What is your definition of a "sweet person"

[delilah]

I was having lunch the other day with a salesperson, and they decribed a coworker of mine as a "sweet person". Now, this particular person, in my eyes, is not a "sweet person", not even really a warm or nice person, in most of my interactions. Clearly, this sales rep must see a totally different dimension to this person's personality that has completely eluded me. Or else, for this sales rep, describing a client as a "sweet person" must have the same emotional meaning as a burp or a hiccup.

In my opinion, based on my interactions with this person characterizations "devious", "manipulative", "ruthless", or "controlling" are better descriptions than "sweet". Can a person be "sweet" in one aspect, and these other things in another? What do you all think.

An example, one of many, concerns our coverage of holidays. There are seven physicians and six holidays. In order to understand this situation, you would need to know that some holidays and weekends are worse for call than others. Memorial day, Labor day, and New Years day are "cake" holidays. On these days, typically, I have no other specific plans, and I rarely do anything that would preclude going to the hospital for a few hours to see patients, and answering calls from patients. No worse, and probably easier, than the typical Sunday on call, where I am also juggling Church. July 4 is intermediate. I can go to fireworks and be on call. I've done it twice in the past 4 years. Christmas and Thanksgiving, on the other hand, are the worst.
Thanksgiving, in particular, I would want to go to a relative's house, and none of my relatives live withing three hours of my home--my cousin's live in Chicago and my brothers live in Ft. Myers. I have been on call 7 of the past 14 years on Thanksgiving.

Now, this year, based on counting the weeks and days on call, I should have been on call on Labor day--hurray! But this is when my manipulative coworker comes in. Her husband is also a doctor in our office. His normal call day is Thursday, and, you guessed it, he would have been on call Thanksgiving! But, the loving couple wanted the Friday after Thanksgiving off, so, of course, he couldn't work Thanksgiving. So, I was assigned Thanksgiving. I pointed this whole situation out to the guy who does the call schedule, and he told me I could trade with the doctor on call on Christmas!
NO! I think I should have cushy call once in a while. This woman or her spouse have been on call 5 of the last 6 new years days. I was on one, in 2000. I have been on Labor day once in 14 years, that was in 1998.

Thanks for letting me talk. It helps me to tolerate these people.

 

[Disney Ella]

Hogging all the easy holidays doesn't seem like something a "sweet" person would do. Obviously they don't care that the rest of you in the office have families you'd like to spend the holidays with occasionally. Aren't other people complaining to the person who does the scheduling too?

 

[GEM]

I've found that saying someone is "sweet" is about the same as saying someone is "nice". It's meaningless. I really, really hate those two adjectives.

 

[macraven]

i would say monkey boy is a sweet person

 

[crz4mm2]

Obviously, the person who called your co-worker "sweet" does not work with them.
I am on call 1/2 of my life. So I can relate to your call schedule totally. It is not fair at all!! I agree with your perception of memorial day, labor day and NYD as being 'cake' holidays (in fact I would volunteer to be on call those days if I could have the others off!!! LOL). It should be a rotation of call. Who does your call schedules? Is it one of the physicians in your group???? If so, maybe you could rotate the duty of call schedule or make up a holiday call schedule.
I have only been in two seperate practices in my career, but both had call schedules that were very fair (we alternate call holidays- actually the two of us share thanksgiving as both of us are from here and can make it to our relatives in less than an hour so we can both have 1/2 of the day and still enjoy thanksgiving with our families). All other holidays we alternate. The only fair way in my opinion. I would fight that schedule too!!

The co-worker must buy a lot from the salesperson

Cathy

 

[Saffron]

A sweet person would be someone like the 90 year old woman down the street who always smiles, loves to call me "Honey" and wave at me each time I walk past her house. She is a sweetie.

Ack. It sounds like you guys need some sort of rotating holiday on-call schedule. That's what we did in our office. There were only six of us, but we knew 6 years in advance which holidays we would be on call. If we wanted a certain holiday off, we had to switch holiday for holiday, but we had to find someone who was willing to switch, it wasn't dictated which holiday could be switched for another.

 

[Pop Daddy]

someone who is sexy

 

[ilovepcot]

someone who is sexy

Aw shucks! You gotta stop talking 'bout me to all these folks!

 

[Pop Daddy]

Aw shucks! You gotta stop talking 'bout me to all these folks!

its them pajamas of yours thats doing me in

 

[ilovepcot]

For sure!!!!

 

[Beanie]

My definition of a "sweet" person would definitely be Merriweather! Nancy is just the sweetest person I have ever had the pleasure of knowing! What a dear!

 

[Serena]

I have found that when someone likes you, they can be very sweet. If they don't, then they aren't.
I've had a lot of people like me, but are downright mean to others. I get it at work all the time.