our dog lick my son's face I thought "how sweet"
Never considered sterilizing a baby bottle.
My son (now 11) runs around in his bare feet. Even outside.
I let my son run out without a jacket because I figure that if he gets REALLY cold he will remember next time.
I let my son go outside without drying his hair after a shower becasue I figure that (see above sentence).


Now at age 11, my son has probably been to the doctor a dozen times. (including well baby visits). He gets a short lived (few days) cold every other year at most. The only time he has been out of school in the past 5 years has been for Disney Visits.

 

[elismom]

I remember taking my kids out at a very early age
My last DS(11) was born at home on a friday on sat I was out walking around the neightbour hood with him in my arms.
My took my first dd out to dinner (shes now 24) when she was only 5 days old and they didnt have smoking sections in restraunts back then
IN FACT
I remember when I had my first DS now 26 they had a smoking room in the hospital on the materinty floor the nurses would take the babies so you could go have a smoke
We had a bottle of champaine(spelling) in the hospital room after DS(26) was born I remember drinking it from a plastic cup I think we even gave a glass to the doctor
Why are people so quick to judge other parents on this board

 

[Aidensmom]

I had my preemie in Walmart a week after he was born. And I chugged a nice big ice cold beer the day after I came home from the hospital (my son was not able to breastfeed anyway). I had planned to be in the house I was renting before he was born, but he wasn't cooperative with his due date, and I needed a few things for moving. He's always been perfectly healthy. I think it is up to each mother when they think their child is ready to go out, and where is appropriate, as long as they are not placing their child in danger.

 

[Marseeya]

Wasn't the bar separate from the restaurant? I don't think that they were actually in a smoky bar.

As for the girl smoking, I only smoked when I drank before I had DS. Since she had a drink, she may have felt the desire to smoke too. There's no indication that she smoked around the baby at all!

I'm not sure if I can describe how the restaurant is set up adequately. You know how an Applebees or TGIFridays has a bar smack dab in the middle of the restaurant? It was like this, only there's no buffer zone between the restaurant and the bar part. The bar isn't the only smoking section either... there's a smoking section to the left of it. We were sitting right across from the bar with one table between us and the bar, as were the people with the baby. So the bar was to one side and the smoking section was to another side.

I'm pretty sensitive to smokey places because it brings out my cravings something fierce, so we don't often actually go there.

 

[yeartolate]

A friend of mine nearly had a heart attack when I mixed a bottle of formula at the zoo with water from the drinking fountain.

 

[phamton]

First baby: she was about a week old when my mom and I went shopping at the mall.

2nd and 3rd babies (twins): about 3 weeks old (only because I was still a little sore from a C-Section (they were my only c-section deliveries)

4th baby: Born Dec. 23, took him to my grandmothers where about twenty or my closet relatives were there on Dec 24th. (We celebrate Christmas on Christmas Eve.) He was only one day old.

5th baby: honestly, don't remember but I am sure he was less than a week old.

 

[yeartolate]

4th baby: Born Dec. 23, took him to my grandmothers where about twenty or my closet relatives were there on Dec 24th .

Closet relatives, I have a few of those.

 

[Marseeya]

I'll be glad to point out to you where she judged the mother:



She certainly isn't speaking of the mother in the most "glowing terms".....I would definitely call that "judging".

What terms would you prefer I use? I know chugging when I see it. Would you prefer guzzling, gulping, inhaling, or tossing back? Oh wait, I know! I should have said "imbibed," but somehow that doesn't seem to describe the sight of a person with a tall glass of beer, tossing her head back and drinking it down all at once. In my world, that's called chugging.

I'm not denying that it bothered me -- I said it in my first post. But I'm also not painting everyone who takes a young baby out with such broad strokes as some of you seem to be inferring from what I've written.

The asking about when people took their little ones out was just conversation. I even admitted to taking mine out very early, so I have no idea what's up ya'lls butts.

 

[palmtreegirl]

I really don't remember the exact amount of time but I know it was sooner then 2 weeks. After I had my DD I asked the nurses & doctor at the hospital when it was OK to take her out and they told me if she was healthy enough to leave the hospital, she was healthy enough to go out when we were home.

 

[Marseeya]

Marseeya, could the baby have been 4 wees old? Maybe in all the loudness and roudiness, you overheard the conversation incorrectly?

No, they said days -- this girl was talking very loudly, and then the waitress repeated it, very surprised.

 

[Marseeya]

We were just at my SIL's in Atlanta--she had a C-section the week before Thanksgiving--and 10 days later--still in lots of pain. (2-story home--one too many trips up/down the stairs--so she stayed upstairs for the weekend).

I'm curious--why so different for all the c-section moms? Some bounce back--and others...very painful. I know it is major surgery. She felt soooo bad.

Did she labor at all? Both of my c-sections were extremely different. I labored for 15 hours with the first one and my recovery was a lot more difficult. My second c-section was scheduled and I had an easier time with it, plus I've heard that subsequent c-sections are easier to recover from. I felt great after my second one -- I was downright euphoric, although some of that feeling of well-being could have been from the breastfeeding

 

[Cantw8]

What terms would you prefer I use? I know chugging when I see it. Would you prefer guzzling, gulping, inhaling, or tossing back? Oh wait, I know! I should have said "imbibed," but somehow that doesn't seem to describe the sight of a person with a tall glass of beer, tossing her head back and drinking it down all at once. In my world, that's called chugging.

I'm not denying that it bothered me -- I said it in my first post. But I'm also not painting everyone who takes a young baby out with such broad strokes as some of you seem to be inferring from what I've written.

The asking about when people took their little ones out was just conversation. I even admitted to taking mine out very early, so I have no idea what's up ya'lls butts.

Let me see if I can help make it clear for ya So what if she was chugging a beer? Was she putting it into the baby's bottle? So what if she left to have a smoke, it may not be socially acceptable anymore, but it is still legal. So what if she had her 4 day old baby out? Also not against the law. You were being judgemental. You were implying that doing these things made her wrong, in your opinion. If not, why bring it up in the first place? If the entire purpose of your post was to ask at what age the rest of us took our younguns out, you would have left it at that, not mentioned the chugging and smoking. See? I also wasn't calling all teenage girls, skanks the other night. It wasn't even the jist of my post, but that's what you chose to zero in on. See how frustrating that can be?

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Did she labor at all? Both of my c-sections were extremely different. I labored for 15 hours with the first one and my recovery was a lot more difficult. My second c-section was scheduled and I had an easier time with it, plus I've heard that subsequent c-sections are easier to recover from. I felt great after my second one -- I was downright euphoric, although some of that feeling of well-being could have been from the breastfeeding

No--she was scheduled, but her water broke the night before. She said she got the good incision that hides in the bikini line (they had contemplated doing the not good one). Baby was a sideways breech with low amniotic fluid and hadn't turned in months and they decided that conditions were not favorable to turn him. She had a lot of tugging since they did do the good incision--they were making it possible for him to be born that way. It took a good 10 minutes to remove him. No idea if this is normal either.

It was her first baby and she never wants to have a c-section again. It hurt that bad.

The day before thanksgiving she said it felt like she pulled a muscle (very badly pulled) in her abdomen. She was told to avoid contracting her abdominal muscles--and from climbing up and down the stairs, it was impossible. I imagine that had she not had that happened, she would have been in less agony over the weekend. Overall though--she did say it was a tough recovery even before that happened.

 

[phamton]

Closet relatives, I have a few of those.

Oops! Love those typos!

 

[DisneyAddict_M]

I took dd to McDonald's and Babies R Us when she was 4 days old. Took her to work with me when she was 7 days old. This was in January too. Lucky for me, she didn't die of pneumonia and all the germs knew enough to stay away.

 

[Marseeya]

Let me see if I can help make it clear for ya So what if she was chugging a beer? Was she putting it into the baby's bottle? So what if she left to have a smoke, it may not be socially acceptable anymore, but it is still legal. So what if she had her 4 day old baby out? Also not against the law. You were being judgemental. You were implying that doing these things made her wrong, in your opinion. If not, why bring it up in the first place? If the entire purpose of your post was to ask at what age the rest of us took our younguns out, you would have left it at that, not mentioned the chugging and smoking. See? I also wasn't calling all teenage girls, skanks the other night. It wasn't even the jist of my post, but that's what you chose to zero in on. See how frustrating that can be?

Can you point out to me one time where I said I wasn't being judgmental? I have no idea why you keep trying to convince me I was when I haven't denied it once.

I as much as admitted it when I said, "it bothered me." That particular instance bothered me, but not all instances of babies going out early bother me. I actually got to wondering how many people here would have done something like that and/or how early they actually take their babies out.

I'm certainly not the only one in this thread who has said that taking a four-day old baby to an environment like that is not the brightest thing in the world to do.

 

[Karel]

It would have made me raise an eyebrow.

When my oldest was born, we didn't leave the house much in the beginning. Mostly, because it was the end of January and we didn't have to.

Now, when my youngest was born, we left her at 7 days old with good friends of ours so we could go out. I know she went Christmas shopping with me when she was only a few weeks old.

I don't think it's healthy to take one so young into such an enviroment as a bar/restaurant.

 

[BriarfoxinWA]

My oldest went to his first horseshow at age 3 days - it was only for an hour at most. And no I wasn't riding in it - my mom was secretary and many of my friends were there.

My youngest spent a week at the fairgrounds starting when he was 6 days old. I was secretary for a State Sheriff's Mounted Posse convention. He actually slept for 8 hours the first night - must have been all the fresh air. Both of these incidents were in the summer so it was warm - didn't have to worry about the cold weather.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

My confession as a bad mother.

I mop when I get around to it.
I vacuum when I can see stuff I need to vacuum.
Never considered disinfecting my counter space.
When I saw the cats in my son's crib - my first thought was "how cute"
The first time I saw our dog lick my son's face I thought "how sweet"
Never considered sterilizing a baby bottle.
My son (now 11) runs around in his bare feet. Even outside.
I let my son run out without a jacket because I figure that if he gets REALLY cold he will remember next time.
I let my son go outside without drying his hair after a shower becasue I figure that (see above sentence).

Love it, especially the dog and cat comments!