What Would Your Reaction Be?

[lisaviolet]

This is one of those questions where the women are gonna side with the OP..."oh he would be in the dog house for weeks"

Huh? Lots of women sided with the husband on the issue.

I didn't. But he wouldn't be in the dog house. I would have been pissed off, expressed that sentiment and that's that.

 

[hereyago]

This is one of those questions where the women are gonna side with the OP..."oh he would be in the dog house for weeks"

and the men are gonna side with the hubby...."see if you had just listened to him that would not have happened"

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I don't agree, if it was a female who did it, i would still the same thing.

I don't think it was a teaching monent. I am not big into a dynamic of where my SO would treat me like a child but still want to do adult stuff, but that is just me.

 

[lisaviolet]

I don't agree, if it was a female who did it, i would still think the same thing.

And this.

 

[Allison]

Mine to! And he damn well better have made sure my keys were in the house before he locked it.

I would be beyond livid. It still wouldn't be acceptable but if he had done it and put it in the house and then called and told you after a few minutes it would be one thing but to go all day without telling you is ridiculous.

Would have served him right if you had cancelled everything (which you should have done by the way!!!) and he got caught with no money and bad credit cards, and a boat load of stop payment charges from the bank.

Very inconsiderate and disrespectful of your time.

No more inconsiderate and disrespectful than the op being so cavalier about leaving their personal finances and financial information laying around for anyone to take. I am shocked at the poor judgement to continually do something like that.

 

[kate_wdw]

If I were you, I'd be ticked that he put you through needless stress by taking your purse.

But if I were him, I'd be ticked that you put me through needless stress by storing your and his (assuming you have joint accounts) financial information so recklessly.

It appears that he put you through stress to teach you a lesson and prevent worse problems for the two of you. You put him through stress for your own convenience. He has the high ground, IMO.

 

[Hannathy]

we don't know where she live either. There are still places in this country that people leave their houses open and cars unlocked and even running in the winter. Yes there are places you can't leave something for 2 minutes but there are also places that are quite safe. Not everywhere is the same.

 

[dsneprincess]

I don't know where you live but growing up where I grew up the idea of leaving a purse alone even for a minute is beyond my realm of thought....

If I were you I'd be thrilled he taught you a lesson instead of having to deal with the NIGHTMARE of losing a purse...something that happened to me ONCE and I hope never happens again. Mine was stolen and what I had to do to close all those accts and replace everything was more work than you can imagine.

Consider yourself lucky~

My purse was also stolen once, along with my address on my license, keys, credit cards and bank withdrawal of vacation money outside the town police department! Nowhere is safe!!! Since they got my license (address) & keying, we got a 3 year contract and payment to ADT.

I would be grateful your husband had your purse & keep it with you.

 

[lizzi6692]

I'm on your husband's side. From the OP it seems like he had tried simply reminding you when he noticed and that wasn't working. I don't blame him for doing something more drastic. As someone said, it wouldn't just affect you if your purse was stolen, so he had every right to step in and try to prevent it. I also agree that he probably would have told you sooner if you had told him. And honestly I think you were very much in the wrong for thinking that your purse had been stolen and not immediately saying something.

 

[aprilgail2]

I'm on his side, think you should count your blessings that it wasn't taken and learn the lesson You know what a hassle/identity theft etc that could have involved ? and you had the T-Ball funddraising $ in your care too ?? No no sympathy from me

totally agree

Maybe you'll remember to take your purse inside from now on. I would have done the same thing to DH if he continued to do something so foolish.

I'd be livid too, I don't think he needed to teach you a lesson like you are a child. Locking the car or him running your purse into the house before he left and a reminder to you to bring it in the house next time would have been fine.

The OP was acting like an irresponsible child so I don't see the issue with him treating her like one!

 

[htmom]

I would be upset. I would tell him that I would have appreciated if he brought it inside instead of to work. There was not an emergency but it could of happened. I agree that you need to at least lock the car and maybe even tuck it under a seat just so it can't be seen, but I don't feel what he did was a good idea.

 

[sam_gordon]

I'm with DH. He tried acting like an "adult" by constantly reminding the OP to not leave the purse in the car. The OP chose to ignore the warnings/reminders. The OP put their FAMILY finances in danger. They weren't HER finances, it was the FAMILY'S. If someone had actually stolen the purse, they both would have suffered. Therefore he had a right to be concerned.

Those who think he stepped over the line, what could he have done to get his point across?
1) Reminders were not working
2) Just leave it go and tell her "no whining" if/when her purse gets stolen (again, he would suffer also if that happens)
3) Something else?

 

[JanaDee]

we don't know where she live either. There are still places in this country that people leave their houses open and cars unlocked and even running in the winter. Yes there are places you can't leave something for 2 minutes but there are also places that are quite safe. Not everywhere is the same.

I live in a place where locking your vehicle is not necessary. I still don't leave my purse or valuables in the car. At some point, common sense has to come into play.

 

[Burnedout]

My purse was stolen from my car. It was hideous. I don't blame him for making the point. It is his info as well as yours that would be screwed up if it were really stolen.

Janadee that was what I thought. :/ safe area. Road seldom traveled. Dead end. Etc.

 

[lizzi6692]

I live in a place where locking your vehicle is not necessary. I still don't leave my purse or valuables in the car. At some point, common sense has to come into play.

Exactly just because break-ins aren't common doesn't mean that everyone is just going to walk past an unlocked car with a purse visible. There are bad people everywhere.

 

[EMode]

totally agree









The OP was acting like an irresponsible child so I don't see the issue with him treating her like one!

She said that she usually leaves her purse in her car in the garage, its a habit she has been doing for years. She also said she is absent minded so I assume her dh knows this trait about her. He doesn't need to treat her like a child, he needs to act like an adult and sit down and have a serious discussion with her about it instead of tricking her into learning a lesson. That is what middle school kids do, he's the one acting like a child.

 

[lizzi6692]

She said that she usually leaves her purse in her car in the garage, its a habit she has been doing for years. She also said she is absent minded so I assume her dh knows this trait about her. He doesn't need to treat her like a child, he needs to act like an adult and sit down and have a serious discussion with her about it instead of tricking her into learning a lesson. That is what middle school kids do, he's the one acting like a child.

She said her husband has already spoken to her multiple times about it, obviously that didn't work. And being absent-minded isn't an excuse. If she's always been that way she should be able to cope with it by now and not rely on others to remind her of what she forgets all the time.

 

[jrmasm]

My reaction would be "I am such an idiot for leaving my purse in my unlocked car in my driveway!"

 

[EMode]

She said her husband has already spoken to her multiple times about it, obviously that didn't work. And being absent-minded isn't an excuse. If she's always been that way she should be able to cope with it by now and not rely on others to remind her of what she forgets all the time.

You are right its not an excuse but apparently that is how she is so I would assume her dh knows this about her so it shouldn't really a surprise to him when she does something absent minded
You are entitled to your opinion and yes I think the OP is being irresponsible leaving her purse in the car, but I think her dh handled it in a childish way.

 

[MissManda]

I'm a little torn on this. I can see why your DH did it and I hope that you are more careful. I never leave anything in my car and I never leave it unlocked, even in my own driveway.

However, I think him keeping it all day long without letting you know went a little overboard. You went through a lot of trouble looking for your purse and calling your credit card companies.

I think that if had told you after a few hours then that would have been better. Point would have still been made!

 

[Princess_Nikki]

Ha! Sorry, OP, I think your husband just taught you a pretty valuable lesson. Good for him! I bet you will not leave it in the car again will you?

Adults still need to be taught a thing or two.