What is your advice for a first date?

[Buzz Rules]

What is your advice for a first date? Best things to do and not do?

 

[LovesTimone]

Be who you really are... Be yourself...

Listen... really listen to what they are saying...

Keep the conversation light, this is a date not a job interview..

 

[ronandannette]

Do an activity you both enjoy that doesn’t require intense conversation every minute. See a movie or a game, take a scenic hike or throw a frisbee in the park if you’re into it. Get to know each other gradually at first - your common interests and discussions on light, non-controversial current events or pop culture.

Now is NOT the time for a intimate candle-lit dinner or a visit to your parents. And don’t get drunk.

 

[Chaoster]

I think it depends if you are meeting for the first time. I would say do something light and casual. Get a coffee (or hot chocolate) and go for a walk. I would say definitely don't eat anything messy.
like wings or ribs, corn on the cob. The one thing I would say is do not keep looking at you phone.

 

[Princesca]

Listen, ask questions to show that you're interested, stay off your phone, don't talk about your exes or past relationships unless asked.

 

[lowlight]

I’m of the belief that if it is meant to be, there’s nothing you can do to ruin it, and if it’s not meant to be, there is nothing you can do to make it work more than temporarily. Be yourself and have fun and the chips will fall where they may.

 

[sam_gordon]

Find out if they like soccer.

 

[RamblingMad]

Watch the movie Hitch.

 

[ronandannette]

Find out if they like soccer.

Thanks for this. You win the DIS today!

 

[RamblingMad]

Thanks for this. You win the DIS today!

I'm partial to La Liga.

 

[Micca]

I’m of the belief that if it is meant to be, there’s nothing you can do to ruin it, and if it’s not meant to be,

As the prophet Doris Day sang...

 

[dclpluto]

Anyone remember the movie there’s something about Mary?

 

[MillauFr]

I would avoid Mission Space Orange

 

[xipotec]

This ….Honesty

 

[spiders]

Have a sleep number bed? Ask them if they want to find out what their sleep number is.

 

[Buzz Rules]

Find out if they like soccer.

Asking the real questions here. LOL. TBH, I would give up my passion of soccer for love if that was the only thing stopping a meaningful relationship from developing. Then again, my passion for soccer is a part of who I am so it would mean losing a part of me. Maybe the better question is would she tolerate my passion for soccer? Thanks for the response though. It did actually make me think.

 

[Buzz Rules]

I'm partial to La Liga.

If you are a Real Madrid or Barcelona fan it must be a good year compared to some of the last couple of years of not playing well. Good luck to whatever team you root for.

 

[Kathryn Merteuil]

What is a date, really, but a job interview that lasts all night? The only difference is there aren't many job interviews where there's a chance you'll end up naked at the end of it. "Well, Bill, the boss thinks you're the right man for the job; why don't you strip down and meet some of the people you'll be working with?"


Jerry Seinfeld

 

[Alicefan]

Number one thing to remember is that you will be meeting her/his "spokesperson" lol and vice versa. All of the real stuff comes out later. Do NOT pull out your phone for any reason whatsoever. The biggest thing that I really pay attention to, is if the other person seems genuinely interested in ME or if they are sitting there just talking nonstop about themselves. That shows you a whole lot about the person you're with. Ask a bunch of questions about them and let them talk. You're allowed to talk about yourself when asked or after they answer your question you can give your answer too but, never ever sit there just selling yourself.

I went on a date with a very nice cop once, who seemed extremely happy to sit there telling me everything I would every need to know about him, but he did not seem the least bit interested in anything I had to say. Maybe he had ran a background check on me and already knew? lol

Oh and if you are the one that asked for the date, please pay. There is nothing more uncomfortable than sitting there at the end of dinner wondering if you're going to have to pull out your purse. People don't think very highly of someone that asks them out and then wants to split the bill. That's what friends do, not dates. Even if they offer to pay, refuse and insist on paying and don't say, "you can get the next one". Good luck!!!!

 

[Buzz Rules]

Number one thing to remember is that you will be meeting her/his "spokesperson" lol and vice versa. All of the real stuff comes out later. Do NOT pull out your phone for any reason whatsoever. The biggest thing that I really pay attention to, is if the other person seems genuinely interested in ME or if they are sitting there just talking nonstop about themselves. That shows you a whole lot about the person you're with. Ask a bunch of questions about them and let them talk. You're allowed to talk about yourself when asked or after they answer your question you can give your answer too but, never ever sit there just selling yourself.

I went on a date with a very nice cop once, who seemed extremely happy to sit there telling me everything I would every need to know about him, but he did not seem the least bit interested in anything I had to say. Maybe he had ran a background check on me and already knew? lol

Oh and if you are the one that asked for the date, please pay. There is nothing more uncomfortable than sitting there at the end of dinner wondering if you're going to have to pull out your purse. People don't think very highly of someone that asks them out and then wants to split the bill. That's what friends do, not dates. Even if they offer to pay, refuse and insist on paying and don't say, "you can get the next one". Good luck!!!!

Thanks for the great response.