What are your guys' opinions on this....

[DramaQueen]

http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=1858126


I found this thread on the CB today about parents reading their kids texts/monitering internet usage and I was just wondering what your opinions are on this topic.

 

[Sparx]

its called parenting.

and anyone can read my phone/internet history. i don't have anything to hide.

edit to add:
i don't think the mom should be upset about her kid texting a boy. lol

 

[GoofyWaterCoaster]

I think that it's a great idea. It's a great way to keep your child safe. If you have something to hide from your parents, you shouldn't be doing it on the internet/phone/

 

[Babyjustrun]

I wouldn't like it if my parents looked at EVERYTHING I did online.
It's not that I'm doing anything bad, it's just like, I enjoy my privacy. If they were to go on my Facebook and go through everything, I'd be severely annoyed.

But on a relative note, my mother was using Firefox on my account (don't know why) and she saw one of the links in drop down address thing was to a porn site. And she freaked out at me yesterday. Thing was, I wasn't actually on that site. I typed in an address to a video sharing site in wrong, and I pressed enter, but I never actually got to the site, as I pressed stop and typed the name in correctly.

 

[HDD]

My mother read all my texts and started question me about everything.
I didn't even do anything wrong.

I personally think at my age its a violation of privacy because I have never given my parents a reason to not trust me.

 

[disneyoverload]

I don't like it for phones or ims, but for internet websites, I think it is fine. The problem with texts or ims is that your friends don't know that your parents may be monitoring you and send you a secret that they don't want somebody else to know.

 

[Babyjustrun]

My mother read all my texts and started question me about everything.
I didn't even do anything wrong.

I personally think at my age its a violation of privacy because I have never given my parents a reason to not trust me.

ITA.
My mother questions a lot of things.
She read my yearbook signatures and then whenever my friend was brought up into conversation it became 'Well you better call her because she wrote that she wants to hang out with you this summer'.

And I've never done anything for her not to trust me. Sure I'll forget to do little things like the dishes, but I've never actually done anything to wrong them.

 

[GoofyWaterCoaster]

I wouldn't like it if my parents looked at EVERYTHING I did online.
It's not that I'm doing anything bad, it's just like, I enjoy my privacy. If they were to go on my Facebook and go through everything, I'd be severely annoyed.

But on a relative note, my mother was using Firefox on my account (don't know why) and she saw one of the links in drop down address thing was to a porn site. And she freaked out at me yesterday. Thing was, I wasn't actually on that site. I typed in an address to a video sharing site in wrong, and I pressed enter, but I never actually got to the site, as I pressed stop and typed the name in correctly.

Did you explain to her your mistake? Parents are often forgiving

 

[Pirate Me]

It's a violation of privacy and I don't like it. :|

 

[TinkerTracy]

It's an invasion of privacy. My parents don't do it (only when I was little for my first computer like when I was 8)
You should trust your kids and I will never subject my child to something like that.

 

[catycatcat4]

I wouldn't like it if my parents looked at EVERYTHING I did online.It's not that I'm doing anything bad, it's just like, I enjoy my privacy. If they were to go on my Facebook and go through everything, I'd be severely annoyed.

But on a relative note, my mother was using Firefox on my account (don't know why) and she saw one of the links in drop down address thing was to a porn site. And she freaked out at me yesterday. Thing was, I wasn't actually on that site. I typed in an address to a video sharing site in wrong, and I pressed enter, but I never actually got to the site, as I pressed stop and typed the name in correctly.

Mine do!!! they go though prety muche very site i go on unless its one theygo on to like dis its annoying as hell I dont see why they watch me so closly its my bro they need to watch. af ew years ago they blocked you tube just becusase OTHER PEOPLE look at beating videos and stuff and my mom asumed i do to.


EDIT i hit enter to soon so here is the rest. Monotoring is one thing but stalking is another they shoulnt obsess over it like mine do sometimes.

 

[Babyjustrun]

Did you explain to her your mistake? Parents are often forgiving

Yes, I did.
Then she left me alone.
It was kind of weird that she freaked out because she had seen it like a day before and then randomly she comes downstairs and was OMG YOU KNOW WHAT I SAW ON YOUR WEB BROWSER?
But once I told her what happened she just kind of went 'Oh' and went to do the laundry.

 

[Cassidy]

its a thing some parents do to protect their kid.
my parents do it to my sister because she does some "bad" things online.
they dont do it to me.

and i agree with tinkertracy. its an invasion of privacy.

i wouldnt do it if i was an adult.

 

[GoofyWaterCoaster]

Question to all above disagreements:

What if you were talking to an online predator, and your parents did not monitor you? This is the only time when something bad could happen. It's good parenting to spot check everything. Even texts to your friends, your parents do not want you to use bad language.

 

[imabrat]

If there's no reason to worry, it's absolutely an invasion of privacy.
But if the parents suspect "something is up" ie; suicide,etc. then they can look. The latter is called parenting.

I know my mom checks up on me once in a while. I have nothing to hide. But if it were everyday, and I gave her no reason to worry, I'd be mad.

 

[Cassidy]

Question to all above disagreements:

What if you were talking to an online predator, and your parents did not monitor you? This is the only time when something bad could happen. It's good parenting to spot check everything. Even texts to your friends, your parents do not want you to use bad language.

if i was talking to an online predator, i would know. im not stupid. i only talk to people i KNOW and TRUST on the internet. and on msn and IM, i only add people i KNOW from school.

 

[DramaQueen]

LOL.

it's really funny reading this thread because in every response on the original thread on the CB all the parents are saying like "yes you definitley should be monitering your child"

and mostly everyone on here says they don't think it's right.

I'm sort of in the middle.
I have nothing to hide so I wouldn't mind my parents monitering my texts/internet useage (mind you, I AM a bit old for that lol) But I think if the parent is paying for the internet/phone they should be able to check out what their kid is up to but ONLY if they think they are getting into trouble/are in danger or something like that.
I see no point in just being a snoop for no reason.

 

[DramaQueen]

Question to all above disagreements:

What if you were talking to an online predator, and your parents did not monitor you? This is the only time when something bad could happen. It's good parenting to spot check everything. Even texts to your friends, your parents do not want you to use bad language.

Honestly, I think kids are far more savvy about things like that than parents.
We are the ones who are taught about it so we would be able to detect it better than a parent.
I mean, if your parents were monitering your stuff and you WERE talking to a predator, they might not be able to realize it either.

Obviously if you have plans to meet up with someone you've never met that's really dangerous and they have every right to put a stop to it!
There are definitely circumstances where a parent has every right to check up on you.

 

[Cinderelli16]

Ugh I hate it when my parents do that! Although they can go online and read my messages. It makes me mad, because I feel they don't trust me at times, and I mean I have nothing to hide, I just feel that us teenagers need a little privacy. But only to an extent, though. It just kinda hurts my feelings when they go through my things, I feel like they think I'm hiding something, which I'm not. I'm very open with my parents.

 

[Babyjustrun]

My parents don't really need to pay attention to I talk to.
There are a total of 3 people that I talk to online that I have not personally met.
They're all from the DIS, one of them there's so many pictures, etc that I can pretty much say 100% that they're safe.
The others don't have as much, but I trust them.

So pretty much all that's left to monitor online is my Facebook (I know all the people on my Facebook, and my parents probably would be apalled at my language on there, but I'm not as bad as others) and the DIS. No point in looking at that, I have too many posts to be bothered.
And I suppose Myspace, but everyone on my myspace is either a DIS-er or an artist.

And I don't text.