What made you decide your family was complete?

[tiggerlover]

God decided for me as I am unable to have any more. I had a lot of medical issues and it took me 10 years to have my DS. We tried for several years more to have another and couldn't so we decided we were given one for a reason and we treasure him and are grateful we were able to have him.

 

[MoniqueU]

I had all my kids close together and my husband works really long hours. I was outnumbered and in need of a full nights sleep!!
Now that my kids are all in school I miss the baby stage but I don't know if I could start from scratch with my eyesite what it is now and if I get pregnant it can cause my eyes to deteriorate rapidly I have read so that scares me. I need to watch some home movies of when my kids were smaller.

 

[gr8tpanther]

2 here, 1 of each. I have always believed that you shouldnt have more than what you can afford to send to college.

I already have 2 too many, cause I can't afford to send either of them to college.

I was done after I had my first, #2 was unplanned. DEFINITELY done after 2!

 

[Mermaid02]

My second child was a difficult baby- and I didn't want to have children after I turned 30 anyway. Plus finances!

 

[JESW]

I always wanted to have 4 but that was when I was MUCH younger!

I had DS at 35 and DD at 39 (after experiencing unexplained secondary infertility for over a year). Our oldest is an apsergers kid and life has never been dull with him. As it is I feel as if DD is cheated out of time with us so adding more kids to this mix wouldn't have worked for our family.

Jill

 

[C.Ann]

What made me decide my family was complete? I divorced their father..

Then when I married my second husband, he already had 5 kids by his first marriage so we pretty much decided "Eight is enough...."

 

[Pin Wizard]

Never felt that it was.

 

[golfgal]

When they started coming in pairs, we thought it was a good idea to stop.

 

[tevagirl]

What little bit of sanity I had left after number three kicked in.

 

[Nite0wl71]

Well when #5 came along (9 years after #4) and I was 36 it was time

 

[Jennifer S]

DH goes for the big "V" on Friday. For me it was watching my one year old nephew. I knew I couldn't go back. Our two boys are 9 and 5. As much as I wish I had a girl I just "know" that I'm done. Life is too easy and too much fun right now.

 

[SleepyMom]

We didn't decide our family was complete, the Dr. told us we were done.

DH and I wanted at least 3 together (plus DD I brought to the marriage). DS was born when I was 28, he was very premature and passed away shortly after being born. I had DD11 when I was almost 30, it was a difficult high-risk pregnancy that ended with her being 6 weeks premature and a stay in the NICU.

We are very happy with our 2 girls but it did take a long time to get over that feeling of wanting to try again.

 

[Lewski709]

I've tried to age gap the kids by 4yrs. This pregnancy was a total shock and a year too early, if we were going to try for another.

Although we knew of the "possibilities" it wasn't the right time, which made us think of a lot of things. THEN, we found out....girl. Just was not prepared for any of it, with two boys already.

While this has probably been the easiet of the 3 pregnancies, I'm still not ready for a baby and I have about 2 months to really get ready. Of course, after being pregnant, I just think 2 is what was for me, but someone else had a different plan. We'll manage just fine, but 3 is plenty for me. If I waited 3 more years after this one, I'd be closer to 40 than 30 and WOW...I'm done.

 

[Disney Ella]

We had twins who were high maintenance babies and I just never got the "I want to do this again" feeling, so we stopped there.

 

[Cyndiu]

DH & I both have twins in our family. When we had a girl first and a boy second, we decided to stop while we were ahead. We were afraid that if we tried for a 3rd we'd get a 4th too!

 

[llij]

After my second dd was born, we were told that we couldn't have anymore. I always wanted a third but was happy with my two girls. This past March, we were surprised to find out that we could indeed have more children! Our son was born 7 weeks ago and we now feel as if our family is complete. I am 37, had a very difficult pregnancy and recovery so I am happy to say that I am done. My doctor also advised me that it was a good idea if I didn't have anymore children. I am thrilled with having three kids!

 

[RitaZ.]

Before we got married, we knew we wanted to have 3 kids. When DD was born, 3rd and last child, we knew that our family was complete. Even if she had been another boy, he still would would have completed our family. Also, I didn't want to have children after age 35, I had DD when I was 32 (almost 33).

The baby years were wonderful, but we are 40 now and at a different stage in our lives.

Jill~ What a beautiful picture! I love your little Santa with his big sisters!

 

[JimB.]

My DW's "suggestion" that I get a vasectomy..........................

 

[Tigger&Belle]

We have a DD 7 and DS 4, so no real need for more. we'll get a dog instead.

When my 3rd child was about 3 1/2-4yo I asked my DH if he wanted another baby or a dog. He chose the dog. Then about a year later I pressed him for another baby. Poor guy!

After that 4th baby I wanted a 5th since my 4th was SO easy. Thankfully I didn't have one right away since Jake turned into such a terror at 1yo. That would have seriously done me in. Also, I felt that I was too old to have more kids (was 39 when Jake was born). Am glad that we are done, even though I love babies and children. I will make a great grandma one day! I'm the type who will always have the baby longing, but that time of my life is over.

 

[CamColt]

DH and I had always said definitely 2, possibly 3 depending how the first 2 go. While trying for our second we went through a year of infertility. we decided we didnt want to go through that emotional roller coaster again.

When DS #2 was born he was a very easy baby and we did think about a 3rd...but then he became a diffcult toddler and we were very content with our 2 boys.

Now that they are 9 and almost 6, there is no way I could go back to diapers and bottles and midnight feedings, etc... In fact we were recently at a birthday party where our kids were the oldest ones there. We were breathing a sigh of relief watching the other parents scramble to chase their kids, carrying them around, cutting up their pizza, changing their diapers, etc... Its really too easy to go back now.