What should I do??

[Woodpackmom]

OK, this might get long and confusing...so I apologize in advance!
My husband is in the Navy, and he is stationed in Panama City Florida while I stayed behind with our kids in Virginia Beach, it was a tough decision for us to do the whole "geographical bachelor" thing, but it was/is the best choice for us...That being said...here is my problem!
We are leaving for DW on January 13, staying at Shades of Green. Back when I made the reservations my DH wasn't sure he would be able to take the time off to come with us. I booked the reservation for 2 adults and 3 kids as I knew that my mom (who basically lives with me while my husband is gone) would be coming. Well....now my husband CAN come...for 5 out of the 7 days, which of course we are thrilled about..But now we are 3 adults and 3 kids, which puts us over the "max occupancy" for our room (which is 5 people). Now, my youngest is 3 1/2, so space for us isn't an issue at att becasue she'll just sleep in the bed with us, but my problem is that if we want to do the EMH then we ALL need a resort ID. So my initial thought was that I just wouldn't "claim" my daughter was in in the room...but then I got to worrying about her not having one of those cards. Do you think the CM's would be super strict about letting her on rides if she doesn't have a card but all the rest of us do???
I really just want to be honest of course...but I fear if I do that then they (SOG) will tell us that since we are "over" that we need another whole room...and there is just NO way we can afford that right now because we didn't budget for another 800 bucks!!!
Soooo...what should I do?? Any thoughts or opinons??
Thanks in advance...I'm stressing!!!!

 

[MiniGirl]

Well, since you asked, I will give you my honest opinion.

Leave mom at home and enjoy some much deserved family time -- just you, your husband, and the kids. Your kids are older and I'm sure you could handle them easily enough on the 2 days he isn't with you. Personally, I wouldn't want to share a room with my husband AND my mother; and if I were a guy I certainly wouldn't want to share a room with my wife (whom I never get to see) AND my MIL -- no matter how wonderul she may be and how much I love her. If she must come, get her a room at a value resort for those few nights and let her watch the kiddos, so you and hubby can have some private time.

 

[DizneeMommy]

Well, since you asked, I will give you my honest opinion.

Leave mom at home and enjoy some much deserved family time -- just you, your husband, and the kids. Your kids are older and I'm sure you could handle them easily enough on the 2 days he isn't with you. Personally, I wouldn't want to share a room with my husband AND my mother; and if I were a guy I certainly wouldn't want to share a room with my wife (whom I never get to see) AND my MIL -- no matter how wonderul she may be and how much I love her. If she must come, get her a room at a value resort for those few nights and let her watch the kiddos, so you and hubby can have some private time.

 

[kiddisney]

hi - i agree w/pp - though your mom would have a great time I think that time spent w/your husband & the kids would mean more to all of you - and going w/three kids is doable - we were going for a long week but my husband had to cancel for the first four days - i also had three kids - one 6 months old - but it worked out - make sure everyone knows the ground rules up front - all eating at the same time - all using the facilities at the same time - and then with that you'll not be running to do too many things at random times - also bring a stroller for the little one so that you can keep her in one place when you're trying to keep everyone going in the same direction - for us the only problem (and it wasn't so bad) was that we had to repeat some rides as the kids needed to go on them right away and then wanted to take their day - but it was

 

[Woodpackmom]

I already paid for plane tickets, etc so I can't really leave my mom at home...
I agree, I would certainly like to have the "family" time...but the mom situation is complicated...so that's really not something I can do.
I am not at all concerned about handling the kids without my hubby as some of you mentioned...(that's not why my mom is coming) My real issue was what to do with the room situation... Any thoughts on that?

 

[sk!mom]

Well, since you asked, I will give you my honest opinion.

Leave mom at home and enjoy some much deserved family time -- just you, your husband, and the kids. Your kids are older and I'm sure you could handle them easily enough on the 2 days he isn't with you. Personally, I wouldn't want to share a room with my husband AND my mother; and if I were a guy I certainly wouldn't want to share a room with my wife (whom I never get to see) AND my MIL -- no matter how wonderul she may be and how much I love her. If she must come, get her a room at a value resort for those few nights and let her watch the kiddos, so you and hubby can have some private time.

I completely agree!! If mom wants to come then my favorite idea would be for her to get a value room and keep the kids a few nights.

As far as answering your question, I can't help. I've never gone over the occcupancy for the room. Sorry!

 

[livndisney]

I don't suggest exceeding the room occupancy. Disney can and may ask each person to produce a KTTW card for early morning hours and also for each ride during the evening hours.

 

[Woodpackmom]

I completely agree!! If mom wants to come then my favorite idea would be for her to get a value room and keep the kids a few nights.

As far as answering your question, I can't help. I've never gone over the occcupancy for the room. Sorry!

I actually just checked out the value rooms, no availability...

 

[MickeyMomOfThree]

It's been a while since we stayed at SoG, but I thought they were not eligible for EMH. I could very well be wrong, but if you don't know for sure I may double check.

I agree, find her a seperate room for the nights. If they find out you could risk getting kicked out. OR, being that you see your DH so rarely (I know I was a military wife), get the two of you a seperate room and have her stay with the kids for those nights. As for the cost, maybe she would be willing to help out with that.

 

[tkme4ard]

SOG is actually treated like a resort but not part of any pkgs/dining plans but dis trans and EMH are part of the perks of SOG

as for the OP I'm not sure what to tell you. Although isn't another room only going to be ot of pocket 500$ since you only need that for 5 of the 7 nights? isn't SOG around 100$ and no tax? Can you have your mom split it with you?

 

[dementia412]

You give no reason for why your mother needs to come along. Is she sick? That is the only thing I can think of. I would do just about anything to not have my mom in the same room as me and my dh and I just don't get why you wouldn't feel the same.

As for the room try to get a cabin, and if not do what you want to do and all stay in one room, but nobody here is going to give that plan a stamp of approval. I know, I was once in the boat of really wanting to stay in 4 person rooms with 5 people, and I got the Dis beatdown for asking about it.

 

[lisadr]

Can you book a ASM family suite? Occupancy for 6. I am not familiar with the rates at SOG. If you can't book the ASM suite the the only other thing is to book your mom a sep. room for the day your DH is there.

Or what about booking him a campsite for the days he's there? Even if he stays with you guys he has a resort ID and it's cheaper than booking a room. It would be $219.00 plus tax. I don't know if this is a no-no and I am going to get the "Dis beat down" for suggesting it but it's an option.I think

 

[Braxtonsmom03]

I'm sure this could turn into a big flame throwing debate BUT...I don't think that she has to explain why her mother should or shouldn't come. Thats not what she's asking... She simply wants to know if anyone has been in this situation and what they have done. If you don't feel she's right with what she's considering then don't post back. It won't affect you either way! I can imagine if I were in her postion and I spent all my time with my mom and made these plans and paid for a plane ticket with her name on it then "univiting" her that would just be plain out mean! I understand that she does not get to see her husband as often as others may but her mom is her main support system at home and I'm sure she would like to spend time with her grandchildren Especially OP if you were once flamed at by other dis'ers did you like it? why would you want her to feel the way you did?
I think that Lisa's idea is a great one!

 

[dementia412]

Okay then my advice without any more info is tell your dh he can't come to the family vacation because you didn't bother to include him in the plans because there was a chance he couldn't come.

 

[lisadr]

Okay then my advice without any more info is tell your dh he can't come to the family vacation because you didn't bother to include him in the plans because there was a chance he couldn't come.

Is this because of your Dis beat down?

 

[dementia412]

I take my beating like a big girl and try to learn from them. For example, its really stupid to ask if something you know is wrong is okay and not expect to get bashed for it.

 

[lisadr]

I take my beating like a big girl and try to learn from them. For example, its really stupid to ask if something you know is wrong is okay and not expect to get bashed for it.

Aww- I don't think that's the case here-I think she's really just looking for some ideas. Sometimes you worry so much over something it gets too big to handle and you need a few opinions.

Ans it's real hard not to sound sarcastic here and so I am going to just say-I am not being sarcastic.

P.S-What do you think about getting a campsite? Is it a no-no or would it work?

 

[dementia412]

If he stays on it, its fine. Otherwise its still cheating.

 

[lisadr]

If he stays on it, its fine. Otherwise its still cheating.

Why do you say that? If I rent a room and don't stay there-who is it hurting? Me-I paid for it and am not using it. I just don't get it. But I am interested in your reasons.

 

[dismom2]

I can't imagine sharing a double bed with my DH and a 3 1/2 year old at the same time. I would not get any sleep at all.

You know, if you live in a different state than your DH, I'm sure you value your time with him when you do get to see him. Do what you need to do to include him and make his trip enjoyable.
As for the card, I bet Disney enforces that---I would not take any chances---why possibly ruin your trip, or have to take time dealing with a problem when you get there? I also agree that the inexpensive camp site rental sounds like a reasonable and affordable option for you. I hope you can work it all out, and that you and your DH have a nice visit with each other. Just out of curiosity---has your mother made any suggestions at all, considering the circumstances? I would definately put your DH's needs at a priority.
Have a nice trip.