What's the dress code for funerals?

[Elleshoodat]

I haven't been to a funeral in close to a decade but am attending one this weekend for an extended family member. It's a funeral Mass in a Catholic church, if that makes a difference.

What are people wearing to funerals these days? I was thinking about wearing a dark blue dress; is that ok?

 

[mjkacmom]

That's fine. Nice pants with a nice blouse/sweater is fine.

 

[lorimay]

I tend to go with darker blue or black, you should be fine

 

[MataHari22]

Dark blue dress is perfect.


My step bros girlfriend (she was about 40 at the time) wore jeans, and those weird wolf eye contacts to our grans funeral service at church. Don't wear that. :/

 

[wenrob]

I wore navy slacks, a plum shell and navy sweater for my grandma's in January. I actually wanted to wear something brighter because she was a painter but could find nothing that time of year. She would have hated us wearing black. I tend to wear something the deceased would appreciate.

 

[nene0182]

I typically end up going straight from work so I'm usually wearing dress paints (black or dark grey) and a blouse or sweater.

 

[lizabu]

Somber. Men often wear a suit and women often wear a dark dress or pants with blouse.

 

[powellrj]

You will be fine. It seems that people wear a little bit of anything anymore. I wore a black sweater and a pair of black pants to my moms and a pink top and black pants to my bffs. She asked for everyone to wear pink because it was her favorite color and she died from breast cancer. I lived in a rural area and it wasn't unusual to see people in bib overalls.

 

[Disney Doll]

Something somewhat sedate is good. A dark blue dress is fine.

 

[jevs]

It depends on the deceased. My nan would have hated to have everyone in black especially children, so we wore colours. At other funerals I've worn navy, black, or grey. Dress pants are fine.

 

[ronandannette]

You will be fine. It seems that people wear a little bit of anything anymore. I wore a black sweater and a pair of black pants to my moms and a pink top and black pants to my bffs. She asked for everyone to wear pink because it was her favorite color and she died from breast cancer. I lived in a rural area and it wasn't unusual to see people in bib overalls.

Check the obituary - sometimes people make a special request like this and it's nice to honour them in that way. Other than that, just be neat and modest. Pretty much anything will be fine.

 

[Elleshoodat]

Thanks, everyone!

 

[Marchand63]

First I am Catholic & second just buried my Dad. I could have cared less if you showed in shorts & a wife beater. It only mattered you showed.

Really neat & clean, other than that I guarantee the family will have no remeberance of your wardrobe.

 

[Disneychick75]

Going to my young cousin's funeral tomorrow and I'm wearing my funeral dress which is black. Her daughter told someone that she wished everyone could wear beach clothes because her mom loved the beach. I kind of wanted to wear a hot pink sundress to honor this wish but I think other family members might be offended.

 

[low-key]

I seen a couple people come to my parents in jeans and a t shirt, that met a lot to me, i figured they dont have dress up clothes, and might feel a bit funny comiing but even if they did they thought it more important to show final respect to mom and dad, I still appreciate it

 

[aprilgail]

I seen a couple people come to my parents in jeans and a t shirt, that met a lot to me, i figured they dont have dress up clothes, and might feel a bit funny comiing but even if they did they thought it more important to show final respect to mom and dad, I still appreciate it

Many times for co-workers families we would all shoot over to funeral home during break or go right from work so we were all in jeans, t shirts and work boots. I didn't care what they wore when my dad died it was just nice they all showed up!

 

[rajak73]

First I am Catholic & second just buried my Dad. I could have cared less if you showed in shorts & a wife beater. It only mattered you showed.

Really neat & clean, other than that I guarantee the family will have no remeberance of your wardrobe.

Best post! Nothing else needs to be said! Let's see, since 2007 I've buried my mom, my older brother, DFIL and DMIL. Can't tell you what anybody that was at the funerals was wearing at any of them!

 

[Minnesota!]

I typically end up going straight from work so I'm usually wearing dress paints (black or dark grey) and a blouse or sweater.

This is me, too.

However, anything goes, really, as long as you are covered. It's not about the clothes, it is about you coming to say goodbye and extend your condolences.

 

[MrJT]

The last funeral that I went to, it was for a friend who loved comics, and he often would wear something Marvel related, even at church, so it was requested the attendees celebrate that. I actually wore a shirt and tie, but it was a Superman tie.
The funeral I went to before that was even nicer. It was for a guy who was known to many as Aquaman, because he was big time cosplayer. He did a lot of stuff in costume for the community, charities, etc. His family requested that attendees cosplay. It was quite a sight with Jedi, superheroesm and so much more. The priest welcomed us to Comic Con. I didn't cosplay, but I bought a nice Batman t-shirt just for the occasion.

 

[okeydokey]

I usually wear dark clothes, but maybe a colored blouse under a cardigan or jacket.

Last week I had to leave vacation suddenly to attend a funeral, and I ended up making the best with what I had, dark jeans and a navy zip up jacket. Honestly, I was just grateful to be able to be there in time. The family was in jeans and colored shirts as well because when they left their homes to travel a few days earlier they did not know they would be having a funeral so they did not pack for one. Being there is what will be remembered, but if I can, I will try to dress more conservatively.