What would you do? Inappropraite discussion in a restaurant

[CheshireVal]

I don't see anything wrong with people discussing a news story.

 

[yeartolate]

Another vote for "it was your problem, not theirs.

Confronting them would have been inappropriate. If anyone was to move it should have been your group.

But you can't shield your kids from that stuff forever. I would rather them hear it in my presence so I can speak to them about the situation and give them some real life education.

 

[Southern4sure]

Unless the teens were being vulgar I do not see where anyone has the right to shush them in a public place. You are entitled to move to another table and should have it their discussion bothered you.

I would be angry if anyone came to my table and interrupted me to tell me our conversation of a news article was offensive to them.

That my friend falls under the definition of rude.

 

[cardaway]

If people are discussing things at an appropriate voice level, IMO it doesn't matter what they are talking about. The only person being rude would be the one focusing on their conversation.

If they are being loud about then it is a different story.

 

[bananiem]

Sometimes as much as you try to ignore someone and don't mean to listen to their conversation, the natural volume of their voice makes it impossible not to hear them. Like the lady behind us a couple of weeks ago....She was describing to her tablemates the differences in inserting a catheter in a circumcized man versus and uncircumcized man.

 

[bumcat]

I would be telling my kids to be quiet so I could hear the rest of the conversation. Gotta know the ending, kwim?

 

[hydster]

As a mom of 3 kids you can add me to the list of those who don't think they did anything wrong. Just because 1 thing is unacceptable to one person doesn't mean it's unacceptable to someone else. There are many things that I would find unacceptable that someone else won't it's called life and human nature.

I would rather my children realize that there is bad in the world and that it is ok to discuss it rather than tuck them away somewhere praying that they never hear or see the bad in the world. If you are in a public place you have to expect that people are not going to look around and take into consideration that there are kids, women, senior citizens or whatever around them and that the conversation they are engaging in might not be appropriate for those around them.


I would have finished my meal and gone home without another thought. I know my 13 yr old dd has heard WAY worse topics in school from her peers than the discussion of a local murder that is making headlines where you are. You cannot control what your children hear while in public or at school for the most part. The only thing you can control is what happens in your own home.

If it had been me in the booth and you had asked me to stop my conversation about a news story that is on the news and in newspapers I would have polietly told you to take a hike and stop listening to our conversation.

 

[Pam]

Sometimes as much as you try to ignore someone and don't mean to listen to their conversation, the natural volume of their voice makes it impossible not to hear them. Like the lady behind us a couple of weeks ago....She was describing to her tablemates the differences in inserting a catheter in a circumcized man versus and uncircumcized man.

I hope she didn't give a demonstration with a hot dog and a straw....

 

[phorsenuf]

Sometimes as much as you try to ignore someone and don't mean to listen to their conversation, the natural volume of their voice makes it impossible not to hear them. Like the lady behind us a couple of weeks ago....She was describing to her tablemates the differences in inserting a catheter in a circumcized man versus and uncircumcized man.

and the difference is.......

 

[RitaZ.]

I don't think the conversation was inappropriate. Now, if they had been using profanities, then it would have been inappropriate. I think it's good that this family was having a discussion about it.

There are things that our kids will hear and see in public that we'll have to explain and discuss with them. The only way to avoid "uncomfortable" moments is to stay home, not read, not watch tv and not have contact with other people. Who wants to live like that?

 

[Tigger&Belle]

I don't think the conversation was inappropriate. Now, if they had been using profanities, then it would have been inappropriate. I think it's good that this family was having a discussion about it.

There are things that our kids will hear and see in public that we'll have to explain and discuss with them. The only way to avoid "uncomfortable" moments is to stay home, not read, not watch tv and not have contact with other people. Who wants to live like that?

I agree! It sounds like a horrific crime, but at 8yo I would think that your 8yo's should be able to understand it somewhat (as much as anyone can understand something like that). I have a 6yo and I can't say I would be crazy about him hearing that, but there are tough things that have to be explained to kids. Just one of our jobs as parents, as unpleasant as it is.

I would have distracted them as you did. You did fine!

 

[goofygirl]

Just a thought-If you don't want your kids to hear about anything violent then you should never have them watch Disney movies- plenty of them have violence.

 

[bananiem]

and the difference is.......

If I quoted her word for word it would get me banned for sure!

 

[phorsenuf]

If I quoted her word for word it would get me banned for sure!

bummer.....I'm curious now! LOL

 

[momof2inPA]

Porco, what an unfortunate name, but could it have led them to K-I-L-L?

OK, that was inappropriate. Yes, it was a serious crime, blah, blah, blah.

 

[azgal81]

Don't have a problem with it either. People should be allowed to talk about what ever they want at dinner you could have moved if it was really bad. It's not your place to call them out on it.

 

[sweet angel]

I don't think current events should be a taboo discussion topic in public.

I did, however, walk out of a Friendly's fairly recently because we were placed next to a table of teens who thought nothing of pushing each other out of the booth, sneezing, burping, farting, etc. all over each other, cursing up a storm, etc. The restaurant staff was doing nothing to control them, so I left.

 

[LindsayDunn228]

and the difference is.......

For real. The hole is in the same place on both types.

 

[sweet angel]

LOL -- I thought the comment was asking what the difference in content of the two conversations was.

 

[VSL]

If people are discussing things at an appropriate voice level, IMO it doesn't matter what they are talking about. The only person being rude would be the one focusing on their conversation.

If they are being loud about then it is a different story.