What would you do?

[my3sons77]

I'm just looking for input. I kinda know my answer already but I just want to hear different views.

My mom who lives in Ft. Lauderdale is going to Disney World with her husband Dec 5 & 6. I talked to her and she said she has some extra tickets and that I could go too. Only problem is, I can only take one of my kids. She is only going there to walk around and look at the place all decorated for Christmas. I would be doing that too. I want to take my 3 year old because he is a Disney nutt just like his mom. He sees a church steeple while driving down the road and yells "Look!! Dinney Woold!!" he adores Mickey Mouse, the list continues.

So, I ran the idea past my hubby. He laughs and says "Right, let's see you tell the boys that you are going to Disney World without them." We both laughed at the idea.

I came and told my oldest son what I was thinking about doing in December and very calming, without skipping a beat he replies, "Not without me you're not." I was bent over laughing because especially from him, I was not expecting that.

I then went to my middle son, told him the same idea, "He teared up and said, "Noway!" His main thing is he wants to see his grandma. Plus he wants to see Disney at Christmas time too.

Hubby is trying to convince him to let me go.

My oldest son finally came up to me, gave me a hug and said, "It's ok Mom. You can go without me." Awwwww.

The trip would be great. Me and my mom love Christmas and Disney and being able to just have those quiet moments with her alone would be great.

But I don't think I can go to Disney and leave my Disney loving boys back here. And we can't afford a trip this year so I can't bring them with me.

My mom would be paying for a room (offsite) and the tickets she already has. Not much money out of pocket for just myself and my 3 year old. I'd only have to pay for food. Knowing my mom, she'd pay for most of that no matter how hard I would fight her not to do so.

I'm back and forth.

On my right hand, I want to go SO bad.
On my left hand, there is noway I can go without my older boys.

Oh, also my dad works for the airlines so I fly for free. It's just on standby which sometimes suck. But Dec 5 & 6 is not a holiday weekend and it is a week after Thanksgiving so not many people would be flying back from their holiday vacations. No problem getting a seat or 2.

Ok help. Give me some input. In my heart I know I am not going, but in my brain my gears are still working out a way to do it LOL

 

[StitchFanZ]

Go and enjoy yourself! How many opportunities do you have to make special one on one memories with your own mom.
Moms work hard and sometimes they deserve a special treat. Would it help to think of your boys letting you go as their christmas present to you this year? Perhaps your husband could do something special with them that weekend.
Hope this helps!

 

[Schmeck]

I wouldn't be able to leave two of the kids behind. Why are you picking the 3 year old to go with you? I'd take the older child myself.

 

[ogreenlee]

what about leaving all the boys behind and just going with your mom?

i just lost my mom, and i think you should take every opportunity given to you to spend quality time together. you're still her baby.

 

[my3sons77]

You're right about the quality time with my mom. That would be nice to have it be just myself and her walking around and just enjoying each other.

I chose my youngest because he loves Disney World, yes my older boys do too but not to the extent of my youngest.

My birthday is Nov 24 so I also ran it past them that this could be a birthday present.

We very very rarely ever do anything without our boys with us. I couldn't even fully enjoy our anniversary (Sept 26) because our boys were not with us. I love having them with me, they make everything better. So this decision is an extremely hard one.

Thank you all for your input.

 

[kevschickee]

Never would I do this. IMO its awful to take 1 kid and not the others. I wouldn't even consider it. I can not wait to go on a vaca with just my DH but I would never do it at Disney and with only 1 kid

 

[Ashlander]

I think you either have to go by yourself or take all of your kids. There is no way I could choose one kid over 2 others. My kids would be so hurt if I choose to take only one of them to Disney.

 

[polkadotsuitcase]

what about leaving all the boys behind and just going with your mom?

i just lost my mom, and i think you should take every opportunity given to you to spend quality time together. you're still her baby.

This is what I'd lean toward doing, too. It would be a really special time with your mom, and you wouldn't be creating potential sibling chaos!

 

[okeydokey]

I would never take just one child. Go with your Mom and have fun.

 

[my3sons77]

The more I think about it, the more I am more keen on it being just myself. IF (that's a big if) I do go.

You're right. I can't take just one. My oldest doesn't mind, but my middle son, it would break his heart and I can't do that to him. It would kill me.

 

[GOOFY4DONALD]

The more I think about it, the more I am more keen on it being just myself. IF (that's a big if) I do go.

You're right. I can't take just one. My oldest doesn't mind, but my middle son, it would break his heart and I can't do that to him. It would kill me.

This is what I would do. I would tell the kids that this is the time for you and your mom and you plan on taking the boys back next year..or whatever. FWIW my mom took my 2 sisters and brother and their friends to WDW but not me. She said it was because I was married and I could go with my own family. It was 3 years after that that we actually could afford to go. Even though I was almost 30 it still hurt being left out.

 

[tinkerfan1]

I agree with the spending time with Mom alone. I can't imagine taking one kid and not another. My youngest son wants to be an imagineer more than anything in the world when he grows up. But still, if I took him and not his older brother, I would never live it down.

 

[bluesky225]

I think it's a great idea for you to go by yourself...just you and mom. There is nothing at all wrong with that! Go and have fun!

 

[MSSANDRA]

I would go alone with my mom but never take just one boy. I used to have said I would never go with out the boys but as my mom gets older and her health declines I see so much value in time alone with her!

 

[Nancyg56]

I would not take one child, no matter how much he loved Disney. Not at the ages your children are. I would leave them all home and enjoy a wonderful Christmastime trip with your Mom. There will be time to take the kids another time.

 

[my3sons77]

Well, my mom just called. We talked about it.

I'm not going to go. Not this time. Although it would be wonderful. I just can't see doing it. My boys would be heartbroken, and honestly it wouldn't be the same without them with me. They bring the magic of Disney out.

Thank you everyone for your input.

 

[tam626]

I would'nt go either. Most of my joy comes from watching my son when we are there.

 

[daisyduck123]

never would i do this. Imo its awful to take 1 kid and not the others. I wouldn't even consider it. I can not wait to go on a vaca with just my dh but i would never do it at disney and with only 1 kid

ita

 

[A Mickeyfan]

Go with your mom and enjoy it.. just as you enjoy spending time with your children, your mom will enjoy spending the time with you! I also hate to say this, you will have many more years to spend enjoying Disney with your children, but your mom isn't getting any younger... I lost my mom a year ago to lung cancer, I would give my right arm to go shopping alone with her one more time... that was our favorite thing...

 

[bjakmom]

I have loved seeing the disney magic through my kids eyes throughout their lives - and now love going with DGrD(6) and DNeph(11). But - some of my best memories are of my latest trips alone with my 'big' girls!! A few years ago DD and I spent a long weekend at Flower & Garden for her 30th - we had the BEST time!! - time alone and away from the kids/family that we rarely get these days! This Dec I'm taking my 2nd DD for her 30th!! Go visit your mom - let your DH and boys give you that for a GREAT b'day present!!