What to do?!! **whine/vent**

[Charitycase20]

As you can see, I haven't posted much since joining DIS but I am a very dedicated lurker!!

So I posted in the past that I wanted to plan a Jan 2010 trip to WDW for DH, DD, DS and myself for DDs 4th birthday. I was anxiously waiting for winter pricing and deals to be rolled out and am trying to save money. DH really didn't want to do a Jan 2010 trip and finally talked me into waiting until 2011, even though we would be spending more money because DS will be 3 at that point!!

My BBF called me last week and said "Would you be interested in doing WDW in May 2010?" WHAT!! Her family is going and they want to rent a house off property and asked if we were interested in splitting the rent for the week, so basically $600 for the week, maybe more/less, I'm not sure about tax in FL. 6BR, 4BA, pool/spa with screened in area, identical master suites with spa tubs...great deal I thought and less than we would spend on resort. Now DH says if we do WDW in May we can't do the trip to South Dakota crazy2 with his family in June. Personally I don't want to go to SD, our kids are too young to get anything out of such a trip. He doesn't want to go either but he doesn't want to hurt anyone's feelings. Granted, I don't either but I want to do something with "my" family.

So now my issue is to just let it go and suck it up or really fight for what I want to do which is WDW!! He's also whining about if we go to WDW we won't be able to do our yearly trek to OBX for a week although we were planning on going off season next year so its cheaper. Help please!!
I guess is this more a vent/whine than anything, and if you got this far, Thank you!!

 

[Shmily1]

I would do what you want to do for "your" family, not what others expect you to do. Tell them that you just can't do what they want at this time because this is something you've been wanting to do with your family and now you have the opportunity.

Also, just something to think about, but you could do a resort for less than $600/ week if you are staying at a value resort, and even cheaper than that with a code. With little ones, I think they would love AS Movies!! (well, I'm not a little one and I love it too!) Sometimes it is $59/ night or $84/ night.

Stand up for yourself and your family and have a great time!!

 

[Charitycase20]

Thank you shmily

I really want this trip and the more I think about ie, staying off resort would be a good thing for us, that way if "we" get overly stimulated we can go back to our private residence and pool without 500 other people. And in-house child care is always good, if we can talk the other couple into doing a child swap one night and we do for them so they can have "couple" time too.

I think I made the mistake of telling DH this morning, that I didn't want to go to SD, how come we couldn't do somewhere interesting like San Antonio. Sooo, now he's prob gonna go to his dad and say that we want to do that. The whole trip concept came from the fact that next summer will be our eldest nephews last summer home before graduating HS and grandpa wants a big family trip before he goes away to college. Granted they were just all in OBX with us last month, we paid for the house $2100!! Plus about $200 in groceries on top of our trip expenses to drive down!!!

 

[pixiewings71]

You know, I moved away from my family, far away, about a 10 hr drive. For the longest time all MY vacation time was spent going to visit them while NOT ONE of them came to visit me. Am I bitter? Yes, but I love my family. Anyway, I finally decided enough was enough, that I wanted to do things other than go to Boise for EVERY vacation I took. So I stopped going home to visit all the time, now we do our family vacations and squeeze in a visit when we can, every couple of years or so. I figure roads go both ways so they can come see me too. Anyway, that's not really your question but my point is, you and your family should do your own vacations and not feel like you have to do something with extended family. If you can afford this May 2010 trip by all means, do it!!!! Let the family know you're not going to make it in June but if they'd like to come see you that would be great.
Good luck! I hope you have fun no matter what you decide to do.

 

[PinkRhombus]

As much as I adore the idea behind yearly trips to wherever because of "tradition"...if it interferes with me getting to do anything else, then I don't like it.

 

[Shmily1]

Thank you shmily

I really want this trip and the more I think about ie, staying off resort would be a good thing for us, that way if "we" get overly stimulated we can go back to our private residence and pool without 500 other people. And in-house child care is always good, if we can talk the other couple into doing a child swap one night and we do for them so they can have "couple" time too.

I think I made the mistake of telling DH this morning, that I didn't want to go to SD, how come we couldn't do somewhere interesting like San Antonio. Sooo, now he's prob gonna go to his dad and say that we want to do that. The whole trip concept came from the fact that next summer will be our eldest nephews last summer home before graduating HS and grandpa wants a big family trip before he goes away to college. Granted they were just all in OBX with us last month, we paid for the house $2100!! Plus about $200 in groceries on top of our trip expenses to drive down!!!

I think Grandpa should plan a trip to WDW before college then... That would be fun for all ages and your little ones would have a blast too.

 

[sk!mom]

As much as I adore the idea behind yearly trips to wherever because of "tradition"...if it interferes with me getting to do anything else, then I don't like it.

I completely agree!

My extended family did WDW last June and had a blast. They then decided that we should go to Branson this year. Well, no one in my house has ANY interest in Branson. We, also, already had plans for New Orleans, Niagara Falls, and NYC this summer...So we regretfully declined. I think we irritated a few people and I hate that but vacation time and money is precious to us.

We would love to do another group trip but it's hard to pick a place that fits everyone. I think that you have to insist on a trip that fits your family. Would Grandpa go for WDW?

 

[mrsklamc]

Kids grow up before you know it. If you're like most people, time and money is too short to waste going on vacations you don't really want to go on. And no way am I dragging kiddos that young to South Dakota! I drove across the bottom of South Dakota once. I will never forget the sign that said something like 'Last McDonald's for 200 miles.'

 

[Ava]

As much as I adore the idea behind yearly trips to wherever because of "tradition"...if it interferes with me getting to do anything else, then I don't like it.

I am sort of dreading this happening with us. We live in NY, my parents live in MD, and my partner's parents are snowbirds (winter in FL, summer in RI). Now that we have DD they obviously all want to see her as much as possible, so I have a feeling our usual week-long vacation in late winter/early spring is now going to be to FL to see my in-laws. Not that there's anything wrong with FL, or my in-laws, but I'm not the type of person who enjoys going to the same place on vacation year after year.