What options does my friend have?

[MAGICX2]

I have a friend who is getting married for the second time. She has two young girls, both under 7. She is having her actual wedding ceremony in Aruba on the beach and then a honeymoon immediately following, so no girls.
However, she would like to do something at WDW that includes the girls. She doesn't want to do the whole Fairy Tale Weddings thing. Just something small, maybe like a commitment ceremony with nothing legally binding actually happening. Its just her, her fiance, and two girls. What kind of options does she have?

 

[robinb]

I have a friend who is getting married for the second time. She has two young girls, both under 7. She is having her actual wedding ceremony in Aruba on the beach and then a honeymoon immediately following, so no girls.
However, she would like to do something at WDW that includes the girls. She doesn't want to do the whole Fairy Tale Weddings thing. Just something small, maybe like a commitment ceremony with nothing legally binding actually happening. Its just her, her fiance, and two girls. What kind of options does she have?

Um ... a wedding that actually INCLUDES her children? What a concept .

 

[PrincessShea]

She is looking at spending a minimum of around $5k for the smallest official Disney wedding, and around $3k for the smallest wedding at the Swan/Dolphin.

 

[MAGICX2]

Thanks for the responses.

Um ... a wedding that actually INCLUDES her children? What a concept .

I am not here to judge her, just help her with her decision. They chose not to take the girls to Aruba because they will be staying for a week afterwards and they did not want the girls to miss an extended period of school. I commend her for considering another option so she can include her girls.

 

[robinb]

I commend her for considering another option so she can include her girls.

Well, I don't commend her for choosing a destination wedding that does NOT include her girls. I have heard again and again her on the wedding board about how the wedding should be about the bride and the groom. But in the case where there is already an existing family, it's NOT about two people any more. It's about FOUR people. And excluding the kids so she can have her little fantasy wedding on the beach followed by a full-on booty-call-no-kids-allowed honeymoon is ... well ... immature and juvenile.

And the whole "I don't want them to miss a week of school" is just a red herring so she can be selfish and leave them behind. They're 7 and under for goodness sakes, NOT in high school where a missed week actually makes a difference .

Little girls that age ADORE weddings. I can't believe that anyone with a smidgen of a heart would take that away from their little girls. And no, a "pretend wedding" at WDW does not cut it. Have the beach wedding. Have the great sex adults only honeymoon. Just don't have them together.

BTW, my DH and I were asked by a pair of strangers to stand up with them at their wedding on Kauai. They had their two little girls with them and one of them had made friends with our DD. It was a lovely wedding on the beach and they celebrated it as A FAMILY.

 

[aristocatz]

Well, I don't commend her for choosing a destination wedding that does NOT include her girls. I have heard again and again her on the wedding board about how the wedding should be about the bride and the groom. But in the case where there is already an existing family, it's NOT about two people any more. It's about FOUR people. And excluding the kids so she can have her little fantasy wedding on the beach followed by a full-on booty-call-no-kids-allowed honeymoon is ... well ... immature and juvenile.

And the whole "I don't want them to miss a week of school" is just a red herring so she can be selfish and leave them behind. They're 7 and under for goodness sakes, NOT in high school where a missed week actually makes a difference .

Little girls that age ADORE weddings. I can't believe that anyone with a smidgen of a heart would take that away from their little girls. And no, a "pretend wedding" at WDW does not cut it. Have the beach wedding. Have the great sex adults only honeymoon. Just don't have them together.

BTW, my DH and I were asked by a pair of strangers to stand up with them at their wedding on Kauai. They had their two little girls with them and one of them had made friends with our DD. It was a lovely wedding on the beach and they celebrated it as A FAMILY.

WOW....judgmental much??? The OP was seeking wedding ceremony options, not personal opinions on whether to include her friend's children at both wedding ceremonies. She is including them in one ceremony (and in a setting where I'm guessing her girls would much prefer at their age), why does she need to include them in both?? Do children under 7 years of age really understand that one wedding is legally binding and the other is not??

Anyways, OP, the Swan/Dolphin offers lovely wedding and vow renewal packages for half the price of the DFTW.....your friend can even hire Mickey & Minnie as an extra treat for their girls!!!

 

[Cait8383]

Well, I don't commend her for choosing a destination wedding that does NOT include her girls. I have heard again and again her on the wedding board about how the wedding should be about the bride and the groom. But in the case where there is already an existing family, it's NOT about two people any more. It's about FOUR people. And excluding the kids so she can have her little fantasy wedding on the beach followed by a full-on booty-call-no-kids-allowed honeymoon is ... well ... immature and juvenile.

And the whole "I don't want them to miss a week of school" is just a red herring so she can be selfish and leave them behind. They're 7 and under for goodness sakes, NOT in high school where a missed week actually makes a difference .

Little girls that age ADORE weddings. I can't believe that anyone with a smidgen of a heart would take that away from their little girls. And no, a "pretend wedding" at WDW does not cut it. Have the beach wedding. Have the great sex adults only honeymoon. Just don't have them together.

BTW, my DH and I were asked by a pair of strangers to stand up with them at their wedding on Kauai. They had their two little girls with them and one of them had made friends with our DD. It was a lovely wedding on the beach and they celebrated it as A FAMILY.

Can we say inappropriate? Someone who comes on these boards seeking advice from people who are going through the same process should not be judged by you!

 

[robinb]

Can we say inappropriate? Someone who comes on these boards seeking advice from people who are going through the same process should not be judged by you!

When someone asks for advise on the DIS they open themselves up all kinds of advise. No just the advise that they want to hear. My advise is for her friend to have a wedding that includes her entire family. Once you have kids it's not just about two people any longer.

 

[tinkerbell 766]

Well, I don't commend her for choosing a destination wedding that does NOT include her girls. I have heard again and again her on the wedding board about how the wedding should be about the bride and the groom. But in the case where there is already an existing family, it's NOT about two people any more. It's about FOUR people. And excluding the kids so she can have her little fantasy wedding on the beach followed by a full-on booty-call-no-kids-allowed honeymoon is ... well ... immature and juvenile.

And the whole "I don't want them to miss a week of school" is just a red herring so she can be selfish and leave them behind. They're 7 and under for goodness sakes, NOT in high school where a missed week actually makes a difference .

Little girls that age ADORE weddings. I can't believe that anyone with a smidgen of a heart would take that away from their little girls. And no, a "pretend wedding" at WDW does not cut it. Have the beach wedding. Have the great sex adults only honeymoon. Just don't have them together.

BTW, my DH and I were asked by a pair of strangers to stand up with them at their wedding on Kauai. They had their two little girls with them and one of them had made friends with our DD. It was a lovely wedding on the beach and they celebrated it as A FAMILY.

Wow very strong!!! You don't even know the person involved!!!
Had you been asked for your opinions on the situation then this post may have been justified but the OP was asking for the options available to her friend NOT your opinion of the plans she has made. What is right for one is not right for another and you are coming off very judgmental. Be very careful!!

 

[hiwaygal]

I would suggest contacting someone at Gifts of a Lifetime and see if there's something they can help with.

There's no need to plan too much, heck, even a simple private dinner where they all share family time would seem to suffice.

 

[brer rabbit 28]

I would suggest a small vow renewal on Fultons at DTD or swan and Dolphin. Then maybe a character meal lunch for the girls.

 

[LittleStinkerbelle]

Are either of them military? Lurkyloo posted recently about a new intimate vow renewal package through Shades of Green. Looked like a really good deal.

 

[aristocatz]

I would suggest a small vow renewal on Fultons at DTD or swan and Dolphin. Then maybe a character meal lunch for the girls.

Fulton's has great ceremonies!!

 

[Brit_Jude]

I echo the ceremony options and how about a trip to the Bibbidi Bobbidi Boutique for the girls to be made into pricesses before the ceremony. Then dinner reservations at the Royal Table in the MK castle.

 

[MAGICX2]

Thanks to all for your responses! They have given me some great ideas to pass along to my friend.
I really am not going to justify a previous post with a response. While this is a public forum and everyone is entitled to their opinions, I don't have to listen.

 

[CelticBelle]

Thank you for being a bigger person and not feuling a fire.

I also think the small get togethers with family at a restaurant would be a great idea. if they want something small to include the girls but still feel weddingish the swan and dolphin sounds like a good source.

I hope your friend is able to find a good solution that works for her!

 

[aristocatz]

Thank you for being a bigger person and not feuling a fire.

I also think the small get togethers with family at a restaurant would be a great idea. if they want something small to include the girls but still feel weddingish the swan and dolphin sounds like a good source.

I hope your friend is able to find a good solution that works for her!

I agree!! Let me know if you need any help with the Swan/Dolphin option. We are getting married there as well!!