What's the Soonest YOU Would ever have a Vow Renewal?

[MonorailPilotMulan]

Before DF and I were even engaged we would toss around Disney venues for our wedding (we started discussing marriage a year and a half into dating). At the time we were looking at Magic kingdom (I know! That's crazy, right?) but I figured that would start saving and invest the money to watch it grow because we knew it would be a while before we'd get married, after all, he was in college and I was still in high school. We started saving but a couple months later, he had a "dream" of a beautiful little girl, presumably one of our kids, walking down the aisle as our flower girl and he knew that we wouldn't be able have that full wedding experience and settled on a smaller wedding with hopes for a larger celebration someday with our future children. I don't know how often we would have a VR, but I'd like to have one after children to show them how much they're parents love each other (but not pull a Gosselin's) and maybe one more time as an older couple, maybe as the kids move out and we are left to rediscover each other. I agree with the notion of a VR at a major life milestone that changes the dynamic of the relationship, not specific years.

 

[tinkerbell 766]

You are getting so close, it must be very exciting!!!!!!!! wishing you a lovely VR!

Awww sweetie, thank you so much!!! I am so excited, I can hardly breathe!!!
We intend to really enjoy this special day!!

 

[SamSam]

I don't think there is a right or wrong answer to this, if a vow renewal is something you would love to do...do it. For Dh and I, we have been married 39 years, and we are planning an Anniversary Celebration in WDW for our 40th next Feb., no vow renewal, but a celebration of our years together shared with 20+ family member and 10+ Florida friends. Thank goodness for our DVC!

 

[that-a-way]

My brother and SIL are planning their Disney vow renewal for the 10 year mark.

I'd say 10/15 is the perfect time to renew your vows and have a romantic getaway!

 

[Scrappy_Tink]

Me & DH have been to WDW two times since our wedding. We call them our "Mini-Moons".

 

[disprincessatheart]

We have done a Disney trip for our 3 anniversaries so far - 3 years tomorrow this year we did a couple weeks early to avoid easter week. Every time we eat at narcoossees which is where we did our wedding dinner and the first 2 years we got replicas of the top tier of our wedding cake!

At either 5 or 10 dh and I want to do an epcot dessert party and get some family to come down for a celebratory trip! My family will certainly be up for it and dh's dad is a very go with the flow kind of guy so I'm sure they will be in! We loved our wedding day but an anniversary party is more our style instead of the ceremony itself!

 

[librarygeek]

If money were not an option, I would do a VR every five years - but it would be a totally different ballgame from the wedding, so I wouldn't even think of them the same. It would be super small, just us and MAYBE our parents and really informal. I would love to do it in 5 years at Disney since I can't go to Disney for my wedding, but who knows will happen then in terms of jobs and $$! So we shall see!

 

[AmberHeartsDisney]

5-10 id like to have kids by that time and let them be there.

 

[Rland8228]

We are thinking of having our vow renewal for our 5th year, but we have had a lot of life changing things going on and I really never had my wedding it was more my mothers wedding so I would like to have my own.

 

[LWatson]

DH and I had planned to do our VR this year at 8.5yrs (he was supposed to get R&R earlier in the deployment when the planning started) since it made 15years since we had started dating. Now, we arent sure when we will do it. Our 8th anniversary is 3wks away, so its still fresh in my mind as we just canceled the VR for the fall. If we did it next summer it would be weird as it would be our 9th anniversary, and closing in on 16yrs of dating....but if we waited till our 10th he will be deployed again plus (oh this i the part that makes me shiver) we would have to do it on a saturday for family and that saturday is the 13th and the year would be 2013.....one 13 ok...2 I'm not taking any chances.

The reason we have wanted to do a VR is because we have outlasted what everyone thought we would. I heard my mom during the planning say that she wasnt going to spend a ton of money on something that wont last. It was said after I asked for a reception at the golf course and she was discussing it with my dad. I wore my Prom dress as a wedding dress, the day chosen was the only day my parents would do it since my sister was not in band camp, and I had no choice in anything....all because they didnt think we would last. DH & I want to have a VR our way so that we can get it the way we want it...not the way my mom did, and so that we can celebrate lasting 8yrs vs 5wks (yeah everyone gave us 5wks-5months). Plus during these past 8yrs we have survived w/o being near each other for 4. We are on our 5th deployment in those 8yrs so I think Renewing our Vows after all that showing that we still LOVE each other after dealing w/ so many years apart in our marriage would be ok. I know it probably sounds like we are doing it to shove it in everyones face, but we arent....its to show that despite HARD TIMES (deployments, losing a baby, me almost dieing) our love lasted when everyone expects young couples to fail. We are strong and solid, and I think that deserves to be celebrated after going through so much together.

Sorry I'm typing so much.

 

[Chilly]

I happen to think 13 is a lucky number!

 

[LWatson]

I happen to think 13 is a lucky number!

I've always ended up w/ something going wrong on the 13th of every month. Like this month I ended up rolling my ankle. IDK maybe its just me.