What do your dil/sil's call you?

[Funfire240]

I just use first names as well. I don't think I'd ever be comfortable. I think part of it is that I'm best friends with my mom and can't imagine giving anyone else that honor.

I also don't think my inlaws would want it - they are very particular about family - DH's nieces don't even call me "aunt" because I'm "just through marriage."

Now my BIL calls my parents mom & dad - he's gone through some hard family times where his parents recently divorced and niether one has much contact with them anymore and he's become really close with my parents but it's taken him almost 15 years before he started this.

 

[happygirl]

I call them by there names. it would never ever cross my mind to call them mom and dad

 

[apirateslifeforme]

I call my in-laws either Mom and Dad or Granna and Grandpa. It actually feels more awkward to me to call them by their first names, but that's what DH's brother's wife does. They never told me what to call them, but one time MIL asked me a question, something along the lines of "Is that yours or Dad's?" I don't have a father of my own, so there's only one "Dad" in my life.

We all have a variety of names for each other in this family anyway. DH and his brother and sister will call their own parents Granna and Grandpa, even when the children aren't around. DH's sister is always "Auntie Deb"...I myself have even called DH "Uncle Jay" when we're the only ones around!

 

[pixiewings71]

My SIL calls me "Mom", my DD (his wife) calls his Mom "Mom" lol

 

[Mandychelle79]

I call my inlaws their names or grandma and granddad. My hubby does the same to my parents.

SIL/BIL I call by their names unless talking to my kids then I say aunt or uncle whatever.

My niece and nephews call me either by my first name or aunt mandy

 

[ccgirl]

We just had two engagements. I was never given a proper name to call my mil and don't want to do that. I just don't know what is good. I always thought we would go with mom and dad. But my future sil recently lost his mom. I don't want to upset him by suggesting this. Any ideas?

I call my in laws by their first names because they are not my mom and dad. If your SiL just lost his mom, I don't think I would suggest it. I would let him ask or take his lead.

 

[cepmom]

the subject never came up when DH and I got married, I just started using their first names. DH calls my parents by their first names as well, but my BIL's (married to DH's sisters) call the inlaws Mr and Mrs LastName. That is weird to me, I just use their first name if I have to, or refer to them as nana and grandpa when the kids are involved.

 

[Chelley00]

Then my MIL, who used to be pretty uptight about things, wanted me to call her Mother-in-law. Isn't that warm and cozy. .

My ex-MIL insisted I call her Mrs. and her last name. That's when it's warm and cozy. (and part of the reason why she is my EX-MIL )

 

[It'sWDW4me]

I always called my ILs mom and dad. Heck, I STILL call them mom and dad and I've been divorced from their son for almost 13 years now!

But, as per the responses to your question, a lot of people feel uncomfortable with that. Just find out what your FSIL feels comfortable with and go with that.

 

[hops&dreams]

I also call mine by their first names.
as for my kid - she calls DH's parents just grandma and Grandpa. Step grandparents (his parents are divorced and both have been remarried for over 10 years) are called Grandpa Steve and Grandma Lily. So, Grandma and Grandpa steve are really close, and just get shortened to Grandma and Grandpa. DH's dad though, accidentally gets called Grandpa Joe, because that's how DD remembers it. Oh well...
My parents are called Lolo and Lola (which is Filipino, which my parents are). So that makes it easy. Come to think of it... DH never calls them anything to their names. I think for 9 years, he's just avoided it. What a sneaky guy...

 

[nikkistevej]

Well, I call my MIL and FIL by there first names, my dad passed away a few years ago, don't feel comfortable calling anyone else that, and my mom might get offended if I called someone else that too. LOL

 

[sm4987]

Gee I'm really in the minority. I call my mil Mrs. and her last name. She never offered for me to call her anything else and honestly I think she would be upset if I called her anything else.

 

[MariDisney]

Mostly I mutter things about them under my breath. But, when I'm forced to directly address them I call them Nana and Poppie. My DD came with me into this marriage, so there was never a period of time where I felt like I needed to use first names or Mom and Dad.

I have a friend who has been married about 30 years and still calls her MIL Mrs. ___

 

[sm4987]

Mostly I mutter things about them under my breath. But, when I'm forced to directly address them I call them Nana and Poppie. My DD came with me into this marriage, so there was never a period of time where I felt like I needed to use first names or Mom and Dad.

I have a friend who has been married about 30 years and still calls her MIL Mrs. ___

My husband and I have been together for 20 years and married for 18. I imagine that Mrs. thing will be going on for a long long time.

 

[NMAmy]

My husband and I have been together for 20 years and married for 18. I imagine that Mrs. thing will be going on for a long long time.

Wow, that seems like it would be really uncomfortable.

DD's fiance calls us by our first names. To the OP--what has your future SIL been calling you up till now?

I called my ex's parents/stepparents by their first names. Since I was 22 when we married, it would have seemed weird to me to call them Mom and Dad.

However, DH and I married when I was in my early 40's and my IL's were pushing 80. It seemed odd to call them by their first names (especially since DH and his dad have the same name.) As DH did, I called them Mam and Dad which never really bothered me. Maybe it was because I was older--it didn't feel disloyal or weird with them. They both passed away several years ago.

 

[punkin]

I only had one mother and I would never call anyone else that. I call my in-laws by their first names. This is not to say I am not fond of them, they just are not my parents. I also never called my stepfather by anything other than his first name and I loved him tremendously.

I am not sure if I would be comfortable if any future sons in law called me "Mom." It always grated on my nerves when my BIL called my mother that. My husband called her by her first name.

 

[JessicaR]

I call my MIL Mom and when my FIL was alive, Dad. My parents are alive and I call them Mom and Dad as well. When we were all together it could get confusing.

 

[Keli]

I call my inlaws by their first names and my dh does the same with my parents. Our son in law calls dh by his first name and fluctuates between calling me by my first name or Mama K, I am good with either.

 

[focusondisney]

I never knew my DH's mom, she passed when he was a child. Called his stepmother by her first name (as did DH). Called FIL Mr. xxxx before we got married. I would jokingly call him "sir" after the wedding. If I answered the phone, I'd say "Hi sir, how are you!?" He finally had enough of that & said "what's this sir stuff? I'm Dad." It was then Dad until he died. My DH knew my father first & had always called him by his first name, so he still does that. He calls my mother Mom.

We told our soon to be ex SIL he could call us by our first names or Mom & Dad, whatever he was comfortable with. He did call us Mom & Dad. (Don't know what he cals us now! ) DD called his parents Mom & Dad after the wedding too.

I really never felt it was disloyal to your own parents to call inlaws Mom & Dad. I'm surprized to read that so many do. I feel like once you're married, you become a complete part of the other family. I was fine with DD calling her inlaws Mom & Dad. I didn't feel it was disrespectful to her Dad & I in any way.

 

[punkin]

I never knew my DH's mom, she passed when he was a child. Called his stepmother by her first name (as did DH). Called FIL Mr. xxxx before we got married. I would jokingly call him "sir" after the wedding. If I answered the phone, I'd say "Hi sir, how are you!?" He finally had enough of that & said "what's this sir stuff? I'm Dad." It was then Dad until he died. My DH knew my father first & had always called him by his first name, so he still does that. He calls my mother Mom.

We told our soon to be ex SIL he could call us by our first names or Mom & Dad, whatever he was comfortable with. He did call us Mom & Dad. (Don't know what he cals us now! ) DD called his parents Mom & Dad after the wedding too.

I really never felt it was disloyal to your own parents to call inlaws Mom & Dad. I'm surprized to read that so many do. I feel like once you're married, you become a complete part of the other family. I was fine with DD calling her inlaws Mom & Dad. I didn't feel it was disrespectful to her Dad & I in any way.

I don't think it's disloyal or disrespectful, but I just can't do it. It is just weird to call anyone that other than my mother.