What kind of present will you be giving yourself or your mother?

[bellebud]

ds, dd and I took my mom to Olive Garden for lunch yesterday, and gave her a Walmart gift card (she loves shopping at Walmart).

Tonight dh, myself and the kids are flying to Florida for a week. We closed on a house yesterday (our future retirement house, current vacation house). Couldn't be happier!!

 

[PollyannaMom]

...Tonight dh, myself and the kids are flying to Florida for a week. We closed on a house yesterday (our future retirement house, current vacation house). Couldn't be happier!!

Congratulations!!

 

[bellebud]

Congratulations!!

thank you

 

[Mrs Eeyore]

I heard through the grapevine that my kids are trying to acquire some classic Disney movies on DVD so they can treat me to a binge-watch tomorrow. They aren't having much luck finding the ones they're looking for so it probably won't happen, but I love the thought.

 

[Donnainnj]

Mil is getting tickets to see Paul McCartney. Mom is seeing Foreigner and Cheap Trick with us and Chicago with my aunt.

 

[RedAngie]

I don't buy anything for myself, and my mother died four years ago.

Younger DD (going to college in California) sent a card and a lovely picture frame with a photo of the two of us from over 20 years ago, when she was 3.

Older DD usually gets me a hanging basket or other plant for the garden. I'll see her tomorrow.

 

[superme80]

For once I bought my mom jewelry. I was in Kmart yesterday and found a couple of really pretty pieces. She isn't super flashy, but loves necklaces and clip on earrings. She loves Disney, but doesn't like to have it all over her house.

 

[GaSleepingBeautyFan]

My Mom isn't a Disney Fan so I made her a couple of pairs of earrings and a matching wrap around necklace. She can't close necklace latches easily so I was thinking she might enjoy something she can just wrap and let the ends dangle.

My kids asked for a list from me and one of the things I asked for was a Disney Gift card or anything Disney for my Garden. We shall see what they come up with.

 

[Rockette]

Going to brunch with her. That's all that she wants which is more than fine with me. It'll be more about the time spent together than the actual giving of material stuff... especially since she's retiring to Arizona after the summer.

 

[Kitty 34]

Already gave my Mom her present......a gift certificate to a local greenhouse where she always buys tons of flowers. She's quite the gardener even at 87 years old!

 

[quandrea]

Dinner, on Tuesday. To celebrate my mom's birthday.

My mother has never liked being defined as a "mother", and every year she nicely declines to do anything on the date.

She was quite offended one year while teaching in Pakistan, when she was asked to do an interview on TV, and discovered that they were putting together a "Mother's Day" special and wanted to ask her how she felt with her daughter living so far away. They didn't want to know about her research, they just wanted to do a feel good bit about moms. I think Pakistan really soured her on Mother's Day, because it's a very big holiday there, with everyone getting terribly sentimental about how much they love their mothers. But, at the same time, they're still struggling to make progress in the area of women's rights.

My mother sent me this, yesterday:

https://www.nytimes.com/2017/05/10/opinion/our-mothers-as-we-never-saw-them.html?_r=0

As for me, I do sometimes wish she was prouder of being my mother, but I respect her feelings. And I personally take immense pride in being mother to two terrific young adults. One of whom, when I asked him on Wednesday if he'd be dropping by for dinner at any point this week, panicked and texted, "Can I come over tomorrow? I heard you dyed your hair? Happy mother's day?" Followed by, "Wait no it's not mother's day today." Followed by, "Never mind that last part!" He's a good lad. He came over last night, and wished me a happy early Mother's Day, after explaining that he wouldn't be free on Sunday.

On the actual day, I'm sure my husband will wish me a happy mother's day, and so will my daughter. And they'll be extra nice to me all day. I love Mother's Day!

It's too bad she isn't proud to be defined as mother. It's probably the most important work she will do. Being proud of mothering doesn't take away from a woman's other accomplishments. It makes me sad that society doesn't value child rearing all that much.

 

[Mirielle]

I made her a stained glass window for her bedroom.

 

[amberpi]

Just took my mom out for mother's day. 5 hours of shopping and lunch. No time for nails, we were on a hunt. She had a HAUL. Worth noting though, out of 5 pairs of pants, she, no kidding, got 2 pairs of 12, 2 of 14, and an 18, now those were skinny, skinny jeggings (they look adorable), but wow, that's some crazy size differences. She's usually a 14, and is not someone who cares about sizes, but we were certainly laughing about the differences!

 

[scrhsa]

I told my girls I wanted them to clean my cabinets for Mother's day. That's for today -so far so good! Tomorrow my dd2 will make me some Casa Ole' green sauce and we'll all sit down to watch Casablanca. That's the only way I'll get certain members of my family to watch old movies with me( I'm casting side glances at dh and dd3 ). Hopefully, my dd1 will call tomorrow as well...shoot, I'll be happy with a text.

 

[Tattylou]

Got my mom a dozen roses and a card from me and a card from my kids. Got MIL a gift card to a grocery store (she loves those as presents for some reason) and a card. Mailed my grandmother a card. The kids made stuff for me at school. We have a big expensive unexpected home repair starting this week so I asked DH not to spend any extra money on a gift for me. I think we may go to a bakery or something like that tomorrow. My choice and I haven't decided yet.

 

[Southernmiss]

Bought my mom 2 dressy shirts and took them her last week. She hates to shop and needed them for several events this summer, including one today. Was very glad and surprised to get them.

Bought dh's step mom a pot of mixed plants and greenery. Very pretty and got her a movie gift card. Dropped those off today as we were heading out of town.

Dh gave me a box of Whitman samplers- love to have a small bite of chocolate at my desk after lunch or a stressful moment as a little pick me up.

Will see dh's natural mom next week. We'll figure something out for her soon.

 

[LilTinkFan]

My mom is deceased. Pretty sure dh forgot to send his mom a card. So probably a phone call tomorrow afternoon.
I am getting steak grilled at home, my favorite way!

 

[Skywalker]

All my mom wants at this point is to go to the casino! So we are going to spend a couple of hours there tomorrow. I will probably also get her a scratch lottery ticket. She will probably get me a bottle of my favourite wine. That's us: gambling and booze lol.

 

[klacey1]

Not Disney related, but I'm gifting my mom an Amazon Echo and a gift card toward a one-year Pandora subscription.

 

[Magpie]

It's too bad she isn't proud to be defined as mother. It's probably the most important work she will do. Being proud of mothering doesn't take away from a woman's other accomplishments. It makes me sad that society doesn't value child rearing all that much.

Well, the problem is, she grew up in both a time and a family where it was regularly drilled into her head that being a mother IS the most important work she could do. Which meant that no one valued anything else about her.

When she walked into the physics classroom in high school, the teacher looked at her and said, "Home Ec is down the hall." When she showed him the permission letter she'd obtained, in order to be able to take physics, he was said he wasn't going to waste his time teaching a girl. Then, since he couldn't get rid of her, he spent the rest of the year convincing her that she was terrible at math. She gave up on pursuing maths after that, though she did still manage be the first in her family to go to University. She passed the foreign service exam with flying colours when she was barely 20. But they told her that she'd have to pledge never to get married or have children, if she accepted the job. Being young, she couldn't imagine giving up on love, so she gave up on the foreign service, instead. For the record - men were allowed to marry. It was just assumed that a woman would inevitably quit in order to raise children, so why bother investing in her? In a million different ways, she was told and shown that her only value lay in being a mother. I can't blame her, if she now refused to be defined by that label.

That said, she told me today that I was the best mother she knew, and "even though I was flailing in terror the entire time I was raising you, I must somehow have done something right, because I raised you!"

I love my mom!