What causes arguments in your house?

[1GoldenSun]

Usually just really stupid stuff. I guess I should count myself lucky that my family doesn't have any major disagreements, but we sure are good at finding creative ways to fight about nothing at all.

 

[Kathryn Merteuil]

My DH and I do not argue (really).

I know one thing that COULD cause an argument, my step-daughter's boyfriend. I am just keeping my mouth shut, it is just not worth making an issue of. I have been on vacation all week... the past few days she has been here since Wednesday because she is on break from college. He has been here all day, every day. It is just irritating me. If he wants to spend time with her, that's fine but when I end up folding his underwear I get upset. Yes, he lives like less than a mile from here, but he is bringing his laundry here and doing his laundry? I found what was probably a week's worth of his laundry in my dryer this morning. I had to empty the dryer and fold HIS crap before I could use my own dryer. He also feels that it is necessary to take showers here.

Biting my tongue, just sipping more chardonnay in the basement so that I don't have to look at him upstairs sitting on the couch, eating our food watching our tv. It would be one thing if he traveled a distance and rarely sees her, seriously he lives less than a mile away.

SERENITY NOW!

 

[NMBCFangirl]

Migraines, usually.

 

[White Cat]

My DH and I do not argue (really).

I know one thing that COULD cause an argument, my step-daughter's boyfriend. I am just keeping my mouth shut, it is just not worth making an issue of. I have been on vacation all week... the past few days she has been here since Wednesday because she is on break from college. He has been here all day, every day. It is just irritating me. If he wants to spend time with her, that's fine but when I end up folding his underwear I get upset. Yes, he lives like less than a mile from here, but he is bringing his laundry here and doing his laundry? I found what was probably a week's worth of his laundry in my dryer this morning. I had to empty the dryer and fold HIS crap before I could use my own dryer. He also feels that it is necessary to take showers here.

Biting my tongue, just sipping more chardonnay in the basement so that I don't have to look at him upstairs sitting on the couch, eating our food watching our tv. It would be one thing if he traveled a distance and rarely sees her, seriously he lives less than a mile away.

SERENITY NOW!

Pull his stuff out of the laundry and pile it on the floor. Tell him he can no longer wash laundry at your house. Tell him that you are off work on would be happy to allow him in a few hours in the evening. Very easy to fix this.

 

[Kathryn Merteuil]

Pull his stuff out of the laundry and pile it on the floor. Tell him he can no longer wash laundry at your house. Tell him that you are off work on would be happy to allow him in a few hours in the evening. Very easy to fix this.

I WISH it was that easy... when dealing with step-children you kind of have to walk on egg shells. If I say something to him, it is going to make her mad... THEN DH will be mad at me. It is a no win situation.

 

[dez1978]

my kids... They are at least 75% of the arguments all on their own.

The other part is apparently I am the husband in our marriage. Like you always see the posts where women are complaining about having to ask their husbands to do things or make a list and they shouldn't have to tell them, because they should see those things need to be done? I am the husband there 100%. And its not the big things like dishes in the sink or dirty laundry. It's little things like a napkin on the counter that didn't get thrown away that I just don't notice or whatever random thing.

 

[Jaydee51]

wash your hands when you walk in the door, don't leave a trail of shoes, socks clothes on your way to wash your hands. Homework, shower, brush your teeth, bedtime - REPEAT.

 

[Kennywood]

Apparently, my foolishly believing that my wife is wrong.

 

[PollyannaMom]

I WISH it was that easy... when dealing with step-children you kind of have to walk on egg shells. If I say something to him, it is going to make her mad... THEN DH will be mad at me. It is a no win situation.

Oh, I get it! - I wouldn't complain, either. In fact, I'd happily include him in social things, but I would not be folding his laundry! I would dump his stuff in a basket, hand it off to him, and very cheerfully say "I needed the dryer, so I grabbed these out for you."

 

[superme80]

"He hit me!" He won't go away!" Basically every fight in my house is over the existence of someone else in this house.

 

[Kennywood]

"He hit me!" He won't go away!" Basically every fight in my house is over the existence of someone else in this house.

"It all started when he hit me back!"

 

[White Cat]

I WISH it was that easy... when dealing with step-children you kind of have to walk on egg shells. If I say something to him, it is going to make her mad... THEN DH will be mad at me. It is a no win situation.

Then the problem is with your husband if he won’t back you up in this.

 

[Disney.Dreamin.Dee]

Lack of communication.
Basically if one person assumes the others know something and then it turns out they didn't know about it and then schedules get messed up or plans have to be changed.