Bouncy bounce, you've got to decide what sort of memories you want captured in your wedding photos. 20 years from now when you look at those photos, what do you want to see staring back at you? If you think you will regret seeing a less formal look, then make an attire decision now that will prevent that from happening. However, if you honestly don't care what your significant other looks like on the day of your wedding, whether it is 20 years or 100 years from now, then I think you should let him decide what to wear.
For my elopment, the following photo shows what we looked like. I need to note that the entire elopment was basically a big joke to me (
and not in a funny way). We couldn't get married back at "home" due to our old state's marriage licensing requirements, thus we were forced to elope in the area of the country that we were living in. My mother actually US Mailed to me the dress that I am wearing in the photo. Had it not been for my mother, I probably would have worn work attire (
a suit, either with a skirt or slacks). My husband wore a sports jacket & sweater (
his job was more lax and suits weren't the required attire). Now that some background is out of the way, here is our wedding photo:
For our 20th wedding anniversary vow renewal, I wanted it to feel like the "wedding" that we never had. So did my husband. He chose what to wear -- I had no idea what he would actually look like until we met for photos in the lobby of the Grand Floridian shortly before our ceremony began. I must admit that he looked very dapper and exactly like I had hoped he would look. Here's a photo of us shortly after we said,
"I do - again."
That photo captures perfectly how we felt on the night of our FTW vow renewal:
we were on cloud nine. And I will love looking at that photo 20 years from now. My husband looks absoultely adorable.
But that is me and this is you. Decide how you'll feel 20 years from now when you're looking at your original wedding photos -- and take the apporpriate course of action now. No matter what that course of action is, I hope you have a lovely wedding, followed by many years of happiness.