What have I done?!?!?!?!?

[RNMOM]

DS#1 had a friend over last night who was helping him with an errand. I was icing sugar cookies, had been alllll day and it was now about 8pm. He is also a senior and lives here with his dad. His mom lives 5 hours away in Cincinnatti. This kid is a really great kid and has multiple step sibling whom he is nice to. Can't complain about him at all.

Well, he commented on how much he missed his mom's cookie baking...gave him a big plate of cookies to take home.

Then I asked him if he was going to see his mom for xmas. His dad dates someone and is never home. He didn't know yet then the discussion came about to our trip. We leave 12/20 for POFQ and YC. He commented on how much he loves to go to Orlando. Seems his mom OWNS 3 rental homes in Orlando. Well, DS offers to take him along! I said, "Sure, come along." without thinking. Well, you guessed it. Now we have 2 connecting rooms for the first 3 nights at POFQ and can deal with that but one room at the YC, my dream, won't work. I talked to DH and we could try to keep the rooms at POFQ. I guess that would be okay.....

When he got home DS called him again and now they are going to talk to his mom about the availability of the homes. Seems she always keeps them for family during that week. Augh. I don't want to stay off property!!!

The really awful thing is, if we get this 3 bedroom home with a pool, we would probably only have to pay for the cleaning fee and the pool heating fee. Man, if this falls into place, how can I turn that down?

Positives are: He will help drive. He is good to DS#2. He is polite and funny.

Negatives are: Sharing family time with non family. Changing my plans I have had since summer. I have never done the parks from off property. What a pain.

We left it with him going to speak with his parents and having them call me. I told him I need to make decisions by Friday as we leave in 10 days.

 

[piratesmate]

What a sweet thing to do! I understand about feeling torn. Your list of negatives would be the same as mine...and I don't shift gears too easily either.

I hope everything works out for you.

Deb

PS I'm so jealous...10 days!

 

[TigH]

You are doing the right thing! Don't sweat it! I WISH I could invite a dear friend to our house for Christmas. This person was alone on Thanksgiving and will be alone for Christmas too. My brother and his wife, along with my parents and my sister, will be with us for Christmas. I would love to have my friend over for the day as well, but things with my mom are iffy (she is not an easy person to be around) and my brother, although I love him dearly, is not the most welcoming person in the world. My heart breaks knowing that my friend will be w/o family on Christmas. Just think of how much it will mean to your son's friend to spend time with you guys! I had a wonderful friend when I was 10-14 and I TOTALLY loved to hang out with her family. She and her brother fought all the time, but I always fought with my sister, so it was no big deal. It was the relationship that they shared with their parents that made spending time with them so wonderful. I always felt like an extended part of the family. This will be an awesome opportunity for you to give that type of feeling to this young man!

Have a wonderful trip! xo

 

[JulesMom]

I think the (+)'s far outweigh the (-)'s. You don't know how much HE may need this trip!

I hope everything works out fine.

With the $ you save, if you stay in the house...you can go to WDW again!

 

[Robinrs]

RNmom:

I do know this ordeal. I have sacrificed vacation for my son's friends and you know what?? In the long run it's worth it!

This young man sounds like he needs a mother figure. What a blessing that he talks to you.

I've stayed in vacation homes three times in the past year. They are awesome. Ask for the locations. West of Disney subdivisions are IMHO, better and closer to the parks. Some of these homes are a matter of 5 to ten mins away while some can be 20 mins or more. If you need some extra info, PM me.

Sure, it's not your ideal but you'll love the space. These homes are rarely available during Christmas because they are usually held for the owner's families, how nice to be in that elite circle!

Let us know what you decide, and remember, you can always save all that money and go back to POFQ and YC!

God bless--

Robinrs

 

[2disneywego]

I think taking him is a wonderful thing to do. Certainly in the true spirit of the season.

 

[Boots]

I too think you have done a wonderful thing! And as mentioned earlier maybe you will save enough money to do another trip just with your family in the near future! {{{{HUGS}}}}

 

[RNMOM]

Well, you all are so positive about this. I am still waiting to hear anything. I have to leave for work in a few minutes and may not get this resolved tonight.

I think I will take the fatalist tact...what is meant to be will be. It usually is the best course for me.

I would love to take Ryan with us. I think he would keep us on a more even keel and probably diffuse some of that family tension. i just feel like a spoiled child who finally got to get what I want (YC) and now may loose it.

I will let you know what comes about. Thanks for the positive spin.

 

[Robinrs]

LOL, I just noticed your tag, RNMOM... you definitely earned it!

 

[Disney Doll]

Kids can't have too many people who love them.

You are doing a wonderful thing for this young man if it all pans out. You may never realize the effect your kindness will have on him.