What is your 16-17 year old's curfew?

[RN01]

Just wondering what your kids curfew's are... if they are male or female and do you wait up till they get home?

 

[Darcy03231]

For all my kids (male or female):

9:30 pm on a school night (unless working until 10:00 pm - then right after work)

12:30 pm on weekends or non-school nights

I wait up until they get home. If there's something special going on I'll extend the time on a non-school night.

 

[smartkim]

DS's curfew is 10:00 p.m. during school and 11:00 on weekends depending on where he is going and who is going with. During the summer, he is home by 10:00 but can stay up a little later. I ALWAYS wait up. Too much of a worry wart

 

[disykat]

We don't really have a set curfew. In general, I expect my 15 yr old to be ready for pick up by 10:30 and my 17 yr old home by 12 (both boys.) Sometimes I get a phone call to extend it a bit and decide at that time if it's reasonable. During the school year they're rarely out late during the week so school nights aren't an issue. My 15 yr old is still being transported by me and forgets to call so the deal is if I don't hear from him he knows I'm showing up to pick him up at 10:30.

Preplanned events that go later are figured out on a case by case basis. I'm much more lax if it's an occasional thing, tighter if they're going out a lot.

I always thought I'd do the curfew alarm clock thing where they have to come in and turn off the alarm when they get home so you get awakened if they don't make it. I really haven't had the need.

 

[RN01]

I always thought I'd do the curfew alarm clock thing where they have to come in and turn off the alarm when they get home so you get awakened if they don't make it. I really haven't had the need.

Explain the curfew alarm clock thing to me. I'm assuming I set my alarm for say 11:05 if their curfew is 11. When she gets home she has to turn it off. The only thing is I have to have my alarm set for work in the morning. I'll have to look to see if there's a way to set 2 alarms. I just can't stay up that late with having to get up early the next day. That's why I was asking if everyone waits up. I was having her come down and shut my door so if I wake up and see my door shut I know she made it home. It's still scary though.

 

[Camping Griswalds]

Until my son was off his official liscence restrictions, his curfew was midnight. That was the law. He has now been driving long enough that he does not have any of those restrictions. He is 17. During the school year it is 10:00 pm in bed...not home if that makes sense. On weekends it was midnight. This summer he is being allowed to stretch his wings a bit and has to be home in bed by 1:00am. I do wait up. Even if I go to bed and fall asleep, it is restless until he gets home.

 

[lucyem]

When I was a junior & senior in high school my curfew was 11-12 depending on the night. My mom was very flexible as long as we made arrangements with her ahead of time. My boyfriend's curfew was 20 minutes after mine

 

[Wish Upon A Star]

Well, in CT, with the new driving laws, as of 2008, DS (who turned 17 today) cannot be on the road past 11pm until his 18th birthday . . .So, luckily for me (and my sanity) he does obey the law.

On the other hand, my daughter, when she was 17, (she's now almost 21) there were no State curfew rules, so on weekdays she had to be home at 11pm and on weekends 12:30am.

When they are out, I don't go to bed until they are home. They also text me when they are on their way home, so I know when to expect them, which is an added bonus . . .

 

[Tinker'n'Fun]

No curfew for DD17 (out of H.S.) and DS15 (going into 10th. grade). As long as I know where they are and they have a safe ride home, I am okay with it. During school year, DS will have to be home by 11pm so that he will get enough sleep but he rarely goes out anyways, he always has a lot of homework.

 

[wilma-bride]

I have two DDs - one 16 and one 17. The 17 yo has a 9pm curfew during the week but she is only allowed out on 1 school night (her boyfriend comes round to the house twice a week during the week also). At the weekend, it depends on whether she's working the next day. If she's working and starts before 10am, she has to be in by midnight so she still gets a good night's sleep. If she is not working or starts later, she has to be in by 1. We did start off not giving her a curfew at weekends but she kicked the **** out of it the very first night and came in at 4.15

We don't wait up for her but, 9 out of 10 times, I do tend to wake around the time she's due in and then I'll get up and check if she is home.

My younger DD doesn't really have a social life as such - she is very studious and doesn't really enjoy many of the things her friends do (under age drinking, smoking etc.)

Both girls are still at school (here in the UK kids can leave school at the age of 16) and have been doing exams over the last couple of months so we've been quite strict. In the summer holidays (starting end of July until beg of Sep) we will be more relaxed about any curfews.

 

[jakoky]

I have 3 teenagers...my son, who is turning 17 in 2 weeks, has a curfew of 12-12::30....my oldest dd does not have a curfew (she is 19) BUT she still has to give me a time frame of when she will be home, and text or call if she will be later ( no matter the age, she still lives at home and i worry)...my youngest dd is almost 15 and doesnt "go out" yet...she goes to movies or friends, but i think she is still to young to be just "going out", and soon i will have 3 out and about, so 3 times the worry....here in bc,canada, the kids dont have restrictions on what times they can drive, BUT they are allowed only 1 passenger, unless family...

I can sleep when my kids are out BUT i set my alarm for 5 minutes after their curfew....if my alarm goes off, it means they arent home, cause i always hear them...and then i text them to make sure they are on their way...

...... for everyone who complains about losing sleep when their kids are little...havent a had a teenager yet!!!

 

[wdwmom0f3]

I guess I am a little to hard with my DD(17) then. On the weekends she has to be home by 10:30. During the week when school is in, by 8:00. Now she does not work or anything, and we live in a small town where there is nothing to do. If she did have plans, we would work that out with her and be a little more understanding.

Just a little note, I had to be in the house by 11:30, the night before I got married!! I was 20 years old and I still had to follow my parents rules.

 

[MSSANDRA]

My parents never had a set curfew when my sister and I were growing up. They would set the time to be home depending on where we were going, who we where with and what our plans were. That is what we do with DS and it has worked out fine. He is the type of kid to never push it. I know where he is and what time he plans to be home and he lets me know if that changes. I might lay down before he is in but never go to sleep. He knows to wake me up when he gets in but I do not think I have ever gone to sleep. Most of the time I just stay up.

He has not had a bed time in YEARS. He knows how much sleep he needs and works things out to get it.

 

[disykat]

Explain the curfew alarm clock thing to me. I'm assuming I set my alarm for say 11:05 if their curfew is 11. When she gets home she has to turn it off. The only thing is I have to have my alarm set for work in the morning. I'll have to look to see if there's a way to set 2 alarms. I just can't stay up that late with having to get up early the next day. That's why I was asking if everyone waits up. I was having her come down and shut my door so if I wake up and see my door shut I know she made it home. It's still scary though.

You've got the idea. You do have to have an extra alarm clock for this purpose if you're hoping to sleep through the whole thing though. I think the door shut thing sounds similar IF you wake up to check. However, I want to go to sleep knowing I'll be sure to wake up (to worry!) if they don't come home. The alarm clock would assure this. It is also a very strict curfew enforcer because the kids know it will wake their parents up and notify them that they are late.

 

[DCbride]

In high school it was 10 weekdays, unless at a school event. And 11:30 on weekends. (In NJ we have a law all 17 yo have to be home by midnight so most kids were on their way home anyway) Now that they are older, I still expect them to be home by 12:30 unless it is a special circumstance that I know about ahead of time. It is just not safe for kids to be out driving that late if you ask me. I almost always stayed up when they were new drivers that first year. Now they text when they are home in their rooms.

 

[krcit]

I have a 15 yo dd who doesn't go out too much but I decide on a curfew depending on the activity. I do wait up. Knowing I had to go home to a wide-awake mom or dad kept me on the straight and narrow quite a few nights in my youth

 

[JaneBanks]

My brothers and I didn't have curfews. We just had to keep in touch and give my mom a round about time. When we got home, we had to wake her up to let her know (if she was sleeping).