What is your advice for a first date?

[Buzz Rules]

Thanks to everyone who has responded so far. Keep the advice coming.

 

[JLong06]

Do NOT pull out your phone for any reason whatsoever

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[Buzz Rules]

What about holding the door/pulling out the chair at the restaurant for the date? Is that to old fashioned/annoying now or is it still seen as polite?

 

[ronandannette]

What about holding the door/pulling out the chair at the restaurant for the date? Is that to old fashioned/annoying now or is it still seen as polite?

Of course you're going to hold the door! If it's possible, take a booth at the restaurant so you don't have to fumble with her chair.

 

[Buzz Rules]

Of course you're going to hold the door! If it's possible, take a booth at the restaurant so you don't have to fumble with her chair.

I usually do hold the door. I’m just curious how much the dating culture has change since COVID-19. Two of the last women I dated seemed to be pretty independent and were annoyed at typical gentlemen actions like holding the door for them. I was just curious if that was much more of a trend today or if ladies still appreciate those little polite actions. Thanks for the response.

 

[fly girl]

What about holding the door/pulling out the chair at the restaurant for the date? Is that to old fashioned/annoying now or is it still seen as polite?

I have always found that to be polite. She will let you know if she disagrees (sounds like some already have.)

And a biggie that won me over with my husband eons ago was when I needed to use the ladies room, he stood up as I excused myself. I never had a guy do that before. It's those little things that make you stand out.

 

[Buzz Rules]

I have always found that to be polite. She will let you know if she disagrees (sounds like some already have.)

And a biggie that won me over with my husband eons ago was when I needed to use the ladies room, he stood up as I excused myself. I never had a guy do that before. It's those little things that make you stand out.

I usually do that too. Thanks for the response.

 

[peabody58]

Ask if they like Disney World. If not, run... run away very fast!

 

[ronandannette]

I usually do hold the door. I’m just curious how much the dating culture has change since COVID-19. Two of the last women I dated seemed to be pretty independent and were annoyed at typical gentlemen actions like holding the door for them. I was just curious if that was much more of a trend today or if ladies still appreciate those little polite actions. Thanks for the response.

Honestly Buzz, being annoyed at someone behaving in a conventionally polite and courteous way isn't "independent", it's grinding some sort of axe. At that point, I hope you evaluate those people as to whether or not they're suitable relationship material for you. Best of luck. {{insert flower smilie here}}

 

[Buzz Rules]

Honestly Buzz, being annoyed at someone behaving in a conventionally polite and courteous way isn't "independent", it's grinding some sort of axe. At that point, I hope you evaluate those people as to whether or not they're suitable relationship material for you. Best of luck. {{insert flower smilie here}}

Yeah, I know. They were a one and done type of dates anyway. That was back in college. The majority of people I meet now are down to earth and happy so I have high hopes. {{insert smile emoji}}

 

[Disneylover99]

Don’t swear. Nobody likes a potty mouth.
Well, unless she has a potty mouth herself. Lol.

 

[JLTraveling]

Here's the thing. Everyone is different, and your goal should be to find someone who's compatible with YOU. If you enjoy doing things like holding the door or pulling out her chair, then the right woman for you enjoys it when you do those things. If you don't enjoy them, then you shouldn't do them, and you need a woman who doesn't want/expect them.

Or the soccer thing. If she shares your passion for soccer, terrific! Huge area of compatibility. But she doesn't have to share your passion, she just needs to have a passion of her own that will keep her busy while you're involved with soccer. If she's the type of woman who expects you to be constantly by her side, doing what she wants, and she hates soccer, then she's not right for you.

All couples compromise, that's just part of being in a relationship. But a first date should be about getting to know each other and finding out if there's a basic compatibility. Be the best version of yourself, but be authentic to yourself. Don't do things that don't feel natural, or stop doing things that do feel natural, in some quest to impress. Otherwise, you're being misleading, and how will either of you know if you're compatible enough to go out again?

 

[disneychrista]

I usually do hold the door. I’m just curious how much the dating culture has change since COVID-19. Two of the last women I dated seemed to be pretty independent and were annoyed at typical gentlemen actions like holding the door for them. I was just curious if that was much more of a trend today or if ladies still appreciate those little polite actions. Thanks for the response.

During the hight of COVID I declined strangers holding the door but never a date. I am fairly independent and don’t “need” a man to hold the door, pull out my chair, etc. A few months ago I went out with a guy who opened the car door for me. I had never had someone do that before. Did I need him to? No. Was it a nice gesture? Yes. Honestly the date has only going so so until them. But that small thing made me look at him with different eyes and give him a second date.

 

[Alicefan]

Honestly Buzz, being annoyed at someone behaving in a conventionally polite and courteous way isn't "independent", it's grinding some sort of axe. At that point, I hope you evaluate those people as to whether or not they're suitable relationship material for you. Best of luck. {{insert flower smilie here}}

I was going to say the exact same thing. Anyone who would be annoyed at common courtesy and politeness wouldn't be the type of person I'd want to spend time with.

 

[Vatrahaki75]

Make sure you have your own transportation and money. If I knew then what I know now when on a bad restaurant date, I would've either cancelled my order or asked for it to be boxed so I can leave.