What to do on Thanksgiving...

[kristen821]

This year my parents were going to be away for Thanksgiving so we celebrated on Sat. with them. My dh's cousin called him and said that she was going to his Uncles house for Thanksgiving and wanted him to go. She was only going to go if we went. My dh called his uncle and he said a lot of people were already coming so dh said we would bring something just let us know what. Last night dh had a message on his voicemail. It was his aunt she wants us to bring beer, pop, plates, napkins, and silverware for 30 people. I told dh forget it I don't want to spend that much money to be somewhere either of us want to really be. The cost of all that will be well over $150. To top it off dh's brother who lives with dh's uncle called him last night and told him to bring a case of heiniken (spelling?) for him. These people seem to think we are made of money Does anyone else think that they are asking to much? The only one who would be there for dinner would be my dh my ds7 and dd3. I wouldn't get there til after work. I told dh to call them and say we weren't coming. I am not even sure if he did that yet. But here is the problem. Dh just called me and asked what we would have for dinner. I didn't buy a turkey because we ate at my parents house Saturday and had the whole thanksgiving dinner and I am not a big fan of turkey. I also am working today and won't be home until 3:30 so that is late to make a turkey. Anyway he sounded a little upset that nothing will be traditional this year although he would never tell me. Should I just spend the money and buy what his aunt and uncle want so I keep it traditional for him? This time of year is really not the time to spend all that money. Should I start a turkey dinner at my house at 3:30? I have never made a turkey dinner because we usually have thanksgiving with my parents. Should I go with the steak dinner that I planned after the voicemail lastnight?

Thanks for your help

 

[Pam]

You had the traditional dinner on Saturday, right? I would just go with something simple for dinner when you get home. Make spagheti, make hamburgers.

I wouldn't take the $$$ and buy all that stuff and go to your DH's uncle's. You're not the liquor store and I can't believe the host/hostess wouldn't already have the plates, silverware, beverages,etc. purchased. They're trying to use you, plain and simple. Don't allow them to do so.

We don't do the traditional Christmas dinner any more. One year we had spaghetti, another a sandwich platter. No one is rushed -- everyone can relax and enjoy the day. After working all day, you deserve to put up your feet and reflect on your blessings with your family. I hope you get the chance to do so.

 

[Stitchfans]

I am suppose to be getting ready to go to my brother's house. Not really looking forward to it. SIL can be kind, but overbearing. She is a total take charge person, and if things don't go her way. Head for the hills.

 

[kristen821]

Good luck stitchfans! I know how you feel and feel your pain!


I am glad you agree with me Pam! I would be happy to bring something over but they are expecting way to much out of us. I hope they do have some of the stuff because we don't plan on going and dh says he agrees so I hope he really does. My family and his family are completely opposite of eachother. I would be devastated not to spend the holidays with my family and I hope it really doesn't devastate him not to be with his. The only time we talk to his family is when they want something (besides his cousin) and my family has never asked us for anything. His uncle did do a lot for him when he was a child, but how long does dh have to pay them back? He was a child he didn't ask for a mother that passed her kids along to anyone who would take them. Thanks for letting me vent!

 

[Planogirl]

Wow, they're demanding. We used to be asked to bring a dessert and some soft drinks but never that much! I'm assuming that they wanted paper plates and plastic dinnerware? Yuck.

Some grocery stores are open today. You could try to pick up a traditional dessert for your DH to make him feel better. That is, if anything is left.