what is it with bridezillas?

[tinkerbela]

lately, i've been dealing with a bridezilla, my soon to be sister-in-law. she's trying to tell me what i "should" have for my wedding. she's not getting my views and ideas. i'm still going with my things but i don't know why she keeps telling me i "should" have this or i "should" do that. like for example, i have a place in mind to do my alterations because the prices are reasonable and i'll get $20 off the alterations which will also include for everyone else's alterations. she wants to go somewhere else that's closer and convenient for her. her daughters are my flower girls. i'm still going to where i want to go.

it's just so annoying though that all of a sudden, i have to deal with this. is anyone else going through this?

 

[colormouse]

You are not alone. My future in-laws have had their opinions on everything including what I (the bride) should wear. I just do what I want b/c it's my wedding not theirs and the last time I checked it's my name on the checks. I stopped being polite and I do not ask what they think anymore. My sister in law to be is the same with the alterations, finally I told her to go where she wants but I expect to see the dress (alterations done) before we go for our alterations just in case her place doesn't get them done or done right. She also wants to go to her own place(a local hair cuttery) to get her hair done, again, fine, but I am having people come to us to do the rest of the bridal parties, hair, make-up and nails, so if she ends up looking like crap, I will have someone to fix her up. Try not to let these things ruin your wedding. Be firm (that's not being rude) It is YOUR wedding, no one elses. Hope things get better for you.

Candace

 

[Papillon]

That's right, it's your wedding, do what you want. I'm being really picky about my VR precisely because my wedding was absolutely not what I wanted it to be - I was young and stupid. Anyway, stick to your guns as tactfully as you can. This is such an important day, don't settle if you don't want to. Hang in there!

 

[LUVTGR]

I'm having the same problem w/ my future inlaws. Only it's not about dresses or hair, they want us to change the wedding date to a Saturday so it's more convient for them. I've already paid for the 4 of them to come and now they aren't sure they're coming b/c their daughter is nervous about missing school. Which they knew six months ago when I paid the deposits. His mother refused to come saying if we wanted her to come we would get married at home. I thought this was going to be so nice and special, I don't understand why they are being so mean. I hope it gets better for everyone. I'm going to have a happy beautiful wedding no matter what they do, say, or think.

 

[tinkerbela]

thanks guys for your help. i just needed to vent a little. it was driving me crazy how with less than 2 months away, my future sister-in-law is trying to tell me what to do. i also love it when she gives me an attitude about us having our wedding in disney. it sounds sarcastic when she says, "it would've been better to have it here in jersey where your family and friends can go instead (an emphasis on instead) of disney. but it's your wedding." yes!! it is my wedding. i just wish she would remember that. again, thanks guys. i just needed to vent a little.