What's too young?

[Lisa loves Pooh]

They've left the house at a week--but it was many many many weeks before we went to a restaurant.

They left the house for the grocery store, church, and doctors appointments. Things where it was necessary for them to come along. I agree that going outside for fresh air is okay.

Wow--4 days old is too young to be hanging out in a restaurant--especially if it isn't an entirely non-smoking restaurant. Hardly old enough to be familiar with the babies rhythm/schedule...not to mention wanting to even mess with those changing tables (YUCK!)

I will admit my youngest also had to go out daily for her first two weeks for blood tests---poor kid. Once the tests were no longer required--it seemed very weird to not go out..so we kept going out daily for another week or two. It was not very fun!

 

[pfishgirl]

well........i..........ummm........ : had DS out on the day we left the hospital... we went and saw grandma at work, she's a nurse, so all her coworkers got to see him too.. then we went for icecream and then home... where other family members were waiting with a small surprise party..

i do totally agree i would NOT bring an infant to a smoky bar though...

 

[L107ANGEL]

OMG, please just chill. NO, I'm not saying it's okay for that kind of behavior for crying out loud (and do you even know the background story behind those comments? It's a personal aside between me and Cantw8 if you would have read my final note.). And I was asking opinions about taking a baby out and how early. If you'd READ my first post, I admitted to having a skewed opinion of it because of my own experiences. Again, I'm talking about a loud, rowdy, smokey restaurant, not just out in general.

Sheesh.

First of all, I do know how to read, You asked for an opnion and I wll gladly share mine. I did read your first post and I still think you are judgemental and wrong for that alone. JMHO!

 

[Planogirl]

Wasn't the bar separate from the restaurant? I don't think that they were actually in a smoky bar.

As for the girl smoking, I only smoked when I drank before I had DS. Since she had a drink, she may have felt the desire to smoke too. There's no indication that she smoked around the baby at all!

 

[GJM]

My DS was born on a Thur. and on Tue. I took him to have his picture taken with Santa. It was his first Christmas. After that I took him to work so everyone could see him. But we would take him out to restaurants, sat in no smoking. It was so great because he would sleep the whole time.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

First of all, I do know how to read, You asked for an opnion and I wll gladly share mine. I did read your first post and I still think you are judgemental and wrong for that alone. JMHO!

Not one person on planet earth can ever claim to not be judgemental. OP witnessed an event---brought it to the board for discussion....I missed the part where she judged her and called the lady an awful mother and what not.

By calling the OP judgemental--you are also making a judgement.

Her particular quote you used--was clearly not directed toward the situation in the OP. Just a little DIS banter.

 

[Texan Mouseketeer]

When I was pregnant with my first, I was all about how I wasn't going to take him out of the house for the first six weeks or however long the politically correct amount was that I read from some book. Well, the day we came home from the hospital, I was cracked, bleeding and raw from nursing (sorry about the TMI!). I had once again read that you were not supposed to put any sort of creams on you and I had absolutely nothing for relief. I was ready to throw those darn books in the trash!! My worthless now ex-husband refused to go to the baby store to ask for something because he was too embarrassed, so I put ex and baby in the car and went to go get it myself! After I saw how easy it was and it wasn't the huge ordeal I feared it would be, I started to do little outings like my mom's, a drive through fast food place, and the baby store each day or two just to get me out of the house for a little bit. I honestly can't remember doing the first restaurant, but I know I didn't have my mom babysit until he was four months (just an hour and a half for a dinner) and then I wondered what in the heck took me so long to do that!!!

 

[tiggersmom2]

Not one person on planet earth can ever claim to not be judgemental. OP witnessed an event---brought it to the board for discussion....I missed the part where she judged her and called the lady an awful mother and what not.

By calling the OP judgemental--you are also making a judgement.

Her particular quote you used--was clearly not directed toward the situation in the OP. Just a little DIS banter.

I'll be glad to point out to you where she judged the mother:

Someone asked her how old the baby was and she said four days old! And there was mama, chugging away at a beer and then went to the bar to smoke a cigarette...

She certainly isn't speaking of the mother in the most "glowing terms".....I would definitely call that "judging".

 

[DisneyLovingMama]

DD was born in Summer, so we were out early - maybe 2 weeks. With, DS, it was closer to 4 weeks. I remember bringing him to see Santa as his first visit outside. I didn't take him to a restaurant until he was 6 or 7 months - just because I don't eat out much.

 

[Aimee K]

I took my middle daughter to the mall on the way home from the hospital. Yep. The mall. She arrived a little bit early, and I wanted to have a bassinet for her, so I stopped at JC Penny.

 

[ChrisnSteph]

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

I'll be glad to point out to you where she judged the mother:



She certainly isn't speaking of the mother in the most "glowing terms".....I would definitely call that "judging".

And there you are typing a short post.



Where's the judgement? Sounds to me like an observation.

Now if she said there's the dumb mother....or stupid mother....or whatever.

Now if she was "sipping" her beer....

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

 

[Louise-Montreal]

My doctor told me three weeks old to bring them to a mall. He said if I wanted to go outside or to my family- anytime. But exposure to new people and germs- he said three weeks old.

 

[daisyduck123]

I had a C-section with DD11 on a Monday night & came home from the hospital that Friday nite. On Saturday I took her to the community pool party for a few hours to show her off. Hey, she was my first.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

I had a C-section with DD11 on a Monday night & came home from the hospital that Friday nite. On Saturday I took her to the community pool party for a few hours to show her off. Hey, she was my first.

We were just at my SIL's in Atlanta--she had a C-section the week before Thanksgiving--and 10 days later--still in lots of pain. (2-story home--one too many trips up/down the stairs--so she stayed upstairs for the weekend).

I'm curious--why so different for all the c-section moms? Some bounce back--and others...very painful. I know it is major surgery. She felt soooo bad.

 

[tiggersmom2]

And there you are typing a short post.

Didn't know I had to conform to a certain amount of words or sentences in my post. I figured you would be on the weather channel tonight...not critiquing my posts.

I am pretty sure that many people who read the OP do indeed deduce that the OP is censuring this mother for her behavior. Doesn't take rocket science to figure that out.

 

[LoveWDW]

My first was premature. The doctor said wait until he was 10 lbs before exposing him other people.

 

[daisyduck123]

I'm curious--why so different for all the c-section moms? Some bounce back--and others...very painful. I know it is major surgery. She felt soooo bad.

I'm not sure why it's so different for everyone. I know that for me, with my first C-section my OB stitched me up. I felt almost great..not really sore at all. I was out walking, driving, everywhere.

For my 2nd C-section, she stapled me. That was very painful & I was slower to heal.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Didn't know I had to conform to a certain amount of words or sentences in my post. I figured you would be on the weather channel tonight...not critiquing my posts.

I am pretty sure that many people who read the OP do indeed deduce that the OP is censuring this mother for her behavior. Doesn't take rocket science to figure that out.

Actually--you are right it doesn't seem to take rocket science. The comment is negatively skewed.

(I wasn't critiquing your post btw)

Nice comment on the weather channel though.