What Biological Clock?

[septbride2002]

I baby sat my almost 3 year old nephew and thought you would get a kick out of this story.

My darling nephew is working on being potty trained. He goes #1 real well by himself - but is very hesistant about going #2 because he claims it hurts. Now before my SIL dropped him off he decided to go #2 in his underwear. He got yelled at and cleaned up and then brought to my house. I figure - hey I'm in the clear because he has gotten it out of his system.

My DN was a bit of a handful last night. Wouldn't listen to anything I said, kept doing things he know he isn't suppose to do. Uncle Brian had to put him in timeout because he kept kicking my car. Just a really trying night. After about 2 hours of this I was ready to rip my hair out. (my patience was a little thin due to my cold). All of a sudded I hear, "Amanda - get in here NOW!" From my husband. There is my nephew in my bathroom with #2 running down his leg. Not only had he gone in his underwear but he soiled them. I quickly underess the child and set him in my bath tub. My SIL only sent 5 wet wipes and they didn't go to far. I had to resort to wet paper towels to get him cleaned up. I'm throwing the dirty towels into the toilet which clogs it. So now the toilet is over flowing - my nephew is half naked in the bath tub still dirty, DH is trying to unclog the toilet and I am starting to throw-up because of the smell and the fact that I am coming down with something. I finally get my nephew cleaned up and into a pull up - I told him that since he was bad that he wasn't going to get to wear underwear tonight.

My SIL walked in the door as I was trying to clean up the underwear my nephew soiled. I could tell my SIL felt really really bad about the incident and I keep explaining that I know accidents happen, meanwhile thinking that my biological clock has gotten smashed against a wall and we will be unable to repair it. I was so happy when they finally left I popped 3 Advil and went straight to bed.

What an evening.

~Amanda

 

[CBRorBust]

OMG! That is the funniest thing I have ever heard in my life! I am literally CRYING because I am laughing SO HARD!

UGH! One of the first times I babysat my oldest nephew alone, the child did not feel well, so he came to get me. What does he do? THROWS UP TURKEY IN MY HAND! OMG I could have died!

I feel your pain! And everyone says, "It's different when it's yours, blah, blah, blah..." WHATEVER Throw up is Throw up!

 

[Miss Jasmine]

I don't think he should be getting yelled at for having an accident while being potty trained. I don't think he should see having to wear pull-ups as a punishment. Also, couldn't you have just given him a bath? I mean he was standing in the bathtub.

Kids they can be trying...even when they are not your own.

 

[septbride2002]

I didn't punish him for going in his pants - his mother did. They have been potting training him for a month now and it is only with #2 that he is having this issue. They have tried everything but scolding him for this. His mother feels that it is him being stubborn and wanting to do things his way. He is a very stubborn child.

I put him in pull ups for 2 reasons - one it was almost time for bed anyway and two I didn't want to have to worry about whether or not he was going to soil another pair of underwear. I don't consider being in pull-ups a punishment but he doesn't like them so he usually has a fit when you try to put them on him.

To defend myself I asked my nephew not even 5 minutes before he had his "accident" if he needed to go and he said no. Make no mistake the child knew what he was doing.

~Amanda

 

[Miss Jasmine]

I finally get my nephew cleaned up and into a pull up - I told him that since he was bad that he wasn't going to get to wear underwear tonight.

You told him that he was bad.

When kids are being potty trained, sometimes they don't know if they have to go even a minute before they go. And often times when kids are learning they are ok with 1 or 2 but not both.

 

[septbride2002]

I guess I did tell him he was Bad but that was what I was instructed to do. I am not a parent and after this won't be for awhile

I'm actually really upset with your post but I don't feel the need to defend myself to you.

~Amanda

 

[CBRorBust]

I'm actually really upset with your post but I don't feel the need to defend myself to you.

I agree. Hit the back button. This was meant to be a fun-loving post, but now I doubt it will go anywhere.

 

[Miss Jasmine]

Maybe I am sensative because my grandmother yelled at me during the potty training process. Kids do remember. It was so bad that my mom put my potty away for some time.

I didn't mean to be upsetting. Just maybe giving you something to think about. That's all.

 

[holycow]

I sorry I laughed too...JUST REMEMBER ....he isn't your child...your child will be perfect and never do that!...LOL

I hope you're feeling better!

HC

 

[Robinrs]

Don't feel bad even parents don't do everything right...

and I agree with holycow, if we based having children on other people's children, we'd NEVER have any!

 

[ByTheSea]

Originally posted by septbride2002


I'm actually really upset with your post but I don't feel the need to defend myself to you.

~Amanda

Don't be upset, it was a funny post. Reminded me of the time my nephew was potty training and sorta "hosed" all over my bathroom! (At least it was #1 and not #2)

 

[wdwoldtimer]

OK I know you're not experienced in all this....but did you ever consider just running the shower or bath while the kid was in your tub? Would have saved the Bounty and kept your toilet unclogged.

 

[poohandwendy]

wow...that is sad

 

[damo]

Other kid's poop is always worse than your own kid's poop And poop in the bathtub isn't so disgusting after you've experienced the alternatives! Sounds to me like you did your best, it really wasn't a big deal.

 

[mickeyfan1]

I hope that the mother really doesn't tell her son he is "bad" for having an accident. What happens if he is ill in the middle of the night and pukes in his bed, is he bad then?

I don't see the originanal post as funny. Maybe some do, but the fact is, it's a 2 year old child, not a minature adult.

 

[CEDmom]

I have to agree with Miss Jasmine on this one. I know you were telling a story and not asking for opinions but yelling and telling a child he is bad when he has an accident is a big mistake. I'm not going to pretend to be a perfect mom but any parenting book will tell you this is a big no no. Try not reacting at all and just deal with the situation. You'll end up with better results and a happier child. DD has been potty trained for over a year and a half and still occasionally has an accident. It happens.

P.S. You haven't lived until your child has pooped in the tub during a bath .

 

[poohandwendy]

I agree...not to mention, his saying it hurts when he 'poops' would cause me concern...at least enough to have him examined

 

[Keggy]

Hey - I wouldn't give up on your biological clock yet... My ticks so loud that I can hear it in my ears sometimes!!!
My nephews have pooped on me, peed on me, thrown up on me, one wiped his nose all over the front of my shirt... Oh wel!! The clock is still ticking loud and clear!!!

Your story was really cute!
Thanks for sharing!

Kelly

PS - Not everyone knows everything about everything - so now you know...It is what you do next time...

 

[CEDmom]

Originally posted by poohandwendy
I agree...not to mention, his saying it hurts when he 'poops' would cause me concern...at least enough to have him examined

This may be caused by the fact that he's anxious about going. He isn't ready yet to want to use the potty but gets in trouble when he has an accident so he probably tries to hold it in which starts another cycle of problems. Again, I know no one asked for it but my suggestion would be to take a break from potty training. Maybe when the pressure is off things will get back to normal.

 

[septbride2002]

The child is almost 3 - in about 2 weeks.

I have asked that this post be closed or deleted. It was suppose to be funny in showing how things escalated on my DH and myself and we were not equipped to handle it. Obviously it has become an open call for criticizing me. Yes - I'm not a parent - and I don't know how to do everything so sue me!

No it never dawned on me to turn on the tub - hence the reason I don't have children. I'm sure you all are such perfect parents and nothing ever happened to you and your child that you didn't handle perfectly.

Yes my SIL told her son it was BAD to soil his pants so that he doesn't continue to think it is okay to do it. I'm not sure how else you are suppose to teach a child to not continue to go in their pants. But I'm sure everyone here will be happy to fill me in on how to do it correctly.

Just forget it - I'm done with this. I thought it be funny but obviously people only want to nit pick every decision I made in the 10 minutes that this incident took place.

~Amanda