What does RSVP mean to you?

[RadioFanatic]

couldn't you say on the invite - RSVP by ____. If I do not hear from you by then I will assume your child is not coming and there will not be a grab bag for them.

 

[horseshowmom]

Oh, one more thing...One of my dds little friends showed up at her party and I acted (overly) surprised to the mom. I said "Oh! I'm surprised to see you! I didn't get your R.S.V.P. so I assumed you weren't coming." She must have apologized 5 times through out the day. Kind of rude, but, hey so is showing up without responding!

Personally, I don't think you were rude at all - just honest.

 

[horseshowmom]

couldn't you say on the invite - RSVP by ____. If I do not hear from you by then I will assume your child is not coming and there will not be a grab bag for them.

You know, sadly, that might work, because it would play on their greed for their child (whose feelings are certainly more important than the child sending the invitation - insert heavy sarcasm here).

 

[beattyfamily]

I feel your pain, OP! It's so frustrating, rude and just lazy not to RSVP to a party when asked to!

My DD just had her 11th birthday party (sleep over and the drive in movies) last Friday night. She invited 6 girls, only 2 actually called and RSVP'd, the rest never did. They said "maybe" or "yes" or "no" at school to my DD but never called me to let me know either way.

It ended up that they all came except one girl.

Totally inconsiderate.

I do like some of the ideas on this thread though and I'm going to make a note of it.

 

[RadioFanatic]

You know, sadly, that might work, because it would play on their greed for their child (whose feelings are certainly more important than the child sending the invitation - insert heavy sarcasm here).

that's exactly what I was thinking!

 

[CJBaby]

couldn't you say on the invite - RSVP by ____. If I do not hear from you by then I will assume your child is not coming and there will not be a grab bag for them.

I know where you're coming from, but this is slightly too negative to be on an invite. Especially for those that always RSVP. Just keep calling the rude *you-know-whats* until you get a response like I do.

It's also important to keep in mind what another poster said: it's not the child's fault that their parent is clueless and rude (or scatterbrained and unorganized, like a lot of people I know.)

Here's some advice to those who forget to RSVP, or RSVP late. Just call as soon as you have finished reading the invite and checking your calendar. It's never too soon, and you know you're going to forget to do it later!!!

 

[Kath2003]

Another thing to do is like, give tick boxes for food. Serve party food with a hot snack and stick a slip on the bottom of the invite:

"Dear X, I will/will not be attending your party and would like to eat fish sticks/fries/fois gras Love Y"



You know what parents are like about getting kids food they'll eat!