I am practically in tears! It is hard to find anybody these days who has what they would consider to be a body worthy of praise. Being married to an incredibly wonderful, super sized guy, I have to say, anyone who loves you is not embarrassed by your appearance. They may feel your pain, but embarrassed, never! I do understand the part about feeling good about ourselves, but why? I, for instance hate rolling over onto what I
think is a bunch of blanket, only to realise it's my own body folded over on itself. (EEEW!) BUT, it's ok, because I have so much to give, so much to live for, and I know I will, if I re-train my mind to think healthy, be here for as long as is my destiny, to live and give.
That is why we visit here. We all understand what it feels like to be seen as somehow less worthy, based on our physical appearance, but we all know we have at least as much love and compassion in our hearts as those by whom we feel judged. We have so many reasons to feel good about ourselves. We really need to support each other so we don't ever feel less because we don't live up to an arbitrary standard, set by an industry that has NO IDEA what health is.
I think we all just want to be accepted for who we are, and given a chance to shine our brilliance for the rest of the world to see. Ask yourselves, when you see a fat person, are you disgusted, or do you feel their pain? Anyone who is disgusted, has never looked into the heart of another human being, and has no clue about true love and beauty.
I know how you feel, but at least let me assure you, you are harder on yourselves than you should be. We don't need to carry around the equivalent of another human being, and wear a hair suit, as well. We are in this together and as long as I'm on this board, I will do all I can to promote a feeling of compassion and respect for everyone who nedds a little boost over their demon.

Promise!
BTW, I want to change my eating habits to (Other than lose weight) be an inspiration to my children. I don't want them to develope bad habits and feel bad about themselves through no fault of their own. I want them to also see that one can overcome difficulty, with the right mental attitude and support.
I also want to fit back into this dress that, when I wear it, DH can't keep his hands off me!

(truthfully, it would be the same if I wore it today, and since it is spandex, technically, I could wear it. He'd still be groping, but I want to look like a disco queen in it, not the Michelin Man from MARS! Now that's a vision! LOL!)
Let's enjoy our journey together! Keep smiling.
Hey Snacky Stacky,
Are you sure you're not my DH in cognito? When he lost his first 50 lbs., the first piece of clothing he got was an Old Navy shirt for $9.99! You guys are so funny!
Keep the Faith!
Tracy