What made you decide your family was complete?

[dismom9761]

My DH felt that our family was complete after DS#2 was born(they are 23 mths apart) but I knew I wanted one more to try for a girl.I thought that when they were a little older we would try.DD#1 was born 15 mths after our second.Well we both thought we were done.Our fourth is now 21 mths old.We are now completely complete ,though I would have more if it weren't so hard financially.

 

[tmt martins]

Ours was $$$ we both come from split struggling homes and decidred on the ONE AND DONE method .This way we can do alot of family things

 

[Buckalew11]

This was never an issue for us. We just were content with having one. I have no idea why. I'm 40 and I hope I don't wake up in 5 years and say something like, "I want another baby".

I am truly thankful this wasn't an issue for us. I would hate to feel pressure to have more children or if I wanted more that my DH didn't.

 

[Mackey Mouse]

I wanted to all done by 30... I had my last child at 29....I always wanted 3 children and had to fight for the last one. She is Daddy's little girl, figures right. They are two peas in a pod.......so 3 was the magic number and all done before 30.

 

[aprilgail2]

One is all I can afford to pay college for so that is where I stopped....if I had 2 there would be no money for college since it would cost way more to raise 2 than one and all the money that should be going into the college fund would be spent on raising the extra kid!

 

[Pea-n-Me]

We also hoped for one child, but after a difficult period of infertility, God blessed us with twins, a boy and a girl.

In utero, though, both their placentas had fused together into one big one, and one of them was a placenta accreta which is missing it's middle membrane and grows directly into the uterine wall, leaving a gaping hole when it's removed. I lost over half the blood in my body during their delivery, and could have died, which sometimes occurs with this condition. Because they didn't know the day of delivery that's what I had (due to the unusual fusion of two together and a number of other complications), they did not do a hysterectomy that day (the usual treatment), however, later, I was told it would leave a permanent weakness in my uterine wall and could rupture with another pregnancy, so we knew for sure we were done when our two were born.

 

[raammartin]

We've got two, one of each, and are DONE. Two costs enough as it is I can't imagine adding more. And I've never really had that desire for more. Every once in a while I'll see a little baby and my heart goes soft, but that quickly fades away. On top of all that, after DD was born I had my tubes tied, later DH had the big "V" (we were paranoid I'd still get pregnant ), and eventually I had a partial hysterectomy. I'm pretty sure my odds of getting pregnant now are nil.

 

[JennaTX]

I had always wanted three children, and I definately wanted to have two girls (mainy because I have such a great relationship with my sisters).

Well after I had DS, we knew that if we wanted to have another one, we wanted to get pregnant quickly (I was 32 when I had DS). But he was such a handful, such a "boy" (more into everything) that I could not imagine getting pregnant again and having another. So we decided that we were done and DH had the big "V".

Although, I still sometimes think about adoption some day.

Also, I can say DS is such a stinker, because he is exactly like me!

 

[mom2rb]

We had twins who were high maintenance babies and I just never got the "I want to do this again" feeling, so we stopped there.

That could have been written by me.
Any chance of trying for #3 was dashed when the Doctor told us we would always have them in pairs.

 

[LoveWDW]

We had previously decided to only have two so that we did not add to the increase in the world's population. I really would have loved to have another child though and regretted not doing so.

 

[Brianne]

We always knew we wanted a large family, but by the 4th one my body was saying "enough!". We talked about adopting after that, but as the youngest got older, I started finding it harder to imagine doing the baby thing again. At this point now, we're sitting back & saying "bring on the grandchildren!"

 

[mom2boys]

We had our 2 boys within 17 months of each other. The first one was such an easy baby - we didn't realize how easy we had it. He slept through the night at 6 weeks, rarely cried, always smiled... DS#2 was more demanding. Since he had horrible eczyma, he was usually uncomfortable - and he let us know. He didn't sleep through the night until he was 4. He couldn't seem to get enough to eat. Don't get me wrong, this child has more personality than the rest of our family combined! He has a passion for life and he's my snuggle bug - even at 10. Thiought we might have two more once our youngest started school full time. By then the full reality of the cost of children was just sinking in. We decided to do more for the two we have than to spread outselves too thin financially. We just started two sets of braces Yikes! I can't imagine funding one more mouth full of medal! Then there's college.

 

[LisaNJ25]

When we had 2 babies 12 months apart.. We thought we were done when we had #3 in August 2004. Well 1 year and 5 days later #4 was born.

When I found out I was pregnant with #4 I called and made the vasectomy appt for hubby. All 4 of my kids were conceived in December.. even though he had the Vasectomy in the Spring I will feel much beter once this month is over

 

[JenDaveBrendan]

Well, off topic, since DH and I aren't done -
I have a DS5 from a previous relationship. I have always wanted 3+ kids, since I am an only child. Not that being an only was bad - I got (and get now) my parents undivided attention (so does DS!), and I had a lot more growing up than I would have if I had siblings, and when I was younger I never even wanted a brother or sister.... BUT.... now that I am an adult, I really wish I had siblings. I have no family besides my parents (all other aunts/uncles/2 cousins live on the west coast), and that makes me sad. Not that this is my parents fault, they couldn't have anymore kids, and I am the product of 7 years of trying and fertility drugs. But, all the "burden" is on me as they age. (not that it is a burden per se..I would do ANYTHING for my parents and take care of them myself as long as I could) Granted, my parents have taken care of ALL financial things (long-term care insurance, loads of assets) to make sure I will not have to put anything out financially, but I still feel really alone emotionally as they age. It is difficult.
So, anyway, that is my reason for wanting 3+ kids... however my DH only wants one of his own. He doesn't really understand where I am coming from (he comes from a large family, split, with lots of step and half siblings. 2 kids is just not enough for me!!! I desperatly want a larger family. I feel like since I don't have one, I have to build my own.
Anyway, just my thoughts!!

 

[DisneyPhD]

I am not so sure we are done, DH is. (however I have a pretty good history of pursading him when I need to.)

I don't know, we might very well be done, it that is the case I will be happy.

It isn't that I need a son (we have 2 DD's) Just not sure if I am done having babies. (however I hate being pregnant, but it is worth it in the end.) I like having girls. If I had a boy I am sure I would be happy with that too.

I am happy for the 2 I have. If god blesses us with more I would be happy.

However I really don't want another for a few more years (putting me over the age of 35 for that pregnancy and more at risk.) My mother was 41 when i was born though (last of 4 kids and the only girl.)

 

[powellrj]

when #3 was born 2 weeks shy of our 18th wedding aniversay!

 

[Sleeping~Beauty]

MY Dh and I have wanted three or four children. So far we have two beautiful boys, 18 mths apart. I am so thrilled with my little princes.

The gender doesn't matter to me (I'm content being the princess of the house . DH and I both grew up with three kids in each of our families, and think it's a nice number to have.

The decision for us right now is when to start, our youngest is 17 mths old now, and I am 34 now.

 

[dis ms.]

What helped decide that your family was complete?

When I realized that science hadn't advanced enough to enable DH to carry the third child!

We had DS first, and DD came along two years later. One boy and one girl. Exactly how we'd planned it.

 

[Tasha+Scott]

We actually aren't finished yet but I know we are only having 2. At one time I thought I might want 3, maybe 4. Dh always has known he is done at 2. He would be content with just the 1 but he is also fine with 2. I know I will not be content with just 1 unless I find out I simply can't have any more or something. I have 2 brothers and 2 half sisters and couldn't imagine being an only child. I am very close to my oldest brother (who is 29 months younger than me). I would like Kylie to experience the same thing if at all possible.

I am now also thinking realistically though and I know financially 2 is all we need b/c we want to be able to provide a nice life for our children without struggling. More than 2 would be much harder on us financially! As it is I am a SAHM right now so 2 will be hard enough. I plan to go back to work when they are both in school though and then we will be doing pretty well financially again. But not enough to put 3 through college. So we are done at 2 and dh will be getting a vasectomy.

 

[Madjock]

DH! he told me no more!

Well that and sleep deprivation - DD2 never slept through till she was 5!

I’m 42 now and know in my head 2 was the right decision but my heart still wants more.