What would you do (long post)?

[jwsqrdplus2]

This week, DDs' school is on Spring Break, but childcare is available, so my girls have been hanging with their friends and playing all day. They love it!

DD5 is good friends with one of the girls in her class, and the mom and I get along pretty well too. One day last week, the mom asked if she could take DD5 to the movies with her daughter one day this week. I had no problem with that since the girls had done many play dates at either house. Yesterday was the day (they went to see Ella Enchanted). So yesterday, in DD5's snack kit, I put an envelope with $10 for the movie and snacks, and told DD to give it to the mom.

I get home yesterday, and not only did the mom not take the $ (kinda expected that, but I sent it anyway!), she took the girls shopping (her daughter needed new clothes due to a growth spurt), and bought an outfit for my DD as well. Now the girls have matching "twin" outfits (apparently, the girls we mistaken for twins, much to their delight, throughout the shopping/movie adventure).

I have already talked to the mom on the phone and said thank you, and knowing my DD, she did say thanks while they were shopping. The mom said it was too funny because the girls are both 5 yet they were shopping and talking like teenagers. What is even funnier is the mom and I are both tomboy types and our DDs are girly girls. Both of us are constantly befuddled and don't always know what to do!! LOL

Anyway to the question, should I have DD write a thank you note also? Also, can anyone think of a nice way to return the gesture without it looking like I am doing it out of guilt/necessity??

Thanks, and sorry so long!

 

[browneyes]

I think that was sweet of your dd's friend's mom. I bet she'd love a thank you note from your dd.

 

[DoeWDW]

Take a pic of the two girls in their outfits, put it in a frame and give it to the other mom - she'll love having a pic of the memory more than a thank you note.

 

[Pin Wizard]

I would have DD write a thank-you note. You certainly can't go wrong with doing it, and I'm sure the mom would appreciate it. Maybe even tuck it away.

Reciprocating in some way? Maybe the next time the girls are together with you, do something for her daughter.

 

[stinkerbelle]

Originally posted by jwsqrdplus2
Anyway to the question, should I have DD write a thank you note also? Also, can anyone think of a nice way to return the gesture without it looking like I am doing it out of guilt/necessity??

Thanks, and sorry so long!

I think a thank you note, written by your daughter, would be perfect.

I would just say, return the favor next time the girls hang out at your place...maybe not by taking them shopping...but by taking them mini-golfing, to an arcade, out to lunch, or something like that.

Since your daughters are really girly-girls...why not treat them to a manicure? I know 5 years old is rather young for it...but for $10 to get their nails done and feel "grown up"...it's worth it! I love seeing little girls getting their nails done next to me.

 

[Disney Doll]

I would certainly have your DD send a thank you note, and enclosing a picture of the girls in the outfits, or giving it to her as a little gift somewhere down the line...Maybe Mother's Day??...would be a lovely gesture.

As far as reciprocating...I am sure that at some point you will have her DD at your house for a play date or whatever and you can do somehitng nice for her then, such as a manicure or whatever. IThis mom doesn't sound like she's the type who'll be thinking "Oh I bought her kid an outfit and she hasn't done anything for mine yet" so don't get too crazed about reciprocating immediately. I am sure she enjoyed having the ability to "treat" the girls to a special day, just like you will enjoy it when you have the chance to do it.

 

[CEDmom]

I think a thank you would be a very nice thing to do. As far as reciprocating why don't you think of something your DD has been wanting to do and invite her friend along. Build-A-Bear popped into my head but I'm sure there's lots of other things you could do. Since they like shopping maybe lunch at the mall and a trip to the Disney store for new beach accessories.

 

[jwsqrdplus2]

Thanks for all the great suggestions. I love the one of taking a picture of the girls together in their "twin" outfits!