what would you do if you were to not find out till the day you leave if DH was coming

[imgoingtodisney]

We have dinner reservations on Thanksgiving on the way to the airport hotel where we have reservations to do the overnight w/parking.

Do I wait till Thanksgiving to cancel our dinner and our park n fly, and have DH drive DS & I to the airport Fri morn?

Would you keep the hotel the night before but have DH drive you to the airport after Thanksgiving dinner? Would you consider it a waste of money if you stayed overnight but didnt need the parking? If DH decides not to cruise w/us the least he can do is pick us up at the airport when we return with a warm car!

And is DCL open on Thanksgiving for me to call and tell them we have 1 less passenger?

 

[AnnMorin]

I certainly would not be having thanksgiving dinner with HIM!


If I were you I would DEMAND to know TODAY if he is going or not. And I would get on the phone with friends, relatives whoever and find someone who would like his ticket!

 

[Michelle]

If your husband chooses to behave in such a manipulative and childish way, my choice would be to continue with the plans as they are. I would take my son and go eat Thanksgiving dinner as you planned, and do the park and ride thing too. If he can't commit to going on the cruise, how do you know he will commit to actually picking you up AFTER the cruise?

DCL generally has limited hours of operation on holidays.

 

[Gillian]

Do you know the cancellation policy for your dinner? Some places around here take credit card #s for holiday reservations & charge a fee if you cancel too late.

If the hotel isn't too much, it seems like it would be easier to stay there, whether you need the parking or not. Is it less expensive without the parking?

 

[mcnuss]

Michelle has echoed my thoughts exactly. Let your DH eat at McDonalds on Thanksgiving - if it's even open. You and DS should stick with your plans.

Dare I ask if your DH is always this way? If so, I know a couple of good divorce lawyers down your way.

 

[alexandrew]

 

[LOVETHATMOUSE]

I have been following what has been going on with you and you have my total sympathy.
Here is what I would do: I would hire a limo to take my son and to Thanksgiving dinner- then on to spend the night at the hotel. I would leave the ingrateful, inconsiderate the baby at home!

I agree with AnnMorin - I would give him until Sunday night for his answer - then I would look for a replacement for the trip - maybe someone who would actually enjoy it and appreciate all your hard work. Maybe if you went without him it would give him something to think about - maybe how good you are to him for putting up with his s@#t. If he was my husband I would have cancelled his ticket long ago.


Good Luck and here's some pixie dust for you!!!!

 

[vicnmickey]

My thoughts exactly!!!!!!!!!!


Go and have a great time, don't worry about him

 

[Tay N Evie's Mom]

If I were you I wouldn't have DH pick you up at the airport after the cruise. You're going to have all the great feelings squashed by his attitude-trust me. When I was 17 my Mom, Dad and I were going to Cancun for a week. My Dad was hospitalized 2 days before we left and couldn't go, but demanded my Mom and I still go. Obviously, when we got back we were exicted and talked about the trip for days. A few months later my Mom told me that she and my Dad got into a hugh fight because my Dad didn't appreciate hearing all about our trip. I'm sorry that your DH has such a poor attitude about the whole thing. He's the one missing out on a truly magical family experience. Right now my DH doesn't want to go again any time soon (but he did take us on 3 DCL within 14 months). I finally told him the other day that if he doesn't want to go fine, I'll take the kids and go myself. The look on his face was surprising. He hasn't told me what he thinks about my plan yet, but I'm considering the cheap 3 day being advertised Jan 9. I think he'll change his mind rather than miss a wonderful experience with his kids, if not "DCL-the twins and I will see you soon!"

 

[Buckaroo's Dad]

Just my opinion, but I feel as though you are posting more information than is necessary for these type of boards concerning your relationship with your husband. I have no idea what the dynamics are in your household nor do I wish to. Since you asked I'll respond. Make whatever arrangements are to your benefit with your son. Have a truly wonderful cruise. Then, when you return, hire a divorce attorney and commence legal action. Your husband fails to grasp the concept of "family."

 

[ncligs]

He deserves the following......

.......if those don't work than......

 

[imgoingtodisney]

lol - thanks guys and Im sorry for getting you involved - I have asked for this to be locked
Im just not sure right now how I should look at this cruise and it's taking some of the enthusiasm out of it.
Do I think of it as a family vaca? or as a mother/son vaca? Wont know till the day we leave.