What you Do? Cinderella vs. Big Brother

[dezimber]

Backround info:
Since becoming a member after discovering the DISboards I have caught a serious case of Disney fever. I had been saving to go to Hawaii with aunt and uncle which got canceled which spiked the Disney fever. I was bummed about Hawaii and figured Florida might patch my broken heart. So when I told my friends I was going to DW they said, "hey lets all go!" That led to monthly planning meetings. Well during one meeting it was decided that our World trip was just too far away. The next meeting had to be with Mickey face to face with 2 follow up meetings TBA, aka 3-Day Park Hoppers.

Need to Know info:
Somehow word got out at work that I have been attending business meetings with Mr. Mouse this summer and that a winter meeting is scheduled for December. A co-worker came to me wanting to ride share. I told her that I might have other passengers and will have to see if there is room. Well there has been DRAMA since the former director went on matarnity leave which has gotten worst since the new director(Lady Tremaine) and said co-worker(new hire) started this past summer.

Then there was yesterday:
Friday morning when I came in late to check in with my parole officer, I mean punch my time card, I am intercepted by another co-worker wanting to ride share with her dd because her birthday is the 8th (but that is another story).

The rock and the hard place:
Great, Cinderella has Anastasia & Drizella and Gus & Jaq bidding for her attention. So who should Cinderella attend too? What would you do? Thanks!

 

[avalon451]

This is funny, but I kind of got lost between the parole officer and Gus and Jaques.

Tell me again what the deal is? you're going to DL for 3 days in Dec. but a bunch of people from work are trying to hitch a ride with you? So the co-workers are Anastasia and Drizella, but your original friends you're going with are Gus and Jaques?

Is it going to make things nasty for you at work if you turn down your co-workers? They've got no business imposing on you, IMO.

Interpret your fairy tale for us!

 

[Mom of three]

This is funny, but I kind of got lost between the parole officer and Gus and Jaques.

Tell me again what the deal is? you're going to DL for 3 days in Dec. but a bunch of people from work are trying to hitch a ride with you? So the co-workers are Anastasia and Drizella, but your original friends you're going with are Gus and Jaques?

Is it going to make things nasty for you at work if you turn down your co-workers? They've got no business imposing on you, IMO.

Interpret your fairy tale for us!

I read the OP about half a dozen times and I still don't get it.

 

[dezimber]

This is funny, but I kind of got lost between the parole officer and Gus and Jaques.
LOL! Yeah, this is were Cinderella is doing time slaving away for hours at a time. Actually the parole officer is cool. But the warden makes Darth look like father of the year.

Tell me again what the deal is? you're going to DL for 3 days in Dec. but a bunch of people from work are trying to hitch a ride with you? So the co-workers are Anastasia and Drizella, but your original friends you're going with are Gus and Jaques?

Is it going to make things nasty for you at work if you turn down your co-workers? They've got no business imposing on you, IMO.

Interpret your fairy tale for us!

Tell me again what the deal is? you're going to DL for 3 days in Dec.
I am only going 1 day this time.

but a bunch of people from work are trying to hitch a ride with you?
Yes. 2 co-workers each with a daughter.

So the co-workers are So the co-workers are Anastasia and Drizella, but your original friends you're going with are Gus and Jaques?
No, Anastasia and Drizella this is the first co-worker, aka big brother. Friday, something happened now I am more cautious about the relationship to her. Gus and Jaques is the other co-worker. She is cool. I used the names from the story more to show the relationship between the 2people not necessarly to represent a character.

 

[dezimber]

Is it going to make things nasty for you at work if you turn down your co-workers? They've got no business imposing on you, IMO.

I don't think it would make things worst then they already are in general. The first co-worker knows when I want to go but I told her that I was going with family and not sure if there will be room although it is very likely that there will be plenty of room as my sister has too much on her plate right now. Now I am having 2nd thoughts about having her tag along. The other one I would be ok going and enjoy her company. But could be an issue if I chose one over the other and the other found out. On the other hand I'd be happy to spend the day with my rent a prince.

 

[SarahDISer]

IMO you need to take both of them or neither of them.

It's too late now to say
"Sorry I can't take because I already promised to take whats-her-name"
That would be an obvious lie because you would have told her that when she asked you.

My advice would be to politely decline, claiming that the car is already full.

JMO

Good Luck

I hope you have a magical day whatever way you decide to go

 

[tink2dw]

Better Option - Tell everyone you had to cancel your trip. You are so so sad, it is a tragedy[car need work, pet need to get shots, took all your Disney money], Then DO Not talk about it ever again at work, big No No!

Then go on your trip enjoy your Day! But keep your mouth shut, don't show pix, don't rave about it at work, or to any co-worker.

Just enjoy Disney for yourself!

 

[Disneyanajc]

OK to make this perfectly clear...

I would say go with play #7 out of tink2dw playbook... JC

 

[WebmasterMaryJo]

OK to make this perfectly clear...

I would say go with play #7 out of tink2dw playbook... JC

You ARE in a tough position. Hmmm... did you commit to taking co-worker 1? I think it's kind of a no-win situation for you, but you do have a couple of options or a few

- you can rent a bigger car, and have your coworkers split the cost, and you take care of the gas, or total cost altogether.

- You can suck up taking co-worker #1 (who you are not on really good terms) because you alluded to maybe having space, but then you incur the high risk of resentment on your part, plus you may not have a good time with her, based on your current relationship, unless she is just bumming a ride, and you do not plan on spending time with her.

-Or 3rd option would be to tell co-worker friend that you will take her & her daughter, and let co-worker not-really-a-friend know that you and coworker 2 are going together, and it makes more sense to carpool with her. Yeah, coworker #1 might not be happy, but since this is more a fun thing rather than a work/life depending on you type of thing it's doable.

Hopefully the three of you can work something out. Do any of the other two have larger cars that you could use? If not, then your car, your decision.

Good luck.

 

[Disney Hot Mama]

You ARE in a tough position. Hmmm... did you commit to taking co-worker 1? I think it's kind of a no-win situation for you, but you do have a couple of options or a few

- you can rent a bigger car, and have your coworkers split the cost, and you take care of the gas, or total cost altogether.

- You can suck up taking co-worker #1 (who you are not on really good terms) because you alluded to maybe having space, but then you incur the high risk of resentment on your part, plus you may not have a good time with her, based on your current relationship, unless she is just bumming a ride, and you do not plan on spending time with her.

-Or 3rd option would be to tell co-worker friend that you will take her & her daughter, and let co-worker not-really-a-friend know that you and coworker 2 are going together, and it makes more sense to carpool with her. Yeah, coworker #1 might not be happy, but since this is more a fun thing rather than a work/life depending on you type of thing it's doable.

Hopefully the three of you can work something out. Do any of the other two have larger cars that you could use? If not, then your car, your decision.

Good luck.

MaryJo,

I think you understand it all! I was so confused and still am...

OP - whatever you decide have a magical time.. often I think it is better to go alone without 'baggage'. You can do what YOU want...

 

[YellowMickeyPonchos]

I actually wouldn't take either of them. Here's why....

On a private trip, you never know what may happen. Events escalate and drama ensues. Driving with someone you work with is inviting them to know too much about you or too much about them, if something happens. Do you want that responsibility? If things are bad in the office place, then they could only get worse with stuff that is revealed from indiscretion.

I guess the question is - are you the type that has co-workers make up their social circle in their private life, or does work stay where it belongs?

 

[dezimber]

OK to make this perfectly clear...

I would say go with play #7 out of tink2dw playbook... JC

LOL! I think your right on the money with that one.

You ARE in a tough position. Hmmm... did you commit to taking co-worker 1? I think it's kind of a no-win situation for you, but you do have a couple of options or a few

- you can rent a bigger car, and have your coworkers split the cost, and you take care of the gas, or total cost altogether.

- You can suck up taking co-worker #1 (who you are not on really good terms) because you alluded to maybe having space, but then you incur the high risk of resentment on your part, plus you may not have a good time with her, based on your current relationship, unless she is just bumming a ride, and you do not plan on spending time with her.

-Or 3rd option would be to tell co-worker friend that you will take her & her daughter, and let co-worker not-really-a-friend know that you and coworker 2 are going together, and it makes more sense to carpool with her. Yeah, coworker #1 might not be happy, but since this is more a fun thing rather than a work/life depending on you type of thing it's doable.

Hopefully the three of you can work something out. Do any of the other two have larger cars that you could use? If not, then your car, your decision.

Good luck.

The first co-worker I told her that I was going with my sister and her kids and would need to see if there would be room. She doesn't drive so that is why she is mooching a ride. My sister and I both have mid-size cars that seat 5. She has 2 boys but the middle boy is in H.S.(oldest is away at college) and does better with a friend. My sister is opting out of the trip but co-worker doesn't know about that. That is my ace up the sleeve.

I actually wouldn't take either of them. Here's why....

On a private trip, you never know what may happen. Events escalate and drama ensues. Driving with someone you work with is inviting them to know too much about you or too much about them, if something happens. Do you want that responsibility? If things are bad in the office place, then they could only get worse with stuff that is revealed from indiscretion.

I guess the question is - are you the type that has co-workers make up their social circle in their private life, or does work stay where it belongs?

I can see your point and in my heart I am leaning in this direction. There is one co-worker that I socialize with outside of work but not on a regular basis. As for your last question, for me it guess it depends on the people. The friends that I am going to Disney World with are former co-workers but the difference is that we formed a close friendship and did things as friends outside of work and continued the friendship after going seperate ways career wise. At this job I don't feel the bond nor do I have the time to meet outside of work.
With the economy and air quality it seems like a waste to go in a nearly empty car. But, I could offer a ride to my friends cousin, who is a long time AP holder, that takes the bus there just about every weekend.

Thank you everyone for your input. Dec. is still a several weeks away so I have time to figure something out.