What's the Soonest YOU Would ever have a Vow Renewal?

[Scrappy_Tink]

Me and DH are such romantics, and we loved the memories we made during our intimate (four-person) Disney Wedding. I know you can't re-live the past, but I would love to look forward to more romance in the future. I can't wait until more years go by so we can plan a Vow Renewal and 2nd Disneymoon.

What's the earliest YOU would ever consider a VR?

 

[*Pixiedust1438*]

If I had the money and could convince DF, I would do it every year! Something simple and romantic, I think it would keep the romance alive! However, I think 5 or 10 years is a little more realistic.

 

[Scrappy_Tink]

I know what you mean!! I swear, if I had the time/money I would make plans every year too. I'm thinking of maybe at the 5 year mark, but I don't know if that's just too soon!

 

[Jilian]

We're doing a VR for our 5 yr, but we didn't have a wedding to begin with. We only had our parents present with a JP and planned to have a wedding/reception after but our son was born with a heart defect so the plans went out the window. We're doing a big VR with 70 people next year

 

[LittleMissMagic]

I think it depends on the couple and their relationship. I'd say there is a good reason behind every scenerio.

I think it should happen after something that changes the relationship between husband and wife... like after having children or moving or all sorts of things. Personally, I wouldn't do it any sooner than 10 years. But I don't think they are necessary at all. My parents have been married 26 years and have never had a vow renewal, my grandparents 60. You don't need to plan a big event to continue commitment with one another..... but then again, you don't really even need to plan an event to get married in the first place.

 

[Desnik]

We had our vow renewal after we celebrated 12 years of marriage, but we had been together for 15 years. I know it was an odd amount of years to wait but it just worked for us. We never had a big wedding, we had come into some money and thought the timing was perfect for us. It was so romantic and we really loved it! DH and I can't wait to do it again! We are playing around with the idea of doing a small vow renewal next year for our 15 year anniversary and next year is also DH's 40th Bday so we have a lot to celebrate! We would love to do one every couple of years!

 

[girli565]

I may be the minority here but I wouldn't have a VR at all. nothing can live up to our wedding day and I feel like you see so many couples (in real life and celebrities) have their vow renewal and soon after are getting divorced or having problems. I've seen many a relationship in my circle of family/friends combust after a VR.

I'd love another DFTW but I could never being myself to do it.

 

[rosworms]

I already told DF that I want a vow renewal ten years after and I want it to be a Wishes vow renewel so we should start saving as soon as the wedding is over. hehe.

 

[gemmybear83]

I wouldnt have one either (sorry that is not an option). I dont need another ceremony to confirm my marriage - I do that everyday

I would rather spend the money elsewhere.

 

[LittleStinkerbelle]

We did ours at 10 years. Honestly, for the first 6 or 7 years we were married I never thought we'd do a vow renewal (used to joke that I didn't know the vows expired). But as we started approaching a milestone year we decided it was something we wanted to do. I'm so glad we did it and would love to do it again down the road.

 

[LittleMissMagic]

I may be the minority here but I wouldn't have a VR at all. nothing can live up to our wedding day and I feel like you see so many couples (in real life and celebrities) have their vow renewal and soon after are getting divorced or having problems. I've seen many a relationship in my circle of family/friends combust after a VR.

I'd love another DFTW but I could never being myself to do it.

That is very true.... ohhh, the Gosselins had just had their 10-year vow renewal right before the divorce! So sad.

 

[kmaclou]

Everyone is different, but I wouldn't want to do a vow renewal. Our DFTW was such an amazing, perfect day that we want that to be what we remember. We'd rather spend the money on big, fun trips on our anniversaries.

 

[PartofDisney'sWorld]

I can definitely see it both ways. For us, since we are having our dream wedding, a VR may be in the cards for us, like, for our 40th or 50th anniversary, but I don't think it's necessary since nothing will live up to our dream wedding (like PP said). BUT, for someone who doesn't get to have their dream wedding, I think it is acceptable to do one whenever they want. I would if I were in that boat. And then on the other hand, if I had a gajillion dollars I'd do one every year too! Maybe not so much a wedding type thing but more like a big huge party! Heidi Klum and Seal style (they do a VR every year and make a big theme out of it).

 

[FutureMrs.Incredible]

OP, FI and I are super romantic too, probably to the point of being gross. We talked about doing a VR before we had even gotten engaged. (Our first trip together was Spring Break 09. We went to Vegas and stayed at Treasure Island. FI really wants to do a VR on the pirate ship. And yes, I agreed!) We have discussed going on vacations in the future sans-future children and just doing a VR renewal with just the two of us. Romantic and sweet!

If you two are game for it, who cares?? Go for it girl!

 

[Chilly]

It all depends on the circumstances.

I'd have a VR but I wouldn't invite anyone, except maybe children.

I'm thinking about having one around our 10/15 year anniversary, as that's our 20/25 year anniversary overall.

 

[Boardwalk_bride]

If I had the money, I would probably do it every year....but just this 2 of us (except for maybe like the 25th year). I actually read an interesting article on another site that supports the idea for frequent VRs. http://www.cruisecritic.com/articles.cfm?ID=348

If you really want it, and you have the money, than you should do it, regardless of what year! A lot of vacations will even give you one for free

 

[petal4monkey]

i personally wouldnt have a VR. I'd be renewing my vows every day of my marriage, i dont really see the point. But then i dont see there is much need to have the huge big wedding in the first place.
I think for our 10yr/25yr etc anniversaries we'd plan a big romantic holiday away just the 2 of us to mark the occasion

 

[Scrappy_Tink]

If we did do a vow renewal, it would be as simple as our original wedding. No big crowds, just me, DH, our children (and who knows, by then, maybe GRANDCHILDREN!! ) We've bought DVC, so we'd probably make it into a Reunion of sorts. We first got married at Shades of Green, which was lovely (and very economical)...and in the true nature of renewal, we'd probably do it there again. I ALWAYS wanted a Christmas Wedding...actually around midnight on Christmas Eve. I can just picture the gazebo bathed in twinkle lights, and me dressed in a beautiful deep red formal gown with white flowers. One good thing about SOG, is they don't tell you, you have to get married at particular times and days. Our original wedding was at SUNRISE (6:15 am!!), beautiful time to start a life together. Would have gotten married the first time at Christmas, but I JUST COULDN'T WAIT!!!!

I agree with others too, that I don't NEED a VR because I feel renewed every morning when I wake beside the one I love more than life....but, being the romantics we are, it's something we would really enjoy with the family. Now that being said, I'd never have a huge FTW type VR and invite tons of guests, etc...unless maybe I had a quicky marriage the first time at the JOP.

 

[tinkerbell 766]

I am not going to start defending Vow Renewals. Of course they are not 'necessary'. DH and my marriage, love or commitment will not change a jot because of our VR. This is something we wanted (not needed) We didn't have all the little details in our wedding which we wished we had. We simply could not afford it at the time. Now we can. We will simply be celebrating something very strong and precious with our family and friends, and will enjoy every moment of it.
Those who had their dream wedding are very lucky and I can understand how you would feel that you would never have a VR. You may feel slightly differently when a bit more water has passed under your marital bridges!!!

 

[Scrappy_Tink]

I am not going to start defending Vow Renewals. Of course they are not 'necessary'. DH and my marriage, love or commitment will not change a jot because of our VR. This is something we wanted (not needed) We didn't have all the little details in our wedding which we wished we had. We simply could not afford it at the time. Now we can. We will simply be celebrating something very strong and precious with our family and friends, and will enjoy every moment of it.
Those who had their dream wedding are very lucky and I can understand how you would feel that you would never have a VR. You may feel slightly differently when a bit more water has passed under your marital bridges!!!

You are getting so close, it must be very exciting!!!!!!!! wishing you a lovely VR!