What is an appropriate funeral arrangement from a boy?

[mom2boys]

DH's aunt passed away. She was also my 12 yr old son's Godmother. We will order an arrangement from the family but I also want to order a smaller one just from my son. What would be appropriate?

 

[clh2]

I have 2 ideas for you. If DH's aunt had a particular favorite flower, maybe a small vase of that particluar flower? It wouldn't need to be up by the casket, it could be on one of the tables, or on the stand where people sign the book. The other idea is to call the funeral director, to see if they know which florist the family is using, call that florist and ask their hlep in getting something to coordinate with what the family is doing.

 

[mom2boys]

I like the smaller vase idea. All I could come up with was a dozen roses but didn't even know what color to order. If I go with roses, it will be only a few. Any other ideas?

 

[DVC Sadie]

We have always used red roses or red flowers to or from boys or males. Sorry for your loss.

 

[Mickey Fliers]

Sorry for you loss as well. At the last service I attended, there was a small rosary made out of roses (white for girl, red for boy) inside the lid of the casket from the godchild. It was very sweet.

 

[Pam]

Have you ever seen the Sheaves of Wheat? They are very nice. You can ask your florist about them.

 

[goofy4tink]

When my mom passed away, my dd, then not quite 10, wanted to have a rose put in the casket with her Meme. Same thing when my dfil passed...all the grandkids had a single rose in the casket with their Grampa. That might be appropriate.

 

[golfgal]

I am also sorry for your loss. When my Grandpa died, we had an arrangement of Yellow Roses (his favorite) that had one rose for each Great-Grandchild. I know flowers are nice and traditional for a funeral but you might want to consider a donation to a charity instead. Every funeral I have attended lately the families have said the same thing, "now what do we do with all these flowers" once the funeral was over.

 

[Nancy]

I like to order an arrangement that can be taken home, more of a planter instead of flowers.

For my DH's Grandmother we did vases with long stem roses. I still have the vase and right now it is holding my St.Patty's day green carnations.

 

[Dan Murphy]

No ideas, but passing along my condolences to all of you.

 

[Disney Doll]

When my DMIL died, her doctor sent a vase of all-white flowers...lillies, roses, daisies etc. It was a lovely arrangement, in a beautiful clear cut-glass vase. It was nice to have it in a vase instead of one of those big funeral sprays with gladiolas and such. My DSIL took it home and it stayed nice for quite a while.

I also like the idea of the rosary made out of flowers since she was your DS's godmother.

 

[BernardandMissBianca]

So sorry for your loss.

When my grandfather passed away I had wreath made of greens from the boys, all leaves from various plants. My grandmother loved it and it was the one most people commented on because it was so unusual.

 

[minkydog]

When my dad died we allowed to children to decide what they wanted to leave with him. One small grandchild decided to give his favorite milk mug. Another one saved his brownie from lunch and pressed it into Grandpa's hand. My niece wrote a poem and read it at the funeral. My oldest nephew played "Taps" while the Air Force detail fired a 21-gun salute. One of my own children had a small statue of Jesus and laid it in the coffin with him. All these things touched me more than I can say. I don't even remember what the flowers looked like, but I remember these small tokens from the children.

I wish the best and i'm sorry for your loss.

 

[imsorry]

What about a plant that the family can take home. When my Dad died my brother in law had a beautiful dish garden sent to the funeral. It had a card that it was to be taken home by the family. I still have it five years later.

Sorry for your loss

 

[Mishetta]

I'm not sure if this is just an Italian tradition or what but when my Mom passed away, we ordered a small satin heart shaped pillow & it had a tiny banner on it which said "Dearest Meme" & the florist also put a couple of baby roses on the front of it (tied with satin ribbon). It goes in the casket, near the deceased head & it stays there. My oldest wanted to write a note to his Meme so he wrote something & folded it & I slipped it also under the satin tie (still don't know what it said.)

We did the same when my FIL passed away. We ordered a pillow for the casket & the florist had never heard of it but they managed to do it & we have photo's of it that my DH took (he went alone) & they did a beautiful job too.

I really like the rosary idea too!

Sorry for your loss.

 

[alisonbestford]

I go with Minkydog and suggest you ask your DS what he would like to give to his Godmother.

At 12 I would imagine he is old enough for you to discuss this and feel that it would, maybe, be a special memory for him

 

[mom2boys]

Thank you all for you sympathies and your ideas. You guys are great. So many great suggestions. He liked the vase idea so I ordered that. The florist we choose is really creative. He has some other arrangements he's doing for Aunt Ellen & will keep with the theme.
I am dreading the viewing and the service - not that anyone ever looks forward to these things. DH comes from a highly disfunctional family. I wil shocked if one of his sisters doesn't cause a scene. I pray they don't.