What have the dining boards become?

[calgarygary]

Recently, many of the threads of the dining boards have taken a very nasty turn. I among others have participated but have tried to avoid name calling. Today I saw a new low and thought I would ask the rest of you if you think it is appropriate. A member, I will not identify who, was mocking a child of ten in a thread. Certainly the child's behaviour was worth commenting on. However the member posted a grainy photo of the poor behaviour and then posted a clear photo of the boy so all could see who the culprit is.

I'm I the only one who think this is terribly wrong?

Please, let's comment without throwing slings. The question, is it acceptable to post clear, identifiable pictures of stranger's children on the internet behaving poorly?

 

[Martha7]

I didn't see the thread you're referring to, but that does seem a bit uncalled for...

 

[UnderTheMistletoe]

I think the poster needs to be asked if they'd like a photo of them pulled over by a cop, drunk, toilet paper hanging off the bback of their shoe, or an otherwise embarassing moment of them posted online. It still begs the question if we should have any right to post a photo of someone online without their consent- whether embarassing or not.

I hope that the person does realize the situation that it could put the other family in and removes it promptly. I posted on the restaurant board that we had the worst meal of our lives at Le Cellier and got picked to pieces for it. Oh well. We're all entitled to our opinions, right? My opinion is that I don't like it for reasons a, b, and c; your opinion is that you do like for reasons a, b, and c. Doesn't mean I'm trying to get into a fight with you- simply telling my story, my experiences. I think people forget that we're all entitled to our opinions and beliefs.

These are online forums though and a huge amount of communication is non-verbal. It's easy to get caught up in the snarky remarks and side comments, even when they're not intended to hurt someone. I stopped posting on the Weddings board all together becuase of a single person that continually perceieved something I said as disparagining and belittling her. It was never my intention, but when you take a full-on frontal attack to rally people behind you, it's time to leave. No sense is letting an anonymous someone anger or upset you. As a general community though, I think mott of us find it a wonderful place to spend time and is the reason we keep coming back. We're all likely to have off days and hopefully this is just an off day for that person. Perhaps the mods can do something about the photo if it's that far out of line?

 

[calgarygary]

I do want it known that I reported the post as soon as I saw it and the moderators have acted quickly and removed it. I am not going to mention who or what thread is the source of the post because I am hoping that the discussion here will remain about the appropriateness of such an action. We have all done something in our lives (or at least I think it is all of us) that we regret - imagine if there was a daily reminder of it on the internet.

 

[seven dwarfs]

I know there may be a time or two my kids were out of hand at dinner. But that gives no one the right to take a picture and plaster it. My son has sensory disorder and sometimes with no warning can have a melt down. We try to remove him from the situation but never know when this melt down can happen. When did people become so hard hearted. You never know what the true situation is with someone. What really is going on. What their life may be at home. Have some heart. If I see someone having a tough day, I do not stare or make nasty coments. I feel sorry and want to help. I believe people should state the fact of opoion and leave it at that. It is ok to disagree. No name calling needed. With all the said, I am sure these things will not change.

 

[DisneyMommyMichelle]

i can't believe someone did that!

 

[denimore]

I know there may be a time or two my kids were out of hand at dinner. But that gives no one the right to take a picture and plaster it. My son has sensory disorder and sometimes with no warning can have a melt down. We try to remove him from the situation but never know when this melt down can happen. When did people become so hard hearted. You never know what the true situation is with someone. What really is going on. What their life may be at home. Have some heart. If I see someone having a tough day, I do not stare or make nasty coments. I feel sorry and want to help. I believe people should state the fact of opoion and leave it at that. It is ok to disagree. No name calling needed. With all the said, I am sure these things will not change.

I've been trying to make this point..but you said it best and from the heart.

Thank you!

 

[Missy1961]

I do want it known that I reported the post as soon as I saw it and the moderators have acted quickly and removed it. I am not going to mention who or what thread is the source of the post because I am hoping that the discussion here will remain about the appropriateness of such an action. We have all done something in our lives (or at least I think it is all of us) that we regret - imagine if there was a daily reminder of it on the internet.

I think you are totally correct. That poster was wrong. I'm glad you reported it immediately, that was the right thing to do. And I think you're right to not point fingers. I simply cannot believe that someone would do that to a stranger, much less a child. I hope that poster is put on notice, or better yet, banned.

 

[calgarygary]

I'm not sure that banning is the correct action - maybe it is. What it does tell me is somehow people are taking The Happiest Place on Earth way to seriously at times and have to step back and think about their actions. I would hope that the person who posted did it rashly without realizing the potential consequences.

 

[Grumpy's Wife]

What were they thinking?

 

[Luv'sTink]

It was completly wrong to do that. That board has basically turned into a child bashing board, IMO, it seems like everytime someone says they had a bad expierence then everyone starts in with it is the childrens fault.

 

[bicker]

It is never the (young) child's fault. Even things that could legitimately be "blamed" on young children are their parents' "fault" since parents are supposed to monitor and control the on-going actions their young children. Blaming the children is just plain wrong.

 

[calgarygary]

I'm not trying to question who is to blame for behaviour - children or parents. I'm questioning whether there is anyone who thought it appropriate to post a picture of a child doing inappropriate behaviour on the web. The early indications show 0 support for such a poor decision. Another sad part to all of this, the offending poster claims to be a teacher. I sure do hope that she doesn't use public humiliation as one of her teaching skills.

 

[CheshireVal]

There's always a debate trend on the Dis. It moves from board to board to board. Last week it was cliques on the CB. This week it's kids and dining. Next week it will probably move somewhere else.

 

[mickeyfan2]

No it is wrong.

ETA: I would have never thought to photograph the family in the first place!!!

All

 

[Maleficent13]

*The boards tremble as there is a stampede to the dining board*

No, it wasn't right, and yes, I have noticed the dining boards have become very contentious lately (not just this week). I don't get it...

 

[calgarygary]

ChesireVal, I do understand how the debates move from topic to topic but do we go to any length in trying to "win" the debate?

 

[Maleficent13]

ChesireVal, I do understand how the debates move from topic to topic but do we go to any length in trying to "win" the debate?

You don't hang out on the CB much, do you?

Yes, some people will beat the dead horse forever.

 

[grinningghost]

The Restaurant Boards are almost as vicious as the Resort Boards sometimes.

Ever since my controversial Victoria & Albert's thread - I try really, really hard to steer clear of the meanies over there.

 

[Maleficent13]

Not to go too far OT, but this has made me think. I can understand the debates about pool-hopping, mugs, too many in a room, smoking, etc, because these are things about which there are rules and debates arise when one discusses breaking them.

BUT...I have NEVER understood the debates that come about because someone didn't like a restaurant. How can you debate with someone about whether or not he/she liked their food? It has always baffled me.