What would you have said.

[septbride2002]

Our friend has a very nice house with a huge bar and 106" projector High Def television. We are in the process of finish our basement now and probably next summer will be purchasing something similiar although it will probably be only 80". This is a cash only project so it is going to take us some time to pay for this new little toy.

Our friend is a Cleveland Indians fan who is in 1st place for the wild card spot.
We are St. Louis Cardinals fans who are first place in the Central Division. We all went to a baseball game tonight and said it would be cool if the two teams faced off. I said, "Yea - we could watch your home games at your house, and out home games at our house." He said to me, "You better get cracking on the High Def TV then." I just sort of smirked and dropped it. What I really wanted to say was, "What my house and TV not good enough for you?" I have, I think, a pretty nice house with a 27" TV in the living room - plenty of places to sit and so on. Before when he had a smiliar set up it didn't matter where we watched games - but now suddently we can only watch them at his house? And why the heck would I want to watch a Cardinal's home game at their house?

I sort of feel like he is becoming stuck up this is not the first time he has made remarks like this. We had a party about a month ago and we have speakers wired in our garage, front porch, and back porch (our neighbors love us). One of our friends said, "Nice system." My friend interjected - "You should hear mine." Well yea he can afford nicer speakers and has a better set up - but was that really neccessary.

I'm just not sure if I should say anything to him or not - but I am getting tired of having my feelings hurt over it.

~Amanda

 

[DarkSideMoon]

i find that a little snobby on his part, just wait a little while linger and buy a tv that blows his out of the water.....

 

[Aidensmom]

You have better stuff than me, if that makes you feel any better.

I would be annoyed if someone said that too. It is not the material things in life that make us happy. I would probably ask if there was a problem with my TV, but my friends would expect me to play the "witch", so it wouldn't affect our relationship. If it would truly offend them, I would not say anything, just continue to complain to us to get your feelings out.

 

[HappyMommy2]

Ugh. I would've been irritated too; it was rude of him to say those things.

I have to say that I've noticed that some men who are kind and considerate people in every other way are very snobbish when it comes to their home theater systems. I've known a few guys like this and it was almost like they were obsessed with the quality of the sound of their audio systems or their TVs. It was offensive to their sensibilities to watch TV on anything other than their "perfect" setup at home.
It sounds like your friend is one of these guys--not an excuse for his rude behavior, but he probably didn't mean his comments as a personal insult to you; he was just inconsiderately extolling what he sees as the glories of his own home theater.

I hope he will think about what he said, and realize it was hurtful, and not say that type of thing again.

 

[lillygator]

did he sound snotty when he said it?

We have a big screen and I know it is hard for DH to go to someone else's house to watch a game when he is used to what we have here....maybe he didn't really mean it the way it came out??

 

[BillSears]

did he sound snotty when he said it?

We have a big screen and I know it is hard for DH to go to someone else's house to watch a game when he is used to what we have here....maybe he didn't really mean it the way it came out??

I was thinking the same thing. I know once I got used to seeing the game in high def I wouldn't want to settle for anything less.

 

[Mermaid02]

"We'll just watch them all at your house then... I'll bring the onion dip"

 

[Skywalker]

Doesn't sound like such a bad comment to me, since he knows that you ARE getting one anyway - just a little teasing. Now if you were in a position that you could not afford the TV and he knew it, then that would be mean.

 

[snoopy]

Ugh. You can't really say anything to the one-upper, because they never get it. They just live their lives trying to one-up people. If I were you I'd consider that he's probably pretty insecure and just thank your blessings he's your friend and not your husband.

 

[pw2pp]

Doesn't sound like such a bad comment to me, since he knows that you ARE getting one anyway - just a little teasing. Now if you were in a position that you could not afford the TV and he knew it, then that would be mean.

I agree with Skywalker..... he knows that you are getting one, so I think that is why he made the comment.

 

[denisem]

It's a guy thing.

A few months back, we were having trouble with "ghosting" on our new HDTV (and didn't buy the service contract, dontcha know), so I searched some Internet BB's for answers.

Some guys take their a/v systems seriously. Not only did they discuss the tweaking of their systems in the minutest detail, they posted photos of their set-ups. I shouldn't laugh: I did find the magic key to getting the service menu.

 

[Micca]

I don't think it sounded so bad. My intrepretation is that he knows you and your DH enjoy the games on his setup, he knows you both would like to have something like that in your home, and he is enthused that you soon could be enjoying the big screen experience in your home.

 

[jipsy]

Playing the "keeping up with the Joneses" game will land you in the bankruptcy court.

Buy what you can afford and be happy with it. If your friend continues to say stuff like that, then I'm not so sure I'd call him a friend. Confront him with how it makes you feel and see how he responds. If he continues to act like a jerk, don't invite him to the games when you watch them at your house.

Life's too short to have friends like that.

 

[wilki32]

Do you think he might be trying to compensate for something that maybe small!!!

 

[Mugg Mann]

We've had HD for several years now. It's next to impossible to watch a game on someone else's smaller non-HD TV once you're used to it without pining for your own setup or one that's equivalent. The comment is not directed towards you personally, and IMHO, you shouldn't take it as such. It's the same as him saying "After we sit in my seats in the first row behind home plate, we'll sit in your seats way up in the bleachers". The fact that they're willing to do it at all is a tribute to how much they value you as friends. I have many years in the consumer electronics industry, and the standard sized set for over five years now has been a 32-36" set. So as a impartial observer, your 27" set that seems big enough to you is in fact undersized.

This aside, is he a little snobbish in general? Sounds it. Only you can decide if that's something you're willing to put up with for the sake of the friendship.

Hope this helps you put it in perspective.

 

[bgirldeb]

His comment was insensitive, but he probably didn't mean it that way.

Your friend makes me think of the commercial:

"How can I afford all this? I'm in debt up to my eyeballs. "I can't even make my finance charges. Somebody, please help me."

 

[jonestavern]

I'm not sure that it really matters that much, as the Sox will take out Cleveland before they can even get to St. Louis

Chris, Jean & Patrick

 

[jonestavern]

Oops... RED Sox that is

 

[Lisa F]

I would have ignored it. Men like to watch sports on big TVs. I think that's all it meant and nothing more. Maybe I would have made some joke like "why, you're not secure enough in your masculinity to watch a game on a smaller tv? hmmm, very iiiiiiiinteresting."

 

[LoraJ]

There are a few guys I work with who have HDTV's. They would probably say the same thing. They don't mean it to be snobby, it's just that they're used to it that way.

But - Go Tribe!